We broke up once before and he came back to me saying how he was a changed man and he wouldnt act so badly to me but hes starting to adopt his old ways what should i do should i call him on it?
2007-01-13 06:25:00 · 26 answers · asked by Jme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless him treating you bad makes you happy stay with him. I
2007-01-13 06:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shawn J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would be the perfect time for a diversion.
Do other hobbies/activites to occupy your time and do not return his phone calls.
When you appear to be busy and doing things without him, he becomes curious and wants to get back in your fold.
He always want to feel as if he is in control of you and this can manifest itself in the way he "abuses" you.
If you entertain his calls and make yourself too accessible, the mystery is gone and he will continue to treat you badly because he feels he has the right and ability to take you for granted.
Stop being the quintessential nice girl and don't take his "abuse" with a sense of humor.
Let him know that won't tolerate such abuse by moving on and accomplishing your own personal goals instead of fixating on him.
He will come back if he really wants to be with you.
2007-01-13 06:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a big brother? If so, tell him about it. He just may have a good solution.
Seriously, think about this. It may get worse. Get rid of the guy now. Don't give him another chance, you already did that and nothing changed. If you compromise on this, you'll let him get away with more and more and soon, it will be ugly and you will be stuck in this pattern where you just let guys treat you bad. Don't let him get away with it. Leave him. End of statement.
2007-01-13 06:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by FREEROB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you deserve better. It isn't as if you can change him anyway, because if you can't, why stay with ONE guy who treats you badly when their are plenty of other wonderful guys out there? Come on gurl, have some self respect!!! I'd drop that jackass like a hot potato!!!
2007-01-13 06:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ misschels ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone can only change if they want to for themselves....and even than, they don't usually change in a fundamental way unless there is a life-altering event. If he said "I'll change" so you could give it another run, your 'second chance' was doomed from the very start. "Once, shame on you....twice, shame on me". Don't let him take you for granted any longer - dump his *** and find someone who you feel you won't want to have change.
2007-01-13 06:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that hes starting to be the same like before and leave him....if hes done it once and again he can do it a third time. Theres plenty of good men out there
~LD
2007-01-13 06:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ladie Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You CHOSE to go back with him to begin with. That was YOUR fault not his. You have to decide if keeping this guy as your boyfriend is worth being treated badly or not.
2007-01-13 06:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, if he changes and you love him then stay together.
If he doen't want to talk about it or change then break up with him.
Just remember the original reason you fell for him and/or why you took him back.
but if he's abusive it'd be best to leave him, but make sure it's not on bad terms.
2007-01-13 06:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by blmr0123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him. You have forgivin him before and he shouldnt need two or three chances before he actually takes the time to care about how you feel.
2007-01-13 06:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by its_just_me_218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him hurt you emotional or physical. You have to leave him. He needs professional help. You don't need to stay with someone like that so tell him that unless he gets help your not going to continue to date him.
2007-01-13 06:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋