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Do you think having soul food at a wedding is crazy? And should I ask everybody what they like? THIS IS MY FIRST WEDDING AND I'M NOT SURE!!!!! Thats for those who like to be smart butts.....
2007-01-13 06:09:51 · 14 answers · asked by blackbrowncandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that you should have whatever is comfortable for you. If a fancy sit down dinner is what you're comfortable doing, then that's what you should do. If a BBQ is what best fits your personality so be it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having soul food at your wedding reception. And as for asking everyone what they want, no way! You will be running all over town trying to please everyone and half of the people won't show or won't eat anyway. Good luck.
2007-01-13 06:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I own a country club and handle all the wedding planning for the club. If you are not sure that the majority of people would like soul food, I would consider sending out invitations indicating 2 food choices one being the soul food. Make sure that your second choice is something that is somewhat workable in conjunction with the soul food.
That way you will have a better idea of exactly how much of each
choice you will need. Food is a huge part of the reception. It would be sad to prepare a lot of food and have a lot of waste because people didn't want to eat it.
A buffet is also an idea. You could incorporate some soul food items into a buffet with more main stream items. That way your guests will have options
2007-01-13 08:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by 14b32bbdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine to serve whatever type of food you wish, at your wedding. I have been to a wedding that served soul food.
It would be a good idea to prepare some dishes that do not contain any pork nor any pork grease, b/c many people cannot eat or even touch pork, due to religious practices.
Do not ask everyone what they like because then you'll get 200 different menus and you can't possibly serve them all-- it's unrealistic. Just prepare several thoughtful dishes and people can choose.
But dear, NEVER call it your "first wedding"-- like you're worried there will be #2 and #3... Hopefully it will be your ONLY wedding! :)
2007-01-13 07:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think soul food is the best food ever--of course you should have it!!! I promise you, your guests will LOVE it. I married a Mexican and we had a huge taco bar with homemade tortillas and everything else at our reception, which I obviously thought was tacky and a bit trashy, but the guests RAVED about it--they loved it. I got so many comments saying that it was so much better than a sit-down roast beef or rack of lamb dinner like at most weddings. Plus, it customizes your wedding to you and that's all it's supposed to be about. Too many people get caught up in the traditions and etiquette of weddings that they forget to relax, have fun and make it about their coming together as husband and wife, instead of what "should" be done and what is proper. You tailor your wedding to your relationship, don't tailor it to the proper way of doing things--if you do, it'll just make it like every other wedding in America.
2007-01-13 18:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by imaliberal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No crazy at all if that is your wish. You may want to ask some of the people is they have any special diet needs as they may not be able to handle it, and the caterer will make them something different. Have a happy and soulful wedding and wedded life.
2007-01-13 06:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its YOUR wedding and you should do whatever you would like, and obviously considering your fiances thoughts too. I am having a medieval wedding with food that has to be eaten by hand in the whole banquet style. So in my opinion if that is what you want then that is what you should have, don't let anyone else tell you any different.
2007-01-13 08:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by bushbaby_rsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serve whatever you like...it's your day! When we got married I made sure to ask my older relatives if they could handle garlic. Some couldn't so I had another option for them. But if you do it like a buffet then people can take what they like. The other thing to think about is kids (who can be picky eaters) at our wedding they had a chicken finger and fries option. Do what you like...and remember that no matter what you do someone is going to have a comment about it...so just please yourself and enjoy the day..it's suppose to be a happy one not a stressful one afterall.
Good luck
2007-01-13 07:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by cookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A`wedding is a celebrationof you and your grooms love for each other. If you both enjoy soul food then I say go for it.
2007-01-13 06:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by Gotta Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sure everyone coming would enjoy soul food, absolutely. However, if you're not, then you should either have soul food with an alternative or go with mainstream choices.
2007-01-13 08:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had a stew made from beaver meat, with a garden salad, and with chocolate cake and apple pie for dessert. We were married at a cabin in the country.
You can serve whatever you want, it's your day. If someone else doesn't like it, they may leave.
2007-01-13 08:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋