If the bible says not marry unequally yoked, why do Christian women marry Muslim man?

Question

Just wondering! Thanks so much :)

Answer 1

I am Christian. My husband is Muslim. He is a wonderful man and I can't imagine anyone else I would rather spend my life with. However, there are problems when you marry outside your faith - and God does not want us to have such difficulties in our lives. My husband and I agree to disagree about our faiths, and if children are involved the problem can escalate. I think it takes two very mature people who have a good strong self image and very strong faith in God to make a successful marriage when unequally yoked.

Answer 2

Well, I think the scripture you are talking about is 2 Corinthians 6:14 which says "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"

The scripture doesn't only apply to marriage but to ALL relationships with unbelievers. Most Christians take this out of context and use it as an argument against marrying outside of the church. But it's not about that.
Paul wasn't saying you should never unite yourself with someone who doesn't share the same religion as you. He was saying not to unite yourself with people who are teaching and living something contrary to the truth.

Truth is universal and more than one religion can know the truth. Christianity does not have the corner on the market when it comes to God and heaven. In fact, some of the die-hard Christians who have answered your question have done so in the most unloving way possible. Anything that does not come from love is not the truth. Christianity is not the only way. Love is. There are an infinite number of ways to God.

At the same time, there are those who have given up the truth for a lie. They spread this lie and bring darkness and misery to as many people as possible. They create wars and end lives. Christians have fallen into this category many times in the past...i.e the Holy Wars.

These are the people we have no business being yoked with. There is no reason for us to be. A yoke was a device for joining two oxen together so they could be used to plow fields or pull wagons. It was needed so that the oxen could work together as one unit. One could not go anywhere without the other. Would you want to be joined like this to someone who was completely opposite from you?

So, I'd say that it's very possible for a Christian woman and a Muslim man to join together for the good of both.

The only question is whether or not they will allow their religions to keep them apart. It is sad if they do.

PS I'm sure almost no Christians will agree with what I have said. But I am not preaching religion, I am preaching truth. I also have no experience with the Muslim faith, so my answer is slightly one-sided.

Answer 3

There is no way in hell I'd marry a Muslim man. I do believe that that verse is talking about way more than just religious beliefs though.

Two people can be of the same faith and still grossly unequally yoked. It applies in all areas.

Answer 4

I always thought that "unequally yoked" was the one quote from the bible most subject to interpretation--people aren't a team of horses

Answer 5

Because they're not reading the Bible, or choose not to obey God's world. Any pastor worth his salt won't marry a Christian lady to a non Christan man.

Answer 6

No one of The True Christian Faith would marry a muislim or any one else not of The Faith.... if a woman married a muslim she was not a true christian.... being a Christian has nothing to do with what country one is from or what family one was born into or what "chruch" one goes to... no one can just start calling themselves a christian....There are far fewer True Christians thatn there are those who are concidered "christian" by otheres in the world....the vast majority of muslims have no concept of what a True Christian is.... The overwhelming majority of "Americans" are not True Christians... yet muslims constantly call all americans christians...Why would any woman marry a muslim?.... perhaps stupidity...ignorance... mental disorder...

Answer 7

I don't know of any who have, but I don't doubt that some exist. The simple answer would be to say that they are foolish and lack a strong faith in God (someone who despises His commandments can't possibly have a very close relationship with Him). That would be a harsh thing to say, maybe, but the truth is painful to hear sometimes.

Answer 8

Taken from a fatwa

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

A Muslim can marry the chaste women from the People of the Book. But a Muslim woman cannot marry any non-Muslim man. The main reason for this rule is that Allah Who is The Supreme Legislator permitted Muslim men to marry chaste women from the People of the Book and prohibited Muslim women to marry a non Muslim be he a Jew, a Christian, or any other disbeliever. No one has any right to object on the Rule of Allah the Lord of all creatures.

A Muslim believes in all Messengers and Prophets of Allah. He cannot be a Muslim unless he believes in all Messengers of Allah, among those Messengers are Moses and Jesus, may Allah exalt their mention.


Thus it is permissible for him to marry a Jewish or Christian chaste woman since he respects her right to her religion and believes in her Prophet and he also knows that if he degrades them by any way or any means he no longer is considered a believing Muslim.

Moreover, a Muslim husband is commanded to be kind to his wife from the People of the Book. He also has to treat her with good manners, not force her to embrace Islam, and she is entitled to the same rights that are due to a Muslim wife. From the above-mentioned facts, a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Jewish or Christian chaste woman while a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim.


Actually, Allah honoured the Jewish or Christian women when He made them appropriate wives for Muslim men though these women do not believe in Islam, or in Prophet Muhammad . For the same reason Allah has forbidden a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man as the latter neither believes in her (Muslim woman's) religion nor in her Prophet. Women usually follow their husband's footsteps and generally a husband has an upper hand on his wife.



Moreover the husband most of the time is the one who takes care of the wife and provides for her needs. So how could it be possible to permit a Muslim woman to be under a non-Muslim who denies her religion and makes jokes of her Prophet? So, only if the man believes in Islam and in the Prophet Muhammad he can then marry a Muslim woman.


In fact, Judaism and Christianity ordered their followers to believe in the Prophet Muhammad who will come after their Prophets. Though the Christians and the Jews have made many changes to their Books there are still glad tidings of the coming of the Prophet in their Books.

Allah knows best.
Mofti: Fatwa Team Supervised by Dr. Abdulla Al-Faqeeh

Answer 9

they should not but dont we all do things that are wrong for us?myself as a Christian knowing the muslim outlook on treatment of women can never understand why they would do this!Many muslim men appear attractive but women need to read that even satan can appear as an angel of light in order to decieve

(2Cor.11:14-15
14 And no wonder, for Satan himself masquerades as an angel of light.
15 It is not surprising, then, if his servants masquerade as servants of righteousness. Their end will be what their actions deserve. )

Answer 10

Some women have this domination fantasy...they feel a need to be a slave to some man. Muslim men would be perfect husbands for those poor gals.....