Stop or no?

Question

I was just wondering how many time you say "no" or "stop" to your kids in a day, i've said it so many time i can't even count. I couldn't live without those words.

Answer 1

Have you ever noticed that children learn the word No as quickly as they learn mama and dada? Hmmmm wonder why? I think all moms and dads say this word repeatedly until the child is old enough to understand the real meaning of the word. Patience my dear. They will learn. :)

Answer 2

I started out like that, but decided that I didn't like it. I changed my approach by diverting his attention from whatever he was doing that I would say "no" to. It took a little more time, but I found it highly effective, and much more fun.

He's now twelve and we're still having a good time. I feel that that extra attention opened up the line of excellent communication that we have now.

But, perhaps my approach wouldn't work with different types of kids.

After the first time that I gave him a smack on the bottom, I decided that I didn't like that approach either, so I never spanked/smacked my son. Instead, I explained WHY he couldn't or shouldn't do whatever "it" happened to be. Again, that is just my approach, and it worked. I feel that it has helped him to be more thoughtful in his decisions.

For others, it might be different, but both worked great for us.

Answer 3

I don't think there is solution to that. I have twins and I am constantly saying those words. I have been told to say no more than 2 x in any one situation, then find a time out spot. If you every watch the show super nanny, sometimes you can get some really good ideas from her.

Answer 4

Stop is less negative than "no". You can say these words as many times as you need to, but if they don't hear it in your voice then you're just wasting your time. Speak with authority and loudly. Say what you mean and show them that if they don't do what you say, there will be consequences, i.e. time out, spanking, grounded or whatever is valuable to that child. You must follow through with your commands or they will never respect you and you'll just be saying "no" and "stop" till you're blue in the face. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I live on the theory of reserving your No's that way when it matters most they actually listen instead of just going "oh there goes mom again" Try redirecting their attention physically instead of using a "No" or a "stop" (non abusive, hey now.... just a Look what I have, or that's not going to work, lets play with this). Or use alternatives like "eh eh eh!" "Hey now" ... then when they are about to stick a finger in a light bulb socket you can actually say "NO!" and they will stop.

Answer 6

I read in a magazine that you should say stop or no the same amount of times that you say yes. This most definitely even things out

Answer 7

I usually only have to tell my son to stop a couple times and than he is fine. I don't have to say it to often. I don't want my child to think the only word his mommy knows is stop or no. Also have noticed they like to push your buttons. Like to see what they can and can't get away with.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I hardly have to say either to my child. I can honestly say my son is very well behaved, and always has been! I'm sure my second child will be the opposite due to be so blessed with my first LOL but it happens!

Answer 10

Not that it does any good, but probably about 40-50 times daily. I bought a shirt for my son that says "I think my name is no-no" I am going to show that to him when he gets grown for his kids!