Why is it that some men let their wife's or girlfriends wear the pants?

Question

Ok, why do some men let their wife's make all the decisions and sit back. She says **** and he shits, she says do this or that and he does it? And what about women that aren't even that attractive, why do they get away with this? My sister's a very attractive women that could find a guy in a heart beat second. She's anoid with her husband because not everything she says goes. Where as his brothers wifes say this or that and they jump! One is actually his twin brother. She says these wifes aren't even that good looking so why do these men let this happen? If anyone has any ideas especially men please answer this question. I told her I think it has to do with the man and his personality. What do you think? She's not trying to be stuck up or superficial her but wouldn't anyone worry more about a good looking person who could leave in a heartbeat!

Answer 1

Power in a relationship has nothing to do with who's male or female. It also has nothing to do with people's appearances. If they are happy in their relationship, let them be and don't get involved. If your sister is annoyed that she can't control her husband she needs to grow up - always wanting to be in control can hurt a relationship.

Answer 2

First of all, I don't think good looks have that much to do with your question;though it may down the road when the confident good looking women decide they can pick who they want for a partener other than the mom they married.
I have a theory that men marry a mother. Someone who will make the decisions and at the same time protect them.
Oh yeah, work hard,drink the booze,play pool and brag about the old lady,as long as she is not within earshot.
The only difference is they have sex with the spouse,not with the mom part, but only when she says "go for it and be happy ,damn it".
I'm not saying this is the way it is in all marriages.Some have a 50/50 share relationship and, I think that's healthy.

Answer 3

I am sure you heard love is blind, you could have a beautiful woman with a nasty personality. A ugly woman with a great personality which then makes her beautiful. I have a man that is very strong willed and hard headed and so am I. I wish things were always how I wanted them but it is a 50/ 50.Relationships where there is one person who bosses are those that wont last. It is not that the man is insecure it is that he has gotten used to the behavior of his woman and doesn't want to cause an argument. I know a girl who beats her man up..I wonder why he don't leave. I figure it all boiled down to (self worth) maybe he feels he can't find another even if he is good looking. She broke him down.

Answer 4

At the risk of dragging this into a sex-themed conversation, I'm of the belief that S&M classifications can accurately portray how people approach relationships: dom, sub, and switch. In common use we refer to extreme doms as "control freaks" and extreme subs as "doormats". I've also found that people who tend to veer to one side or the other are also characterized as being insecure.

There are three major influences on a person's approach to relationships:
1) personality. Some people are just "that way".
2) environment. This refers to a person's relationship with family and friends. How they fit into those relationships sort of conditions them to view their romantic relationships in a certain light.
3) society. I separate this from envrionment because the effects are more subtle, and often take root at a subconcious level. Our media pushes women to be more submissive, and men to be more dominant. You can see the effects of this very profoundly in certain individuals, and almost not at all in others. Like the other two factors, the significance of this factor varies wildly, and none of these are deterministic by themselves.

As for your sister, she is obviously a very dominant individual. She also sounds a little bit insecure, so she wants someone who she can push around. The man right now doesn't sound like a good match for her. I think she'd be better off finding a quiet, shy guy, who would be more compatible with her.

Answer 5

Manlaw makes this very clear.

Manlaw states all men are born men and have the power of choice.

As such, some men choose to obey their genetic makeup and assert their manhood in all facets of their life (including marriage).

While other "men" are punks and wusses who masquerade as men and let the woman be the head of the household.

Men who choose to be wusses and punks have already had their manlaw cards revoked because they pervert all that is good and manly. They are not husbands in the purest sense of the word, but do resemble live-in girlfriends with penis envy.

Answer 6

I'm a traditional woman and I wouldn't care for a man with the traits you listed. I luv to treat a man like a king but have learned from past mistakes, this woman MUST have the queen position also. Wouldn't that just be a happy little kingdom? : )

Answer 7

So, the position interior the international is it "in" to stroll round like a hoochie? not confident the position "white clear" pants are in form (except in strip golf equipment per chance.) I actual have a pair of white denims, yet I placed on them with a pair of nude colored underclothes and also you may't see panty strains OR my a**. If I did i ought to imagine human beings should be searching at me and questioning how less costly and trampy i look.... not the impact i go for. for sure that is the message your lady friend is interested in sending..... to each and each his own.

Answer 8

At times this happens more because the one partner is tired of making all the decisions while at work so when they return home they like their partners to make the majority of the decisions, so they are not having to continue to make more decisions. Other times it is because of lack of self esteem. Or it may even happen at times because the one partner never had to make decisions prior to marriage and so do not want to be responsible for making possible wrong and/or uncertain decisions. Hope that this is information you were seeking.

Answer 9

Looks has nothing to do with it. Oftentimes, it's just not worth the effort to argue. Sometimes it's simply a matter of 'who cares.' Others are just plain wupped.

Answer 10

Because some people enjoy being dominated over others