First off, I want to say that I love my brother very much,but he is a total lazy slob and I am the complete opposite. I finally got my own place and it is neat and clean the way I like it. However, my 18yr old brother wants to move in with me because my parents are really in his a** about cleaning since I have been gone. I can't go back to living with him again because he is soooooo sloppy. I remember he would take a sh!t with the bathroom door open. He would also leave film all over the bathroom mirror and expected me to clean it up. Instead of, spitting up phelgm in the toilet in flush it he would do it in our bathroom sink and just leave it. There would be a pool of water and spit on the sink after he would use it . The whole house would stink because his was full of dirty clothes that it would take almost 2mos to wash. So I told him h@ll no you can not move in with me. Now he won't speak to me. What should i do?
2007-01-13 05:53:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stick to your decision!!! Do not allow him to move in just to make peace with him.
Eventually he will realize that you mean what you say and begin to talk to you again. Of course, that may only happen when there is something else he wants from you!
He is acting in a very immature way and thinking that you will give in if he refuses to talk to you. If you are at your mother's house and he is there, just talk to him as you would ordinarily --if he chooses not to reply, then you have done the mature thing.
You will not change him --you already know that. But --don't let him take advantage of you.
2007-01-13 10:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Marilyn E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're regretting your decision, tell him he can but it comes with a price. Make up a document saying that he can stay with you if he abides by your rules which are- keeping your place clean. If he's staying there rent free and not paying anything, that's the least he could do. And the catch to the agreement is if he doesn't keep you place clean he has to leave. So he knows from the beginning if he's a slob, he's gotta go. Then if he gets an attitude after that, tough sh*t. If you don't wanna go back on you word, you can try to make him understand what you're saying by going through his room and giving him examples.
2007-01-13 06:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you tell him the reason. If he has always been like this and has had others continually cleaning up after him it make be completely possible that he doesn't realize what a slob he is. Maybe you should just show him the question as you presented it to us.
2007-01-13 05:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by just curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
really i think you made the right choice and if he is upset about it then he just has to come to realize that he needs to grow up and CLEAN every once in a while or at least have some respect for the others around him,
but if he REALLY is up set about it and it REALLY does bother u u can make a deal with him,
tell him he came to live with u for a lil amd it will be like a test run/ lke hes on probation,
if he dosent follow ur house rules tell him he has to go just make sure that if he oes end up living with u,
that he learns to clean up his messes,
hes 18, hes a big boy now and if he dosnt start to learn to clean up after him self now, just think how it will be when he is all on his own.......
2007-01-13 06:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by m V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just immature. He'll get over it, or he'll hook up with someone willing to deal with it, and he'll forget he was mad at you. The worse thing you could do is let him move in if you're worried about your relationship with him- you'll be constantly on him and probably end up kicking him out.
2007-01-13 06:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get over it. My sis is a slob too, not that bad though and i still wont let her move in. Tell him to get his own place.
2007-01-13 06:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him move in with you then get on him about being a slob. tell him your his sister and you dont even like it so how would some girl he's eventually going to get married to would hate it. he may loose the love of his life to lazyness. (a girlfriend, not you.)
2007-01-13 06:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by DeanB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you could tell him if he moves in with you that he has to clean up after him and if he does not just tell him to move out
2007-01-13 05:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Allison J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares, good riddance. Don't even think about giving in and letting him live with you. He will get over it.
2007-01-13 06:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him carry on with your life. He won't change until he moves in with his girl.
2007-01-13 06:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋