I have breasts that are too large for my frame.
They actually hurt my back and make it hard to be athletic/dance.
I am getting a modified breast reduction so theyll be higher, smaller and perkier. (from dd to small c)
Ive been dating a guy whom I thought was cool and starting to be good friend.
We're not boyfriend and girlfriend yet and have only kissed a lot and over the clothes stuff.
Im 30 and he's 34 btw.
I finally let him know that I'll be having surgery next month.
He now acts sullen, angry, withdrawn and generally disinterested.
Does he have a right to act this way when weve only known each other 3 weeks ?? (my surgery was prepaid and set up before we met)
I get the feeling he is about to disappear based on my impending ssurgery.
What should I do ?
2007-01-13 05:48:19 · 11 answers · asked by TigerRose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1) do whats best for your body and health
2) He "seems" from your description to be acting like an ******.
3) find out if your revelation is the reason or only reason for his mood change. Maybe something else has happened in his life.
2007-01-13 05:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stand at the dock and bid him a fond farewell!! No only does he not have the right to act that way after only three weeks, he doesn't have the right to act that way at all!
My advice is to joyfully go through with your surgery. A lot of girls suffer the same hurtful condition but can not afford the reduction surgery. You are blessed!
Secondly, examine your earlier conclusion about him being cool. Maybe your "cool" indicator needs readjusting before you meet another man.
Good luck on your surgery and when you heal up, dance up a storm!!! Peace
2007-01-13 14:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Blood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let his behaviour stop you from doing something that'll help your overall health out in the end.
He should support you in a time this, especially this it's surgery!
Talk to him about it, list your reasons and ask him why this sudden behavour has come on.
If he can't get youa legit reason and threatens to leave you if you go through with the surgery then dump this guy immediatly.
He's not worth your time if he's unwilling to support something that will lead to an improvment in your health.
2007-01-13 13:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has a problem with you getting your breast reduction surgery, then he is totally not worth keeping and dump his sorry butt.
My boyfriend supported me and helped me through my breast reduction, and 6 months after I had my surgery he proposed.
He is NOT worth it if he gets an attitude like that. Find someone who WILL like you, reduced boobs or not!
2007-01-14 21:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get dumped over that it just means you should have dumped him first! He's being a jerk, if he wants huge boobs that much tell him to go get implants in himself! Then he can play with them all he wants. You do what's good and right for YOU and then wait for a guy who appreciates the person more than the cup size. Be Strong.
2007-01-13 13:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? WHAT? Are you crazy as you appear to be? If he's really acting all retarded because of that, then he's out! NEXT!
Why in the world would you want a man who doesn't care about your physical well-being? What kind of "friend" is that?
2007-01-13 13:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mirch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get the surgery for you and your emotional and physical health it will do wonders for your back and your spirit,as far as the guy goes ditch him, because he should be happy because you are doing what you need to do for your health.
someday you will find a man that loves you for you,and you will better off for that reason
be true to your self
2007-01-13 14:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by photog50 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him buh-bye! What an ***...seems like he's more interested in your body than you as a person. Good Luck w/ your surgery!
2007-01-13 13:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go through with the surgery. this guy might not stay with you till the end, but your smaller, more comfortable breasts will. if he does not like your new breasts, then that tells you he was in love with them, not you
2007-01-13 13:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by Konrad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he leaves you because you're getting surgery then he's definitely not worth it. you have a perfectly good reason for having the surgery. don't change your mind for him.
2007-01-13 13:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋