Ive been dating this guy for over a year. This sounds bad really bad...we are serious, but idk how serious. I havent met his family...but theres rason. He goes away to school and is never home. i have an apt so he will stay w me on weekebds etc. on breaks when he comes home, but stays at his house, his parents work late or are on vaca or never ever home. they are super busy and he says that he would take me home, but they are never home. What do i do? is it worth it anymore? weve had problems in the past but thsi is my greatest concern being that IF we are in fact serious, i should meet his paretns......right? what do i do? ive said and tried everything and for the record i am 20.
2007-01-13 05:44:49 · 12 answers · asked by Leah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok...ive been told as by you, and others maybe he doesnt want me going home bc there is soemthign abotu his family life he doesnt want me seeing. I take it that his life is good, but ive tried saying to him to take me to dinner at his house or hang out there-but seeing i have my own place he doesnt want to. I was invited to their lake house over the summer (he was staying home w parents) but those plans fell thru bc i couldnt get out there, so he does want me to meet them, there just hasnt been a right time....(?)
2007-01-13 06:22:56 · update #1
Maybe not meeting his parents is not because he doesn't take your relationship seriously. Maybe he is not from a "close knit" family.
Maybe there is something about his family or a particular family member that he is not happy with and doesn't want to subject you to it at this point. Trust him and give him the time he needs to feel ready to make the introductions.
2007-01-13 05:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so glad to know you are 20 and yet so young. yes you are still a baby in the way,everything is still knew to you. however you sound real smart. do you know how long it would have taken a40-50 year old to realize they had a problem. you bf is keeping you from his family for a reason and you should know why. maybe you should have him go home for his breaks until he feels you are worth bringing home. it can be so many reason he don't want you or his parents to meet. they may not know anything about you. he is telling them he is staying with a friend guy i bet. you think about it what is he saying to them about his breaks. ask him tell him to pick a time when he knows they are going to be home and invite you over or tell him to tell his parents he has some one he wants them to meet, that's all.
2007-01-13 05:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... over a year is a long time to not have a chance to meet his family.
But then again, there are people out there who have been together for years and don't meet the family until the day they get engaged or something. You've seen that happen, haven't ya?
If it really bothers you, let him know how you feel. He sounds pretty reasonable to me. So try to be understanding. Talk to him.
2007-01-13 05:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you've dated him for over a year and you haven't met his family? Big problem. Forget the excuses. If you want a serious relationship you need to meet a new man.
2007-01-13 05:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mirch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Truthfully what really is going on that you haven't met his parents this whole year....There had to be some time out of 365 days that they were home and you could have come over. I think that perhaps there is something more to this. Sit him down and ask him whats the real deal because this does not sound right at all....You need to reevaluate if this relationship is that important to you because it doesn't sound like it is that important to him.
2007-01-13 05:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities. Either he's from a dysfunctional family that he doesn't want you to meet because he thinks your opinion of him would be lowered,or else he feels that this would constitute a commitment on his part, to you, that he does not want to make. There are a few other possibilities, but don't overlook the obvious.
2007-01-13 05:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a year, you should have met his family unless there's a damn good reason not too. sounds like he's blowing smoke for some reason. insist on meeting them and see what he says. if he says no he's probably hiding something. you have to decide if you can deal with what he says
2007-01-13 05:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by SassySue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you would really like to meet his parents, espeically as you have now been together for so long. and if you can't what is the real reason that you can't. have you ever been to his house? are you sure you know everything about him?
2007-01-13 05:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really wunna meet his parents then spend a hole day over dare or maybe sleep over un till u c his parnets
2007-01-13 05:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by babypooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋