ok i met this girl 5 months ago through a friend, she needed to move out of her house and hadnt found a new one yet so i offered her my spare room and helped her move her stuff i even stored a bunch for her in my shop. she told me of her past which was a very abusive and painful past. she was nearly killed in a car wreck in 1999 and the doctors fed her oxycotton pain pills which i found out are equel to heroin for 6 years, also she was involved in several physically abusive relationships the last was just before i met her and he went to jail, he was released the 1st week of dec. and thats when she grew distant from me now we have sep. and she is back with him about 2.5 months ago she rec. a check from a house she sold and the check was stolen i was able to retrieve the check from a person who knows the right wrong people when i had the check in hand i called her to tell her and she accused me of stealin it. so now she is back with her ex and i am scared for her i think she will ...
2007-01-13 05:37:17 · 11 answers · asked by scottysnaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
end up broke or broken. oh i forgot to mention we began dating and i fell in love with her so now the check i got back she thinks i stole, the dude that beat her and stole her car she is back with and she wont listen to any one she has no family and only a couple friends and they dont really care about her and i feel if i let go this guy will rob her or hurt her or both. am i fighting a losing battle ? iwould appreciate input and if possible e mail me or im me cuz i know i have left alot out thank you
2007-01-13 05:44:23 · update #1
If you're self-abusive then you should chase her. If not, let it go, or you're going to have one helluva miserable relationship.
2007-01-13 05:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this poor sad girl is headed down the wrong path and there is not a dam thing you can do about it, do not even try, if she has an excuse and reason for all her faults and has done nothing about correcting them she is just using your good nature, and will call on you to bail her out just to dump you when she is in a mood to have another fling at the low life. If she really wants help tell her you will drive her to a recovery centre and walk her to the door, but that is it, the rest is up to her, but I will bet you even money that she isn't prepared to do her part and the work, she wants everyone else to carry her, and the day will come when she hits bottom and will sink or swim, Sounds harsh but the only way an addict will get free of their addictions
2007-01-13 05:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better start being scared for yourself. This girl already is the star in her own horror film. Know what i mean? She likes the drama. If your life is so lacking in stimulation that you require a traumatic event every now and then to spice it up? Find her and marry her. Right!
Compassion can be used against you. And it is. Don't victimize your self. Cut it loose. Run toward the light.
2007-01-13 05:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing this persons past you should have gotten into this situation in the first place my friend even though you made this mistake you where given a second chance when she left. i cant imagine what you where thinking when you did the thing with the check, now if she goes against you legally youll have problems with more than two peple and it will mess up your prestige in society. its good to keep away from people with problems because the only thing they bting is.... problems!! i cant help you any further i believe that the damage has been done...good luck
2007-01-13 05:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by cuffmugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for i am a compassionate person too.yes she is in a bad relationship and had a horrible past but it is only so much you can do for people.before you start to loose yourself ya know.i know it might be hard but let her go and do what she is going to do.especially if she is accusing of stealing after you went through the trouble of finding what was stolen for.she is just confused right now.and as much as you might want to you can't help.
2007-01-13 05:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she more evil than you ever though or may be shes just a helpless puppet in the guy's hand.
Anyway forget her. Shes only gonna bring you harm.
2007-01-13 05:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who come from destructive backgrounds often prefer destructive and chaotic relationships because that is what they are used to, and sometimes when they find a good relationship it is easier to destroy it and keep the pattern than to be satisfied with being happy.
2007-01-13 05:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing more you can do. let her know she can call if she needs a friend to talk to. she is messed up right now and it may take awhile to see the light.
2007-01-13 05:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you want to be her knight and shining armor but think... can you really... if the boyfriend comes after you.. will you do anything to protect her.....
tell her everything, how you feel, how everyone around her feels, and if she does love you.... then she will come back but if she just used you.. then sorry man. you wasted your love on her.
2007-01-13 05:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her she not worth the troble you could find yourself in...
2007-01-13 05:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋