I'm 25 yrs. old and went out twice with a girl I like from JDate.com. She's 24 and most of the time I feel a connection with her but I'm sort of afraid to make a move and hold her or kiss her. I did, however, give her a short very quick kiss on the lips at the end of our second date. It was nice but sort of awkward because we didn't have our eyes closed. I wasa tiny bit nervous and pulled away to fast. So, we just sort of stood there and did it but it did happen. Now, she's very busy and teaches high school art while going for her master's in ESL. So, it's hard to communicate at times and sometimes, she's so busy that at first, I think she's playing me but I guess she's not because she now found time for a third date. She said she thinks we have alot of stuff still to learn about each other but said she'd really like to see me again. I told her I felt the same way and it's definitely true and she was glad we established that. NOW--I met another girl online who I only exchanged numbers
2007-01-13 05:32:28 · 9 answers · asked by justellemJimsaidhello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
with. She seems very nice and I would ordinarily love to get to know her. So, should I call her? She and I have been trying to catch each other a few times this week but our schedules haven't allowed us to do so. She's a physician's assistant and I work 9-6. So, it's tough but she's been making the effort as have I. What should I do? I don't want to put myself in a pickle if the second girl and I feel we should go out.
2007-01-13 05:32:43 · update #1
I guess it's all on how you feel about your current status.
Do you consider yourself dating the first girl? Or are you just casual right now?
Online dating allows you to meet a lot of people in a short amount of time, some people enjoy that, others don't.
It's your choice whether you decide to continue seeing the first girl, or seeing both at once.
Personally, I'd look at how you feel about them. Your schedule for the second often conflicts so how often will you ever really be able to see her.
Your first, you said you had a bit of a connection with. I'd stay with her, she seems dependable and she did say she wanted to see you again. Remember, she is also very busy so it might jsut appear that she's "playing" you.
Go for the first girl.
2007-01-13 05:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if everyone is too busy these days to act on "extra-curricular activites" which is unfortunate because that is what brings peace to your life. You seem to have an inner turmoil going on which is what you lose when you finally find the right person at the right time and settle down. In the meantime, these little challenges are just to remind you of one thing; you need this time because your true love is preparing for her future with you so you will be ready at the same time. Neither of these two are the "ONE".
2007-01-13 13:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are not engaged to anyone or have an 'understanding' about not dating anyone else, then you have every right to see who you choose......a different one every night if you choose.
Just don't be secretive about it......lay it out. If she is ok with multiple dating then good, if she isn't then you and she need to decide whether you are ready to be 'exclusive' or nothing.
And good for you for exchanging an innocent kiss on the second date. Seems most couples are in bed together long before then. You're on the right track.
2007-01-13 13:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with dating voth, as long as you are not sleeping with them. when that happens you have to decide on who who you wanna date. until then have fun, and be safe. the first girl doesn't sound as interested by the way. se what dor #2 has to offer.
2007-01-13 13:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by happyday to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a call. let her know that you just started to date someone else. be honest with her. it's better to start out as Friends first. who knows one may not turn out and then you can have another Friend to talk with good luck
2007-01-13 13:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by spencer b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be happy and honest with everybody all the time - and don't accept less for yourself
most of all, be true to yourself
dating is dating. if you guys agree to an exclusive relationship then you owe it to each other to stay exclusive
2007-01-13 13:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by bl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three dates doesn't make a relationship, call the other girl if you want to, but just make sure that if you are asked that you are totally honest about dating/talking other people.
2007-01-13 13:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not married do you think either of these girls only go out with you.....silly man grow up........
2007-01-13 13:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2007-01-13 13:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by $$$$$$$$ice man$$$$$$$$ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋