My name is Angela and I'm 16. My boyfriends name is Ben and he is going to be 17 very soon. We just had a baby boy together, who name is Max and he is 4 weeks old. We have been dating for 3 years now and our parents are talking about me moving in with him.. Is that a good idea?
2007-01-13 05:27:57 · 23 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We have a great relationship and money is not a problem..
2007-01-13 05:35:49 · update #1
I mean living with him and his mom..
2007-01-13 05:37:52 · update #2
If you've had a baby with him, it's a better idea to get married.
2007-01-13 05:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Honestly you should move in together whether it's with him and his mom or not! Your relationship is good, so then you guys can share the parenting duties! His mom could even probably pitch in too! You guys have been together for 3 years that's GREAT! Stay together and raise the baby together! Remember to finish school though! I never got to finish school as a teen mom... So words of advice to you both get your education now! It's hard to rasie a baby without an education! I don't mean to preach, but it's true I went through it, and it's a struggle! Anyways... CONGRATS ON THE BABY AND A WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIP!!! Move in together and raise Max together! Get married and enjoy your lives together with your precious gift!
Hope this helps!
2007-01-13 16:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angela & Ben, Max
Sure, stay together. I have friends that were in the same situation as you. Both 16 years old, sharing a baby. They are still married 30 years and really love each other. Life is a challange at any age. You can do it.
2007-01-13 13:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby its self is a huge responsibility, especially at such a young age. If you move in with your bf, the responsibilities will increase 10folds ( if not more). Your bf is also so young. And he will have to bear the responsibility of feeding all three of you, finding a place to stay, while paying all the bills. This is no easy task for a 16& 17 yr old. Even if the relationship with your bf was good b4, the added responsibilities could take a drastic toll on your relationship. This would be harmful for your child and both you and him on the long run.
It is best that you stay with your parents as you could use their support. Talk to your parents, your bf and his parents about how all parties can pitch in to make this go smoothly for all concerned.
Furthermore, i advice you to seek out a counselling group/service, to advice and help you to best handle this situation.
All the best & tc
2007-01-13 13:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? I think if you're asking us you really should consider staying where you are at.
What are your concerns about living with your boyfriend? It's strange because I know when I was 16 I was so excited to move out of my parents home.
If you are unsure about moving in with him wait until you are 100% positive or married. Why are your parents pushing for this? Are things rough at your home? Think long and hard about what decision is right for you and then you'll have your answer.
**I'm sorry if this is of no help but it's really not something I can tell you. It is ideal for some parents but not so great for others.
2007-01-13 13:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't a good idea to move in with him until you two get married.
Now, you have had a baby together and are thinking about moving in together.
Well, first you need to marry him and then you can move in with him.
You need to sit him down and ask him what he wants to do. If he doesn't want to marry you, then you need to stay home and live with your parents.
If you move in with him, you two will end up fighting and not getting along any more. It will be like your room-mates. It isn't worth destroying the relationship you have with him.
You have been with him for 3 years. You should know by now if you want to marry him.
Trust me on this.
IF he says he doesn't want to get married, then move on because he never will want to marry you. 3 years is a long time to be dating someone. If he doesn't know by now if he wants to marry you, then he never will.
Sorry.
I hope things work out and you two can get married and have your little family.
2007-01-13 13:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very weird! I was in the same situation when I was 17, and my boyfriend at the time was 18. After our baby was born he stayed every night at my house, but during the day he was go to his parents house and take a shower so on... and the worked out great. We didn't get sick of eachother, and having my mom their with us she would let us sleep if we had a bad night with our daughter while she watched her for awhile. So my advie to you, is if you really think you love him, do it.... it makes you feel good knowing that he is their helping you out too
2007-01-13 13:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at all your options before you make your decision. Are you going to live with his parents? You need to finish highschool and try to go to college so you will be able to support your child on your own. You need to have a good relationship with the father of your baby - so if moving into together is going to make things to diffucult, you may want to wait a little bit. You do not need to stay with him just becuz you have a baby together.
2007-01-13 13:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by pierronmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness you are getting bad advice!
Your relation now is a teenage relationship..not an adult one. Honestly though, the chances of you living happily ever after are very slim. I am shocked that any parent would recommend that you move in with him.
2007-01-13 14:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but keep in touch with the parents and in-laws just in case you need help! Keep pride to a minimum and remember you got a baby now so it comes first in all of you two's plans and decisions. Good luck and good experience for both of you as well!
2007-01-13 13:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by HotInTX 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you 2 have a baby together and have been together for 3 years so i say if the relationship is good go 4 it
good luck .
2007-01-13 13:37:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋