how come i can't stop wanting revenge against people, women, everyone?

Question

anyone else out there addicted to "revenge"?


if someone does or says something I don't like ....Lordy Lord, it flips my resentment and revenge switch!

Answer 1

Hey, they don't call it sweet for naught. I was addicted to it when I had the opportunities for it, when one prize idiot sat next to me in art class. Oh, I was queen of the burn back in the day. People feared me. That's how to control your vengeful style — keep it as grassroots as possible, and not diabolical.

Answer 2

There are many things in this world to get mad about, but there's no use in fuming over everything that sets you off or wanting revenge against EVERYONE and EVERYTHING that makes you mad - it's a big waste of energy and it's not healthy. And an important thing to remember is that you have no control over anyone but yourself. Unfortunately, other people, unless they change, will just stay the way they are, but that's not your problem - it's theirs. And it's not your job to try to change anyone, either, because your anger really won't help anything; if anything it will make things worse. You know what I mean? It would also help to try seeing a counselor and discuss your feelings of anger and "wanting revenge" against everyone, because you don't want to end up hurting others.

Good luck, and hope I helped!!!!

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean. What's really funny to do is to go and pull the valve stems out of their tires and then when they try to air it back up then they won't know what the hell's going on. He! He! He!
But everytime that I have done revenge on someone (I mean you can hurt people not meaning to) but if I'm just set in my mind that I'm going to get this person back for what they did to me then something always bad happens to me.
The last time I felt like doing someone like that, they had done me really wrong. Really bad and I just wanted them to pay SO BAD! But I ended up doing nothing and then that person got real sick and a few months later landed theirself right in prison and I actually felt sorry for them. I know that I just sat back and watched them be the cause of their own demise and had nothing to do with it meaning a clean conscience if that makes any sense.

Answer 4

Hello lowroad,

I understand your need to "not get mad, but to get even", but you need to keep that inner rage locked up. Perhaps this is something that you need to see a councilor about.

I usually have a "live and let live" attitude with people, myself. I feel that the best revenge is to live a happy life without these jazbos. Still, you are leaving yourself open to getting burned again. My wife burns her bridges behind her. If you screwed her over; that's it. She doesn't forgive and forget. She doesn't ever want to have anything to do with you. This works pretty good for her, except for people at her work.

Maybe I'm the way that I am because I was raised in a small town, where you can't help bumping into these people, or you need to work with these people. Still, you can choose your friends and who you want to hang around, and who you don't want to be around.

At least you recognize your behavior and your attitudes with some people. That's pretty cool of you, and the first step, if you wish to change this behavior. Best of luck to you.

--Rick

Answer 5

I do understand where you are coming from, I was there, and the big word is FEAR, anyone that made me fear, I immediately hated and wanted to hurt, it was pure insecurity on my part, and once I was able to get my self esteem raised, I was able to speak to any one and take what they were saying as INFORMATION, not as criticism, huge step. so the next time some one says some thing you do not like, instead of going ballistic ask your self is this being mean, or they really trying to tell me some good information, so You have to learn to act, NOT react, as well if you can work with a life skills coach they can help you very much

Answer 6

You have a rage inside that's been handed down by a previous generation. You are so lucky that you've recognized it because now you can help yourself. I say this from experience. My vicious father passed his down to me (it's a coping mechanism) and I treated my first daughter awfully!!),until I got therapy. And with counseling and meds (you may have depression also) you can become a changed person. It has come from your past, but now you can leave it there! On to the present and future!

Answer 7

Revenge is anger...and anger feeds on itself....it's a dark and heavy emotion.

Let life take care of getting revenge for you.....and let it go.

You'll feel so free you'll be sorry you didn't do it sooner.

Answer 8

hmmm...who knows what goes on in that head of yours. You might want to go get that taken care of. It doesn't make you look like you are right in the head. What kind of revenge do you seek? Are you a Bunny Boiler?

Answer 9

Learn to believe in karma. I've learned that people who do you dirty will get theirs eventually. Besides, seeking revenge is only wasting additional thought and energy on people who aren't thinking about you! They've moved on.......

Answer 10

Anger is probably your real problem. Who hurt your first, honey?

Get some help. Hard to change but worth it in the long run. You already seem to see it as a real problem. Ask yourself "What has it gotten me?" My bet is that it's really very little.