HELP! my 12 year old started her period last night and is totally freaking out!!!!!?
We have always talked very openly about all this....I just knew she would be prepared.....I made her a "goody bag" when she turned 10 and told her to keep it with her because your period does not send you a letter in the mail to let you know when it will be paying you a visit....luckily she listened to this advice because she is @ her dad's this weekend and is suppose to go to her lifelong friends 13th birthday tonight.....now she says she is not going and is staying in her room and she does not want to go to school on Monday because she has a basketball game and is afraid everyone will know.....I tried my best to go and pick her up but the snow and ice is so bad it is impossible....It took me an hour to go 10 miles and I it is just to dangerous .....her dad is at work but his girlfiend is there ....and she is awesome by the way.....she only wants me and it makes me feel horrible ....what can I do to
2007-01-13 05:19:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Omgosh, i remember this! I was 11 when mine started and I got freaked out too. My mom was open and honest about these sort of things with me too,but all the preparation in the world doesn't help the "shock" of "i'm becming a woman!". Plus it's not comfortable. I felt pretty yucky and really didn't want to go out either. I wouldn't "allow" her to miss school though, if she starts that now then she'll be one of those girls in high school who skipped class because of their periods (there were tons in my school). Nobody will know if shes bleeding or not... do our bosses know? LOL. No, they don't. Maybe she'd feel more comfortable using tampons and a panty liner then big bulky pads. I think it's time for a little retail theropy! She's a woman now, she needs to get her nails done and have her hair done and buy new shoes and get new clothes! BTW time to have a very serious sex talk too, have you read the pregnancy forums???? These girls are having sex at 13!
2007-01-13 05:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Gig 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would congratulate her & tell her this is a good thing. It's normal and it means she's a very healthy young woman. This is an exciting time, she just doesn't realize it. She scared, but please tell her there is no reason to be! Try to calm her, explain that it will happen every month for a very long time. & that all the other women in the world do not go into hiding once a month, when they get their periods. I don't think that is a good option for her to start cancelling everything. Afterall, She's just like the rest of us! & once she see's that , she may feel alot better. Good Luck!
Also, If you are worried, she will pick up on that. If you are happy for her, then she will feel pride in herself!
& I am thrilled to here that she has a good relationship with her dad's girlfriend!
2007-01-13 05:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you gave her thick maxipads then I can understand her not wanting to go in public. I felt the same way when I was 13. It felt like I was wearing a diaper and everyone would notice that I was wearing a pad. Gosh, the embarassment. Eventually I got over it and discovered tampons. You need to talk to her about maybe using tampons instead. That is a great alternative and it can make a difference for her too. They're more comfortable and she won't even notice she's on her period. Give her Midol for her cramps. Do anything to make her comfortable. As for the snow and ice, she'll have to "chill out"...no pun intended...until you can get to her. Maybe talk to your ex's girlfriend and see how she can offer support. Hope this helps.
2007-01-13 06:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi click on the link below you will see a book there just for your daughter "Growing up its a Girl Thing" and good luck.
A lovely book written in a light hearted way for young girls growing up and as there body starts to make big change’s, Growing Up is a Girl Thing is a straight talk no nonsense book about First Bras, First periods and how your body changes from a little girl to a young woman. A Girl Thing give lots of tips and advice on how to stay healthy like acne and other girl problems. Advice on how to keep safe. Lots of use full answers to many questions.
Mavis Jukes. Is an award winning children’s book author, a teacher and is the mother of two daughters herself, in this book she discusses every thing from first bras to shaving and pads all with light hearted humor, and she share some of her own experiences.
A very good book a perfect first time growing up advice book for preteen girls.
2007-01-13 09:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by malc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great mom. Try not to worry to much. With 3 parents who get along with eachother and seemingly love this little girl, her chances for getting through this in one piece are great. What more can you do? Really? Continue to be there. Explain that menstrating does not mean the end of the world. It's the beginning of a beautiful new world. She's like a butterfly, you know. You guys will be just fine.
(thanks for the goody bag idea. I'm going to use it with my own daughters!)
2007-01-16 09:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by adondeesta1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is actually acting just like my daughter did. My daughter used to wear pads and tell me she started because she wanted to be a grown up so bad. The day it happened ( she as 12) she cried and cried. She thought everyone would be able to tell. She acted like she could not do anything. She is 15 now and is a pro with it. Everything will be fine. Good Luck
2007-01-13 18:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by veronicawilliams1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, my 12 year old started her period last march. She has adjusted well, but there are times when she too only wants to deal with me. Talk to your daughter, let her know that there are so many other young women going through the same thing. express to her that no one knows what's happening unless she tells her friends. Unfortunately, we can understand her pain and every mom wants to be there for their daughter when this happens, but sometimes life makes it real hard for us. I wish there was a handbook for parenting.
2007-01-13 07:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 22:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd indulge her - say she's got a stomach bug or something. I know my daughter reacted badly too and she was frightened. They need time to come to terms with the end of their childhood.
Take her out - buy her big girls things, I bought my daughter new clothes, chocolates, a video. Anything to make her feel treasured and reassured.
2007-01-13 05:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the internet and talk to your child on the phone if you can't get there in person. This is the most traumatic event in the teen years, and it will take a lot of patience and effort on your part to get her through the first 24-36 hours. It would really be traumatic if she has to play basketball with the cramps and bleeding.
2007-01-13 05:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋