I am about to propose but have several questions. I know I am supposed to give her a wedding ring and a wedding band. I'm under the impression that the ring is the fancy one with the jewels and the band is like a second ring without jewels. Is this correct?
I know I give one to her when I propose and one during the wedding. Does she get the fancy ring when I propose and the band at the wedding or is it the other way around?
Either way, I know she gets one of those when I propose. So after I propose (and yes, I know she will accept lol), I assume she puts the ring on immediately. So is it correct that during the engagement, only the woman wears a ring? And the man does not?
Final question: At the wedding we exchange rings (or bands). Is the female supposed to get the man's wedding ring?
As you can see, I only have a hazy idea of how the process works. I would appreciate any help one can give. Thanks in advance =)
2007-01-13 05:02:21 · 9 answers · asked by Mr. C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you pick it out thinking of her jewelry tastes, she will not return it. I have exchanged many a jewelry gift from my husband, but never the engagement ring because HE picked this ring to be the ring he professed his love and commitment with.
The engagement ring she will put on right away, there is no ring for you during engagement, just her. If you are american, you should get a diamond ring. However, pretty much its only america where diamonds are engagement rings, in Europe its usually a Sapphire or Emerald, I believe, so you may want to check with your mom as to whats the best stone to get depending on what country you are in.
Generally, your wedding bands are a plain gold or platinum band that match, this is not set in stone though. If you find an engagement ring that has a matching wedding ring, you might like to get that. I will say though that alot of times after the actual wedding and especially after you have kids, many women dont wear their engagement rings all the time in order to keep them pristine (no fun changing a poopy diaper or doing the dishes with a diamond on your finger) So if you do decide on a set for her, make it a band that she will be comfortable wearing alone without the engagement ring. My sister in law has a set like this and she gets so annoyed because her wedding band looks terrible without the engagement ring because the band is cut to go around the stone of the ER. And truly, it looks stupid when not worn as a set, very ugly.
Your wedding band should be bought before your wedding if you decide to go with the set for her because you will recieve your band on your wedding day and you dont take it off after that.
As for who buys the rings, if you buy them as a set then you should purchase them together. This is because these are the rings you will wear day in and day out for the rest of yoru life, you want to really like the rings. Usually she doesnt surprise the man with a ring like you will surprise her with her engagement ring. If you go with the plain bands they wont be very expensive, its when you start adding additional features that you get into the bucks.
Best of luck!
2007-01-13 08:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have it right. :) There are two rings: engagement ring and wedding ring. You give her the engagement ring when you propose and the wedding ring during your wedding ceremony. She'll also give you a wedding ring during the ceremony.
You can often buy the engagement ring and wedding band as a set, but it's not a requirement. Engagement rings are given when you propose and are generally a solitaire diamond ring. It's not a requirement that you give a diamond ring though. Other options include a birthstone ring or other gem, such as a sapphire. After you propose and give her the engagement ring, she wears this during your engagement period until your wedding.
Traditional wedding bands are usually a solid metal, such as platinum or gold. If you give her a solid band for the wedding, engrave a message inside. Other popular wedding bands have small diamonds embedded in them as well. Once you're married, she wears both the wedding ring and the engagement ring together, with the wedding ring on first.
The thing to remember, as far as diamonds and jewels go, is that the rings can be as simple or as exquisite as the two of you want.
2007-01-13 14:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two main rings traditionally: the engagement ring and the wedding band. The engagement ring usually has some kind of gem in it, 99% of women want that gem to be a diamond. When you propose, you give her the diamond ring and she wears it on her left ring finger. You don't even have to buy the wedding band at that point unless you buy it as a set. When you get married, she can wear both the engagement ring and wedding band or the two of you can go together and pick out a wedding ring set that she wears after the wedding. Talk it over with a jeweler, they should be able to explain it best.
2007-01-13 13:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically there are two rings given, one at engagement (usually the fancier) and then you can have just a simple band for the ceremony or you can get one that has jewels in it as well. It depends on the girls taste. You can propose and just pick out the engagement ring and then the both of you pick out your wedding bands. Once an engagment ring has been given the girl wears it most all the time. Every engagment is different. As far as the engagment for the guy, my fiance wears the wedding band that we purchased, but on his right hand, and then once we are married, will wear it on his left. If you have any other questions, let me know. krisa1981@yahoo.com
2007-01-13 13:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, usually the engagement ring is "fancier" - can be diamond, or other gemstone. That's the one you give when you propose. The wedding band is often just a plain gold band, or could have something on it to match the engagement ring (for example, mine has three little diamonds on it). The wedding band is the one you will give her at the wedding ceremony. She will buy you, and give you a wedding band at that time, too. During the engagement, only she will wear a ring (it's for your benefit, too, because it tells everyone else "hands off!").
2007-01-13 21:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you give the "fancy" ring when you propose and the wedding band, which can also be fancy or a plain band for the wedding. Usually the woman buys the mans wedding band. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 13:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The wedding ring is the fancy jeweled one and the band is the one with no jewels.... Correct.
Propose with the fancy ring.
She wears it immediately, unless she doesn't like it and wants to exchange it.
What the man (not just you, but all men) should get is a pre-nup...
Good luck with things. I truly mean it.
2007-01-13 13:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dave C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the fancy ring when you purpose, exchange bands at the wedding, you still buy your wedding band, and only the woman wears the ring during the engagement!
Good Luck, Congrats!
2007-01-13 13:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well D.C. when my fiance and I went shopping for rings we did so together. I asked her to marry me before buying the ring. Rings vary and some have diamonds on them and others don't, it depends on the females preference. I would suggest that you bring the woman with you when buying it as she is the one who has to wear it for the rest of her life. In addition shop around and don't just buy the first ring you find that you both like as it may be at another store for a lot more reasonable price. Yes the female does buy the males ring but here again it would be wise for both to be present when this is being purchased. Best of luck shopping and in your marriage.
2007-01-13 13:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋