I've been with my b/f almost three years. I love him tremendously, he's a wonderful person and we have a great relationship. However, he broke up with me for 2 months over last summer-naturally he came back and is now putting 110 % into us and everything has been great-talking marriage, I bought a dress, etc. etc. But now I'm doubting everything-What if we're not meant to be, what if we don't work out, what if I'm making a mistake...I feel like I'm withdrawing my feelings and starting to not care anymore. Is this something that will pass?
2007-01-13 04:36:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to wait and see.....just go with your heart....don't think about it too much or your real feelings will become clouded.....if you still love being around him then just see how it goes....otherwise....talk to him about it and tell him you just need some time. If he loves you, he'll be patient and understanding.
2007-01-13 04:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you say" naturally "he came back, like his leaving was for no good reason? He left for a reason. Comming back sounds like it has worked out for both of you. Except he is putting 110% into the relationship and it sounds like you are not, because you are having doubts.. Marriage is a big step in any relationship, you should think alot about what you are entering into. If you have doubts, don't get married . Your contribution should be 100% too.
2007-01-13 04:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard the term cold feet before. But, your doubts sound a little more serious. When you two were separated for those two months how was life without him? When I got married I was so excited. Yeah I was nervous but, it was the happiest day of my life. And I knew that I wanted to marry him. I had no doubt in my mind. Maybe you need more time to know if he is really the one for you. Marriage is a huge commitment. It should be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-01-13 05:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear, I do not know what to tell you-My husband after he met me - he saw know other girl - he talked about no other girl - I am the only girl he has ever loved and he loves me - he loves me - everyone who knows him knows he loves me - even the people who work in the floral department - says here comes _ _ _ _ _ he is here to buy Vicki Flowers again and they say they fight over waiting on him --- You dear girl marry someone you never have to say sorry for - marry someone who makes you feel like a queen - marry someone who never needs to leave for a while just to "find themselves" * you will know when it is ture lasting love... it is a amazing... truly amazing do not settle for 2nd best.... I waited until I was 28 - the wait was worth it.... do what you want - you're the one who has to live the life... make it a good life
2007-01-13 04:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will tell you all kinds of different things, but if you have these doubts now, then ur probably not really in love. Give it some time and be completely positive before going further. Best of Luck
2007-01-13 04:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by lightning14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have these doubts before..maybe you just getting nervous bout marriage..but you love him like you say then dont question it...its the what ifs that will mess up ya life!!..what if it is meant to be..what if he is the one..you will never know if you dont try..if it doesnt work out ...then that was a life lesson learn frum it and move on!!!
2007-01-13 04:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by confused69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is common. I went via the same aspect at the same time as i replaced into like 6 or 7, regardless of this at the same time as i replaced into round 11-12. It comes and is going, yet you in effortless words ought to not imagine about it. If we did not have lack of life, we does not have existence. now to not get all preachy, yet i imagine God has a plan for each human beings in this earth, and we are able to all die after we are meant to. we are not meant to be bothered about it. do not stay on it, and stay existence to its fullest. have relaxing. lack of life is only a short aspect, and after that, we will be in a extra ideal position continuously besides. that is what i experience.
2016-11-23 16:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you NEED to date many people to be able to see whats IS for you, if you only have on flavor of ice cream who do you know if you like another kind, you need to try out many kinds, maybe all the kinds before you really know, so tell him you two are going to date but your going to date other guys to see if YOU TWO are really in love
this you need to do, not if ands or buts about it
you owe it to the tow of you
hey we only get one life, so make sure and this is the way to do it, do not whimp out and date one guy and say OH I love the other one so much, you need to date a LOT before you really know
If I could I would take you out on a date myself,
just do it
2007-01-13 04:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by david s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take his "vacation" as a time he needed to fully commit to the relationship.
If you're still committed be grateful he did this BEFORE you guys got married.
2007-01-13 04:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either you don't truly love him anymore or you are just getting cold feet because he is jumping into everything so fast now and you're not ready for it
2007-01-13 04:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by JennLee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋