I am so alone.............in life?

Question

I feel like I am alone like there is noone there for me. For example if I were to get married I would enlope because i dont have anyone. weddings are family and friends, I have no female friendwhich equals no bridesmaid which is sad. If i were to have a baby Who would I invite to the baby shower? who would support me?? I just feel so alone in the world. I am afraid to tell my bf this because he wants to start a family with me and he is a huge family guy. he know I am not close with my family but he dont know how far apart I really am. I am so far that i am to the point that i would be alone if things dont work out with us. Like I can't be bothered to be in a relationship. I try to repair my freindship with the only female friend i have and it not balanced. She has other friends and bf that are more important. I am a quiet/shy girl so its very hard for me to make friends because i am not ghetto or like them project girls so I feel real alone. I dont know what to do.

When I say ghetto or project person I mean loud. I am a quiet/shy person I dont like to be loud and that dont attract most females to be friends with in my neighborhoos. I have nothing against project people my bf live in the projects.

Answer 1

welcome to the club

Answer 2

honey maybe you should get more like those ghetto or projects girls. you see they have a relationship with their people. they have all learned that family is everything. guess who they learned that from their parents on a parent. they also learned to be out going. know why because they know that what it take to move up in this world. so i don't really get what you are saying when you make the statement about not being like the girls from the ghetto and project. most of our black stars came from those places. you can learn a lot from those girls and how to meet people and friendship. you should be able to know when a person means you some good i hope. if you are thinking that boyfriend will be there always, i'm here to tell you he won't. if you are old enough get you a job now start saving for that rainy day. you need to do whatever it takes to build a relationship with your family. why do you think you feel so alone, if your boyfriend was enough you would not feel SO alone in this world. you better listen to someone, if you don't have family, you don't have anything. what are you thinking about, do you really think some one could love you more then the woman that gave you life? girl family is everything because at the end that's all that will be there, i know. you need to find away to bridge that gap. you need your family until you fixed that you are going to feel alone. you can be in your family life, whatever happen, you just don't let it happen again. you take control and be incharge of your own liofe now, before it is too late. and please stop looking down at people because of where they live. there are wonderful people living in the projects and ghetto.

Answer 3

I know that I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who considered me to be "ghetto" or in some other way beneath them. How can you expect someone to be supportive of you, if you aren't supportive of them?

You obviously have a very negative outlook. How much fun can that make you to be around?

You could be a much happier person, & make friends more easliy if you had a better outlook on life. That will require a change within yourself, & you may need some help to facilitate that. Either a good self-help book, or some councelling maybe.
Hope you feel better, & good luck!

Answer 4

you sound young. I'm 42 and I feel this way sometimes, even though I'm married and have a few good friends.

I am going to give you the same advice I would give myself, or if I had a daughter. Follow your interests and also, pray to God for a good friend.

Even with friends and family, we can feel lonely at times. Go follow your dreams, even if that is learning a new hobby or reading a good book. Hang in there, life is tough. E-mail me if you want to talk.

Answer 5

you don't have to GHETTO or FROM THE PROJECTS to have friends that was a very dumb statement you made.how are projects girls anyway?maybe you should be more like them then maybe you will some friends to-by the way i live in the projects and i choose to hang around respectful, going to work,taking care of home females.how old are you?you sound depress maybe you need to speak to a counselor.if you want email me.

Answer 6

Making friends takes time. Be patient. The good thing about having a boyfriend is that you get to share his friends! If you were to get married, you might want his friends and family to be your bridesmaids. I have a very small family (one sister) but, over time, my friends have become my family. Eventually, people will see you for the wonderful person that you are. Hang in there...you're worth it!

Answer 7

First, do everything possible to correct the things that have gone wrong with ur family situation. Then get out and do things, just be urself and friends will find you. Plus you can always write to me....best of luck

Answer 8

Yah, right. You are the problem. Women like you are TROUBLE. I befriended a girl once with a similar story. She wreaked hell and havoc in my life until I kicked her a** to the curb. See a therapist. You are the reason no one gets along with you.

Answer 9

So elope then. Enjoy the two of you. The two of you ARE a family. Smile and enjoy! : )
Aww..keep your chin up huni and count your blessings.

Answer 10

it doesn't really matter. you are still alive aren't you?. and you still get your health. which means you're doing good. rest doesn't really matters. its just in the mind. don't worry too much, you'll mature, soon everything will fall into place. just hang in there

Answer 11

tell your boyfriend and see how things go from there good luck and the best of wishes email me if you need someone to talk to its
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