I'd be interested to know whether this is now regarded as a bit old-fashioned and the child would usually take the mother's name as the parents are not married. (Assuming the father and mother do live together, with the child - I don't mean a single parent situation). What are the pros and cons of the child taking either the father's or the mother's name?
2007-01-13 04:19:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Quite a few do.. I know my sister's children do and a lot of people I knew at school
2007-01-13 04:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by beautiful_only_slightly_mental 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the old fashioned attitudes, opinions and beliefs still hold true today. The child usually takes the father's surname - provided that he is active in the child's life and contributing to the child's support. If he is only related to the child through conception, then no, the child get's the mother's surname. This is really a matter of personal preference - something the two of you need to negotiate. I am confused though - if you are living together and have a child - why not get married?
2007-01-13 04:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon at the same time as the baby changed into born. If the start changed into earlier 2003, i imagine, then the daddy does not have the same parental rights as a married father might want to. submit 2003 if the baby has the fathers surname and the daddy changed into cutting-edge on the registration of the start then he has the same rights as if he were married. Even without parental rights it would not propose the daddy won't be able to take the baby on vacation. It signifies that if the baby had an coincidence, for example, then he might want to not make any decision with regards to medical treatment etc..as he does not have this precise over the baby. so that's doubtlessly volatile taking that child in yet another u . s . a ..
2016-12-02 05:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is one main difference that may help people decide whether to use the mother's or father's name - especially in a stable relationship.
If you use the father's surname on the birth certificate and subsequently get married you can have the birth certificate altered so the mother's name is the same as both father and child - you are not able to make this amendment if the mother's surname is used.
This may help people make the decision as there would only be one name across all three parties if marriage was to take place.
2007-01-13 09:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by The Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a single mother of 4 i gave all my kids their father and my surname that way it made life easier when it came to schools or doctors plus when they r older if they like they can decide what name to drop if they want,, they find it nice to have a double barrelled surname an it means both families r happy its getting to popular now for the mans family surname to b given to the child if he cared that much he would marry u but really none of it important its making a family for the child that is
2007-01-16 21:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by SARA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am aware it is the norm for children to take their father's surname if the parents are in a stable relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 years, my son (6 months) has his father's surname.
2007-01-13 07:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As simple as the Mother putting the fathers name on the Birth certificate....or if the child is already born and the name is already established then you must file for a change of name! But it must be with the mothers consent!
2007-01-13 04:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my first child, we used my partner's surname as we weren't married. After about 6 months I didn't like having a different surname to my son, so I changed my name by deedpoll - simple!! much cheaper than a wedding (although we do plan to tie the knot eventually.........I've only been waiting 11 years....)
2007-01-13 09:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by haltonmummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi it all depends on what last name you want the child to have. I know a person i knew has 2 children and they have take her name as she was on and off with the babys dad and they didnt know weather they would stay together which they havent, But if your no intending on splitting up and staying together forever then i dont see any problems with then having your parteners name. I think most people do this, i know my hubbys to be mum go married but then go divorce and she still has named the childrens name after him as her married name even though its a different dad.
I dont think its old fashioned as its just normal to do this as it would be this way if you where married as you have had the child as part of a couple I supose its just respect of somesort to name it after the man who helped you concieve the child.
You can always have both last names if you dont want your child to take your parteners last name.
Even if i wasnt to become married I would have my partners last name as the childs last name even if we seperated as without that person it wouldnt of been possible to concieve. But its up to you who which name you choose
2007-01-13 06:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my daughter her father's last name. However, when he wasn't around most of her childhood she wanted to have the same name as me and my family. I think she felt separate from us. Just think about that. I've heard it actually cost a bit to have the name changed. Fortunately her father is in her life more now as is his family. I gave her the option to choose what name she wanted and she chose his. If the father is the type to always be there then It shouldn't really matter.
2007-01-13 04:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pro's of the child having the fathers last name is that it is much easier to collect child support.
2007-01-13 04:53:24 · answer #11 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋