my dad is 61 and i am 20 , may be because we are so apart ( age i mean ) we have a lot of problem but always we have argue and fight about every thing ,tonight we had a great argue about the price of the food , and i felt realy bad my heart was going to stop , so help me i thing i am getting sick of him .
2007-01-13 04:10:07 · 7 answers · asked by pashi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well let me add sth more , i work and i can run my own life , you he some times get angry and some times love me which makes me bad alot cause i can't see asteady way of his behavior , hey guys i think he is too young to talk about death isn't he ?
2007-01-13 05:11:46 · update #1
It could be the age difference. I'm 28 and my Mom still argues with me about everything. We always have. I just learned that some people just really like to fight. I've learned to accept that and even when it isn't easy, turning a deaf ear on it. It used to bother me alot. But realize your father is getting older and he won't be around that many more years. So just take it with a grain of salt and try to get along with him depite his flaws so after he's gone you won't have any guilt. I know it's difficult now, but you can't believe how much your mind see things differently in 5 to 10 years. You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
2007-01-13 04:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when there are constant arguements with a parent, there is usually some underlying issue... like maybe in your case, if you still lived at home and he is feeling like you are old enough to be living on your own... Or maybe he argues with you about the cost of food because he wants you to understand how he had to work and struggle to pay for it, especially when he was younger... like you are now! We do need to learn the value of money and be more practical and efficient with our budgets now!
So, I guess my question is do you live at home? And do you pay your own way? When the arguments start, step back and just listen to him for a few minutes and then tell him that you will try to understand why he feels that way... and that you love him too much to fight with him! That will usually stop the problems... and then give him a big hug ok! I think you both probably need a hug!
It will do wonders for your relationship! Good luck dear !
2007-01-13 12:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's only a matter of the way you think and the way your father think. you have to realise that he is a much older generation than you. i bet when he grew up things are lot more simple than what they are now. so older generation people tend to think in a much simple way than the younger generation people.
your father use to live his life in a moderate simple way, if i may say, but you, you live in a world where everything is changes so fast and totally different from his experience.
may the force be with you!!!
it's normal to argue like that because both of you have different way of thinking and see things. be more understand about him and see from his point of view. then you'll be able to communicate better with him. don't feel bad about it and especially never think that you getting sick of him. if you think you can get sick of him then there's a possibility also that he is getting sick of you.
just be more understanding!
2007-01-13 12:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by daniiisme!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dad and I have been there. We tend to discuss things because we are so much a like. There comes a time when you just have to let it go in one ear and out the other.
However, listen to his advice, he has lived longer than you. :>) Think about what he said and then make your decisions.
Your Dad needs you more than you know, and you need him. Even though you may discuss things don't burn any bridges, you will regret it later on.
2007-01-13 12:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
me and my dad argue constantly... and i mean constantly... and again it is always about stupid things... but you have to remember, you dad will not be there forever....
at one point i got so fed up with my father and the way we argued, i asked him to really sit down and talk about it... yet again i didnt feel like he was listening... i eventually burst out in tears halfway through one of my rants and told him it didnt feel like he was the same person that had raised me, that i felt as if he had changed.... we continued to talk, but calmly this time... we have now never been closer....
so this is what i suggest... sit down and talk to your dad (calmly)... tell him how you feel and tell him that you dont want to argue anymore... in future if you feel an argument bruing just think about what you say... i hae found that so many arguments could be stopped just be me thinking "hey, ya know what, so what im right and he is wrong, is this really worth arguing about? why dont i just stop now, because in my own mind, i KNOW im right"... and you might now be thinking "why should i conform to what he thinks, if im right i should stand up for what i belive in"... and the simple answer is yes, everyone in the owrld should stand up for what they belive in... unless that is, it will cause a great fracture and a relationship that is good.... be the bigger person... go out and bond with your father... have nights in watching the tele together... or go out for a meal... this is the man who raised you.... dont loose a bond over silly things.... i hope that everything works out for you like it did with my dad....i really really do... good luck
2007-01-13 13:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by natalia121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you still live with him you didn't say. If you do move out your old enough to support yourself. When I moved out of my parents house we got along better.
2007-01-13 12:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT FEELS GOOD TO BE DADDY'S LITTLE GIRL RIGHT ENJOY EVERY MINUTE OF IT.ONE DAY HE WONT BE HERE ANYMORE REMEMBER THAT AND YOU WILL MISS IT.
2007-01-13 12:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by K.B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋