Should we care what the neighbors think???

Question

My mother is driving me crazy. She is the reason why I have low self esteem. She never said anything positiv about me mostly neg. now that I am old enough(20) to get away from her. Meaning I spend the nigth mostly with my bf she gets upset saying it is disrespectful and how I am embarassing them and how i am the only one in my negihborhood staying out all night or coming in early morning. I dont care what the neighbors think i dont know why she care she dont talk to them. But she is obssessed with them. She always looking out the window like neighborhood watch. she got me hating them people. She always talk about them but never talk to them then tell me how I am giving them something to talk about when in reality I am trying to get the F*** away from her. Trust me she is driving me insane.
Why I wont move out??? Because rent is high in NYC and retail jobs dont pay well and I have not much work experience to get an office job. But do you think what the neighors think is important???

Answer 1

It isn't the neighbors who are important but your mother. She is providing you with a supposedly rent free home, meals, and you are using her. If you live in your mothers home ,whatever your age, you live by her rules. If you don't like her rules, go live on your own, pay your own bills, and live by your own rules.

Answer 2

F*ck the neighbors! You need to move to another state, far away from mom. This doesn't mean you need to break all ties with her. Just get a fresh start someplace where she can't come barging into your life whenever she wants. It's time to cut the cord and move mom out of your life. Move someplace far enough away to make it inconvenient for her to just "pop-in" for a visit. Maybe someplace warm, like South Carolina or Florida. You said you work in Retail. That's cool because you can work in retail anywhere in the country. Just pick someplace you think you would like to move and decide to do it. The bottom line is you can always move back after a six months or a year. It doesn't have to be a permanent thing. Just long enough to get both you and mom used to living apart from one another. In the meantime, quit worrying about the stupid, nosey f*ckin neighbors!

Answer 3

No it matters not what the neighbors think. But you live with your mother and as long as your under her roof you do owe her some respect. As for moving out... perhaps you could move further away where the cost of living isn't so high and you can maintain yourself.

Answer 4

Oh no you shouldn't care about what the neighbors think.
You do have to care about what your parents think. It is their house, they pay for it with their hard earned dollars. Move out , and if you are unable to do that now, then get a job and start preparing the move. Your duty is to respect your parents while you live with them!

Answer 5

I think that as long as you live under your mother's roof nothing will change. Who cares what anyone thinks? It's the situation you are in that is harming you. Are you in college? Perhaps this would help you get enough education to earn enough money to move on. But, remember, you are in your mother's house and nothing is going to change but you.

Answer 6

you already know your mother is like that then why you have to do something when you know exactly she doesn't like it...?
for as long as you still live with her then you have to follow the rule in her house. forget about the neighbor, they are not the one who raised you, it's your mom that you need to listen to.
if you do things that makes her happy then you shouldn't hear any bad comment about you from your mother. be more respecful to her then she'll respect you in return!
may the force be with you!!!

Answer 7

You have a choice, respect your mother or move out.

Answer 8

Go back to school and get a career