i found out he is/was cheating, he confessed after i found some strange text messages in his phone, i told him it was over but it seems like he just doesn't want to accept that, he won't stop callin and tellin me he made a mistake and he had no reason to do wat he did and that i'm the women he wants, i know i'm strong enough to hold my own but after being together for 3+years i don't know if i won't fall for him again, tell me how can i be rid of him? or if i should,
2007-01-13 03:40:37 · 16 answers · asked by kay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's YOUR life. You make the rules. Too many weak women allow themselves to be mistreated and almost come to expect it. You are worthy of love -that includes respect. It's almost as if it's safer to hang out with a loser because you know what to expect- WRONG. Stick to it. Kick him to the curb. If you take him back you will be settling for less. Tell him thank you for teaching you that you are worth more. Now, if he'd please buy a clue and stop annoying you, you'd appreciate it. You won't gain anything by being mean- being honest does way more damage.
Don't get involved in any conversation- you don't need to talk about it. If they cheat once- it's in their blood. They will change and it's usually for the worse. Good luck & God bless!
2007-01-13 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by skayrkroh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I called to ask what the deal is wit the phone , you dont return calls or emails ... If I say I need to talk to you , then you should rspnd . Damn what is the point of having a phone ... You are basically scared to talk to me not to mention I have told u a thousand times now I m not interested in a relationship either so what is your problem.. Your a coward and thats fine but dont try to blast me here like I m the jerk ... Chek it if you call once then all this is avoided ... ***** seven months of your B S I call to make sure u ok and obviously your not cause your a jerk still so dont bother yourself with me B bitter for you dumpin me .....
2007-01-13 03:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can block him from your phone, and keep on aviod talking to him. if he still persists, threaten him... do you have any big brothers or "uncles" who would gladly make sure he doesnt even talk to you? that works... but if he STILL persists after getting a beating, maybe you should talk with him... any women can be strong enough to not fall for a man if they tried, so i know you will be able to make the right decisions...
good luck, and remember sometimes it is good to have older brothers and guys who will look after you...
if you really think he is trully sorry, let him back in but with a warning. like if you EVER EVER EVER find him cheatign again ( and you will if he does...) he will gone in a heartbeat and you will NEVER speak to him again and will set your uncles on him, or something like that to give him a heads up...
2007-01-13 03:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by kallissa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people do make mistakes. you are the only one that can tell whether he learnt from it or not.
If you don't feel that you can trust him anymore-don't start the relationship up again-change your phone # or exchange phones with a friend or family member for a while-tell them to tell him that the # is not yours anymore.
At the end of the day-it is your choice.
2007-01-13 03:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by singsong 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing says you have to answer the phone when he calls. You may be the woman he wants but since he cheated, is he the man you want? Probably not because the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
2007-01-13 03:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you believe him or not. It's hard to trust someone after they have cheated. How much do you want this relationship to make it? Don't jump into anything without thinking long and hard.
2007-01-13 03:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already are thinking of going back with him and are enjoying the drama. if you truly didn't want him anymore you'd threaten to put out a restraining order.
2007-01-13 03:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRRG! Just don't answer the damned phone or go ahead and take him back since you know you want to do that. Don't look for justification from us to be stupid.
2007-01-13 03:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay when he calls don't answer
And if you do say:
Cheating-Bastard: I'm so sorry bla bla...
You: Leave me alone I'm not interested goodbye
And slam the phone
2007-01-13 03:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by Majsen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should. You're going to have be stronger and tougher - as much as it takes for him to get the message.
2007-01-13 03:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋