My sisters daughter is 19 and she is scare to have sex with her boyfriend because she is scared that it will hurt too much. Her boyfriend tried everything but she still wont do it. How do we tell her that it isnt that scary.
2007-01-13 03:01:25 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if the young lady doesn't want to have sex right now she shouldn't why do people think virginity is an infliction you have to get out of the way ???
2007-01-13 03:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by wildirishrose19522000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell her its not that scary....you wait until she is ready. Believe it or not, losing your virginity is a very serious topic. So if shes not ready no amount of charm will lore her. When she is confidant and when she has thought about it long enough she'll make a decision, because in the end its her choice.
2007-01-13 03:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by blufiah_tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is a gentle situation for me. I by no skill even had an danger to lose it until eventually i replaced into 21, and finally did at 22. It wasn't a lot that i had to, yet I resent that I by no skill had a decision about it. truly on account that human beings in my age team (those that grew up interior the '80s) supposedly grew up in a decadent era.
2016-11-23 15:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a sister who has a daughter who is 19, then you must be an adult...and as an adult i dont think you want to encourage your sisters daughter to do things against her will, expecially losing her virginity.
Tell her boyfriend to stop pressuring her, and back out of your sisters buisness. Image how hard it is on her daughter.
2007-01-13 03:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant understand why all of u are in such a hurry for her to loose her virginity....what are ur interests in that and more so the interest in geting her boyfrined force her into something that she is not a party too.
more than scared she seems to be sensible, to give it to her husband most probably or wants to take her time and decision. so all of u back out and stop acting like pimps.
if u all wish so much that her boyfriend satisfies himself, why dont one of u voulunteer instead, since u are all not scared.
2007-01-13 04:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by smile2u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on she's only 19 its not mandatory for her to loose virginity. And i think she's not ready for it. so just give her some time & yell her boy friend not to force her in this because if i were @ her place i would definitely not have sex with a guy who would all the time try to convince me to have sex. because love is not about having sex only there's more to it.
2007-01-13 03:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by nabila n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T--If I was the boyfriend I would be gaining her confidence and making her relaxed......she afriad because---it might hurt or it being pushed on her --bottom line -ITS HER VIRGINITY.......i 'VE done this before its about caring and making sure SHE feels COMFORTABLE not you guys.....kiss her in the right spot{s}....let her get off..until shes' ready it will take a number of times..get her hot.....and Don't say anything and If she means anything to you........things WILL work them selves out.but telling people isn't the way ----its about relationship and love.SO he hasn't tried everything,enough or the the right approach...and the best way to try is stop trying -OK bb love yas' oh buy her like a diamond- and give her committment:)
2007-01-13 03:19:27 · answer #7 · answered by Smith & Jones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to leave her alone. she will do what she thinks is right and thats what really matters. if shes uncomfertable with the subject, give her some time, eventually she'll come around. another problem is that she might just be scared that everyone knows about it. Personally, if i was 19, i wouldnt want my mother or my mothers sister or my siblings or grandparents or whoever else knows, to know about this. its her buisness and her decision, she'll do what she wants when shes ready.
2007-01-13 06:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a big issue over a small tissue!!!
Don't force - time is not ripe! Let her go with the flow and after all she may be orthodox so her feelings must be respected.
She must be making excuses because she wants to preserve herself for her spouse on her suhaag raat (wedding nite and not before) She is right!
Take a lesson from her in this aids ka zamana!
2007-01-13 03:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Priti Prabhune nee:Dona Barretto 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is she prepared at 19 to have sex? Is she prepared physically, emotionally, etc? Is she willing to face the consequences of her actions? Is she mature enough to deal with them? How will having sex affect the rest of her life? I think she - and her family - need to address these questions first before she does it (or is encouraged to do it).
2007-01-13 03:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋