I don't think other girls are smarter than me,but I think men are,so when I meet difficulties,I will turn to men as if i don't have a brain.I talk softly in front of them,and what's worse,I think as a girl I should listen to male.I know I don't have to act like that coz now men and women are equal,but I can't help.Maybe it's a culture thing coz in my hometown(not every part of China),women are looked down on,people think women are useless,although they work very hard .And,when there are guests,we can't even eat with men at the same table.My friends who came from big city like Beijing and Shanghai said they couldn't believe this but it's true,and it strongly affects me.I think maybe i should be more confident of myself
2007-01-13 02:53:22 · 17 answers · asked by ♡Ling♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
China is not a rough place for women!I'm from Beijing, China, and I've never felt the way that the asker has felt.And I think it can only happen in few provinces or villages in China. It may happen 50 years ago in China!
2007-01-13 03:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have always felt so sorry for women who live in countries like that. that kind of culture has had the wrong affect. once you have been treated like that of someone in the family, it leaves an impact on you that may never go away. men are not superior. in fact men who do this are so out of touch that they should be punished. hold your head up, and do what you want. never ever let a man or anybody make you feel small again.. they made that mistake. you didnt. show them just how smart you are. and eat what you want, and where you want. i think its the men who need the power and confidence. dont give it to them.......good luck
2007-01-13 03:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by whohsaltheanswrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need some experience outside of your native culture. Take an extended trip or take a semester or two overseas. If you are unable to travel, even for a short period of time, try to find more friends who behave in a way you would like to behave and let there influence inspire you. As far as talking to men, you shouldn't "act" any certain way just because you feel it is expected. Be honest and strong, and make sure to be with a man who respects that.
2007-01-13 03:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by Belzner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to overcome the predjudices of some small towns in China, but if you are living in a more progressive place at this time, I think that you need to be aware that women are equal to men. Psychological research has proven this time after time. The predjucices of your hometown has harmed you if you can't speak up for yourself, and hold your head up proudly in any group of people. If you can't overcome this, seek help from wise people.
2007-01-13 03:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by panwillow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you come from a culture which still represses women. It is very disheartening for me as a woman to know that another woman feels like you do. But know in your heart that you are just as good and just as smart as any man! I think you should really give yourself more credit. You do have a brain and like you said you are just as smart as any other woman; don't see men as so superior!
2007-01-13 03:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable that this is part of your culture, jthe way that you wer raised. You should deffinatly know we are equally educated and their are some things men are naturally better at and vise versa. Depending on where you currently live this would be okay. For me I dont enjoy men putting them selves on a pedistol. In the U.S. its not this way so I couldnt imagine living in a culture this way.
2007-01-13 03:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by dork 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I hear, China is a really rough place for women. I would say to start being your own person and do what you want, but if it's part of culture then problems may arise.
2007-01-13 02:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by nshappe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know who you are and what your are capable of Hon. No one else can take that away from you, despite the culture. One day, you will have to use your abilities to save the day and then they will appreciate you. Until that happens, hang in there. Because I know what you are capable of, it's just a shame that men are so self centered that they cannot admit this.
2007-01-13 03:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tori M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just read the questions you asked before.
You must have been extremely bored to ask questions like that.
If you feel women, like you yourself, are not well treated where you live, then move to big cities where you can do so much better. I honestly feel bad for you.
2007-01-13 03:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by OS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be condfident of your own talents, everyone is unsure. Some men find it difficult to ask women for advice because they feel they will look weak, the fact is that their pride is their weakness.
Turn to whoever you feel will know the answer and stand up for yourself.
2007-01-13 02:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋