Im gonna try and sum up my situation. This girl has liked me for almost as long as i can remember, i was a complete jackass to her for a time (thats not what im asking about though). About 7 months ago i realized that i actually liked her, the problem was i was leaving to be a foriegn exchange student in 1 month for a year. I told her i liked her, and we agreed that wed see what to do once i get back. And for now see other people. She has been dating this jackass, and she keeps saying if i hadnt left her, it would be me and not him, but she says it all the time, and im really startin to feel guilty, its almost like she expects me to regret coming here (Chile). And that is something i cant do, cause this has been the experience of my life, but should i feel guilty about coming here and leaving her, because i do really like her.
2007-01-13 02:07:20 · 13 answers · asked by The quiet one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ABSOLUTELY NOT You did the right thing 100%~ and not often I can say that. C'mon so you liked each other...you'll look back on this experience in Chile..(which btw ..I am soo jealous) and you'll remember how much life you lived visiting other places. Look...you two can get together somewhere down the line. It's not your fault she chose an ******..but even better for you..cuz when you get back that will only put you higher up on the "good guys to date" list..... Loooook...you would totally have regretted staying for this chic..and always wondering about Chile!!!! Woohoo!!! Have fun!!!
2007-01-13 02:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty at all. It's all on her. If she really liked you then she would have waited for you. So it's her fault not yours. I would tell her that. If I was you I would forget about her. I mean once you do go back home to see her and if she does decided to date you and break it off with this jackass who's to say she's not going to cheat on you or not wait for you again. If something happened that you had to go away again for any reason. Do you really think after what she has just done that she will wait for you and not move on to the next guy and later on say that it was all your fault again. No screw that. She would expect you to wait on her. What's the difference. All I'm saying is maybe you should think about it. Good Luck. And remember everything will work out in the end. It always does.
2007-01-13 02:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel guilty. Going to Chile is an experience that can't be duplicated or repeated. This girl shouldn't be trying to make you feel bad for making a positive move in your life. I could understand if you had a relationship going, you left for Chile and now things are getting complicated. But that was not the case right? So, although I don't want to water-down your feelings for this young lady, you should concentrate on your time in Chile and not lament on what you can't change. You're already gone and she already has a man! Enjoy your time and be proud of yourself! I wish I were in Chile! It's winter over here!
2007-01-13 02:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's playing with you and not being considerate that you're far away, something that she was aware would happen. Consider that she is showing a character flaw that will only make your life harder if you become involved with her. You are being given a gift though you may not realize it: someone with whom you could have become intimate and given much of yourself to has taken off the mask and shown what she is really like. Enjoy your experience in Chile. You will not return the same person. You will look back on this exchange program as something that greatly enriched your life, changed your perspective on things, brought you new friends and new feelings--and this girl will only be a little blip on the screen of her life. Leave her to herself and her (temporary) new found love, and don't allow yourself to be emotionally manipulated. Good luck.
2007-01-13 02:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Antonio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you were a complete jackass...tell her that your sorry 4 it and mayb she will stop trying 2 make u feel guilty. thats her plan 2 make u feel guilty and then 4 u 2 ask her out and she will dump the other dude straight away...she's just trying to make you feel guilty..and its working by the looks of it
2007-01-13 02:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for u but it's not ur fault that u left!! well u wanted to!! but when u get back there will be another girl who is perfect and ull realize that it wasnt meant to be and if youd've gone out with the girl ur talking about, u wouldve never met the perfect girl for u!! there are many fish in the sea and one of them is perfect for u
2007-01-13 02:13:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 15:50:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be guilty because its not your fault that she was attracted to the other guy. Also, if you guys are really meant to be, then whatever happens, you'll be together. Who knows, maybe after a year, you'll both realize that you guys are soulmates ^_^
2007-01-13 02:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by shelly_cute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just reminding you of what you left.
she had to get on with her life (as i suppose you did in the year you were away)
as for the guilt.............
no you shouldnt feel guilty
Time to pick yourself up and move on
good luck
2007-01-13 02:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Listen you wanted to do this, so you should have. You didn't do anything wrong. She will date you when you get back.
2007-01-13 02:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋