..really a relationship?...If whenever he wants to have sex should we ALWAYS do it..even when i don't want to... i personally don't want to..the relationship is still young, so what should i do?
2007-01-13 01:38:00 · 22 answers · asked by prettypebbles_7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then don't when someone loves you they respect you and your decisions.If you let it be his way all the time thats how it will allways be and vice versa.And if the relationship is that young you would be better off not having sex yet because sometimes that comlicates things if the relationship does not work out like a child or unwanted std.Stick to what you want and believe in.
2007-01-13 01:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship based on sex isn't a relationship at all, it's just a "get together with someone you like" to get a feeling, to me it sounds like he's not really together with you to find love and the person he wants to be with, you're just there to make him feel good. Don't always do it when he wants it, if you think the relationship is still too young to be having sex then tell him that "i'm just not ready yet" he will try to get you to but stick by what you say and see what he says...if he gets mad or tries to force it on you, then i'm sorry but he's not in the relationship for love, he's in it to satisfy himself. If he understands and is willing to wait until you are ready, hold on to him because he just might be worth it. Good luck and God Bless
2007-01-13 10:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by ~*.:Kyla:.*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are very different in how often you need it. That does make it hard to reconcile things in the bedroom.
I don't think you have much if all you have is sex. Sure, it needs to be there but really it's just a barometer. Sex really just tells us how the rest of the relationship is doing. It's not meant to be the whole deal.
I think it's OK to give in once and awhile. I usually find I can get into it even when I wasn't in the mood going in, but if you find you are doing quite a lot if that then something is really wrong. You shouldn't be feeling like nothing but his toy.
If your relationship is new, you may find later that you really don't have one. Sex isn't a relationship. It's just sex. It's meant to express the deeper feelings of love and caring. I just didn't hear you mention those.
2007-01-13 09:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly have nothing in common but sex, end it now before he gets too comfortable with the situation and dumps you for a new experience, which is likely to be in about 6 months after your relationship started and you will end up feeling not only hurt, but used.
If he really likes you for you, you should be able to end the sex and request a real relationship now, telling him that the sex has been getting in the way of really getting to know each other and state that is not what you want (unless that really is all you want); at least you would now know the truth if he exits but it will be on your terms, not his.
2007-01-13 09:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off a relationship should not be based on sex, whether it's a young or a mature relationship. 2ndly, you should not have sex with him just because he wants 2. You both should have an understanding that you do it when you both feel like,that way it's better. he also shouldnt force you if you don't want to.
2007-01-13 09:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young. Maybe you shouldn't be having sex in the first place, especially if you don't want to. No relationship should be based on sex alone, that's nonsense. You have to respect yourself and stop allowing him to treat you like an object. Have some dignity. You are not his whore! Don't let him treat you like one.
2007-01-13 09:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Flora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a sex-based relationship with this one person that's lasted over 24 years! That's longer than both our marriages.
2007-01-13 10:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Dippy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have sex if you both want it, not if only one of your does. At the same time, you may never seem to be in the mood, so to break out of that cycle, let him touch you to see how your body reacts. Sometimes, you may feel like your not in the mood, but once the bodies touch, your in the mood.
If you want to wait for the relationship to grow more, then do so if your not ready. You shouldn't feel forced.
2007-01-13 09:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is not base on sex. He should repect your wishes if you don't want to have sex every time he want it. If your relationship is still young you need to take your time not rush into something you don't want to do. If he can't repect that than you need to leave him alone because if he can't get it like he want to, he might get it somewhere else.talk to him tell him how you feel and if he can't repect that you going to have to decide what to do?
2007-01-13 10:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by msredbonel1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not based on sex its based on love. When two hearts are one not just sex a real relationship is a real relationship love when you love eachother thats a real relationship.
2007-01-13 09:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by kabir_fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋