My ex-boyfriend now friend is trying to force me to do a threesome. I think that when you participate in a threesome it should be with people who are comfortable with it. Honestly I have no problem with doing so, BUT I don’t want to do that with him. I still have feelings for him and I don't want to share him with another girl. He also knows that this is uncomfortable for me and still begs me to do it. Maybe I am blowing this all out of proportion, but if you truly care for someone and you knew that certain sexual acts made them uncomfortable would you still ask/ try to force them to do it?
2007-01-13 01:30:45 · 12 answers · asked by The one who knows 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off STOP TALKING TO YOUR EX! He is a jerk if he keeps asking, once, you say no, that it, ok. but he doesnt respect you, and your feelings. move on.
2007-01-13 01:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. My wife and I have been swingers for several years and one of the big rules that all successful swingers follow is that you never coerce or manipulate the other person into do something they don't want to do.
Of course, that's good relationship advice on the whole.
So in short, don't do anything you are not comfortable with. Period.
But, secondly you mention that you don't want to share someone you have feelings for. Don't confuse jealousy with love, or think that the stronger the love the stronger the jealousy. It should be be opposite. The more you love someone the more you should be able to trust the, thus insecurity (which is what jealousy is) should be less present in an established relationship than in a new relationship.
2007-01-13 09:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it only means he does not respect you as a person, only wants to manipulate you to do his will. Kick his butt to the curb, the sooner the better!
Imagine how crappy you are going to feel if he does manipulate you into this situation, then end up hooking up with the other girl involved.
2007-01-13 01:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody should force anybody to do any kind of sex, ever!
if the three or two or 15 people are all ok with it and have thought about it a little its ok then, even then, people should be able to say no or stop
2007-01-13 01:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.... NO! If you care about someone, even if its only as a friend... You would never make them do something they didnt want to do. Thats not what friends are for. I wouldnt do it if it bothers you.
2007-01-13 01:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care for you, because if he did, he wouldn't spend so much time trying to talk you into doing something that you've clearly stated you don't want to do.
2007-01-13 01:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same thing as physical or mental abuse and may even qualify as rape. I'd find a new boyfriend.
2007-01-13 01:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he shouldn't make you uncomfortable .. obviously he only wants what makes him happy..he doesn't care about your feelings
2007-01-13 01:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by The Doc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he beg u to do it?! then why u are thinking about it?! it must be ur only ur decizion...
2007-01-13 01:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it if you dont want to
he shud respect your views
2007-01-13 01:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by hellwot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋