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There is a classic story about the mother who believed in spanking as a necessary part of discipline until one day she observed her three- year-old daughter hitting her one-year-old son. When confronted, her daughter said, "I'm just playing mommy." This mother never spanked another child.Children love to imitate, especially people whom they love and respect. They perceive that it's okay for them to do whatever you do. Parents, remember, you are bringing up someone else's mother or father, and wife or husband. The same discipline techniques you employ with your children are the ones they are most likely to carry on in their own parenting. The family is a training camp for teaching children how to handle conflicts. Studies show that children from spanking families are more likely to use aggression to handle conflicts when they become adults.
Spanking demonstrates that it's all right for people to hit people, and especially for big people to hit little people.

Answer 1

I agree. How can you show your child that hitting is wrong if you hit them when they do something wrong? They need to be taught reason and how to communicate with other people. When your child is an adult it won't be acceptable for them to hit someone just because they disagree with them.

Answer 2

I totally agree. Did you read the question from StrictMom yesterday? Apparently she spilled something and cursed. Her husband spanked her on the butt and said "Mommy got a spanking because she swore" She said she was horrified. She wanted know if it was crazy. I said if my husband ever did that to me in front of my kids, I would pack up my kids and leave. Instead of saying "Mommy!! I can't believe what I heard!!" They gave their kids a lesson in domestic violence. She said that it didn't hurt. Hitting is hitting and should never be tolerated. You can make your child behave without fear.

Answer 3

And your question is? my goodness people are on a rant today. This is the second"question" that is just a rant about how spanking parents are evil. I will say to you the same thing I have told the other "asker" That is your opinion. Not a question.Go tell it to those who have asked for it and stop Telling those of use who haven't how to raise our children.And before you rite me off as a ticked of spanker Let me remind you that I did not share with you weather or not I do. Ya never know I may just be against it too but I am more against people who feel they have the rite to tell others how to raise their kids.

Answer 4

I disagree with your statement. Sometimes a spanking is necessary. God lays it out in the Bible that we need to spank our children. Although it should not be the only punishment administered.

I think as for as the modeling goes well that depends on the child.

Answer 5

I only hope they carry it on. I totally respect your opinion, however i disagree with you. In our home a spanking is a punishment, a event not a reaction. Not that this makes you feel any better. My girls have never said "you hit me" or "your hitting" they know a spanking is the punishment for the rule they broke. I don't haul off and slap them across the face. When they break a rule, their bottoms hurt for a while, but the lessons stick.

I don't relate spanking with lets say the same as slugging it out someone. Two totally different things. Then again, this is all my opinion.

Answer 6

Spanking does not demonstrate hitting other people is okay nor does it say it's okay for little people to be hit on because they are smaller.

Spanking is a punishment to teach children what NOT to do to keep them safe. I'm completely for spanking if I think it'll help my kids.

When I was little I walked half way across the street in the front of my house. My grandma saw me, got freaked and then spanked me. Never did I think about walking into the street again until I was old enough.

I also threw a rock at a car when I was little, my mom spanked me at that time and I knew instantly that I messed up and would never do it again.

Spanking works and it's not even closely related to child abuse. There's nothing wrong with discipline if that's all it is.

Spanking != hitting your children

Answer 7

Spanking is and has been an effective discipline tool for many years without creating a bunch of monsters. That isn't to say that you beat your kids but as a part of formal punishment when warranted it is appropriate and does not teach hitting. It does teach that there are repercussions for your actions.

Despite your studies, which can show almost anything the researcher wants them to show, since corporal punishment has been mostly abolished in schools and in most homes society and schools have become much more dangerous places. The children are less disciplined and more likely to be violent. You can cite all the studies you want but the results of the lack of firm discipline are all around you.

What you really are teaching kids now is that they can do whatever they want and there are no consequences. The result are some unholy terrors who are harming themselves, others and the society around them.

Answer 8

sorry but i have to disagree, i was given a smack as a child not hard but if i had done something naughty then i would get a smack across the leg. i can assure you that when i did something naughty and was spanked for it i never did that again coz i was aware that if i did it again i would get a smack.

i grew up with this discipline and i can say i am not an agressive person i believe that my parents showed me right and wrong and for that they raised a child that does not do drugs, has never been arrested, never mugged anyone or murdered anyone.

i believe nowadays parents are afraid to discipine their children and now look at culture today kidz are running wild carrying knives and guns with them. there are more and more crimes being committed by under 16yrs old and why coz i believe the parents were too soft. smacking your kid does not make you a abuser there a big difference, smacking your kid cause they were naughty is showing them a lesson, abusing your kid by smacking them and hitting them for no reason is abuse

Answer 9

But perhaps sometimes it is necessary to use gentle spanking act to get the child to stop doing something immediately that can be dangerous for the child, just as trying to light a firework while standing too close to it or trying to drink something poisonous out of the bottle at home or outside. There are pros and cons of everything and one must know how to maintain the balance.

Answer 10

I agree =)