Okay, my dilemma is, basically:
Recently a girl my boyfriend's brother knows has developed an interest in my boyfriend, who I've been with over a year.
He's breached my trust before, but it was a situation where he had no control. But I am still concerned.
This girl calls him every day now, telling him he is "the most amazing person." She knows I'm the girlfriend.
He tells me about it like it's irritating, but his tone tells me otherwise; it's like: a "I kinda hope this makes you jealous" voice. He has a way to seem innocent in every situation, so I'm never completely sure.
I havn't interferred or confronted him about it, because maybe he IS innocent. I just don't know. I don't want to pry, but I dont want him to think he can get away with leading people on either.
Advice please?
2007-01-13 01:03:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you I would be sitting my boyfriend down and letting him know how this is making you feel. Secondly I would confront the other girl and ask her nicely to back off...that he is with you and you won't be going anywhere. She needs to go find a man of her own that isn't taken. If he can't respect how you feel about this then get rid of him.
2007-01-13 01:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by littleredd1003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have already answered the question yourself. If you have to ask if you should trust him then you don't trust him already and you have said that he broke your trust once before and adding by something he could not control.
Every person has control over their life and if they break that trust they had control over it, even being drunk or high on drugs doesn't excuse a person from being in control.
Why is this girl calling anyway when she knows your are the girlfriend and why is your boyfriend allowing such a situation to continue, when surely he is aware where it could go if he doesn't nip it in the bud now!
2007-01-13 01:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he had no control on the previous occasion was he raped or lunged at or something, if not then he is minimizing his part in this deception.
If your so called beloved thought anything of you he would not be discussing it at length with you. he is getting off on this dont you see. G/F jealous, new woman flirting. Gee you deserve better. If he was any kind of nice person he would be honest about it tell you what was happening so he is not being considered sneaky, make moves to stop contact and treat you heaps better. We have control in our lives just like you have control right now on how bad this guy is treating you.
2007-01-13 01:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start showing in interest in his best friend. By saying he "breached your trust" do you mean he cheated on you? How can you have no control over cheating on some one. I would be very suspicious and perhaps think about leaving this person unless he told this girl flat out to quit calling him or talking to him
2007-01-13 01:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may sound loopy yet when I study your tale i felt as if i replaced into reading a narrative that i once wrote. I dealt with the same aspect this replaced into 2 months into my marriage....i stumbled on sexual txt messages, declaring he needed 2 be with this lady. I said that he had made telephone calls even at the same time as we were 2gether. I felt that my existence replaced into over earlier it began. i theory that i ought to by no skill believe him again. Laying wide awake at evening questioning how lengthy had it been goin on n in the journey that they'd ever met up n were given jointly. like your boyfriend after confronting him, he confessed each thing. declaring he had by no skill been consisting of her, & that she didnt recommend something to him. She replaced into only a pastime. i nonetheless had that wrestle in my ideas. i am going to inform you procedures we were given threw it... it took virtually 6 months. yet i stated to myself, " If i truly love him and want this to artwork I actual ought to forgive what he's done and flow on. I had to desire and end searching threw his telephone, i had to end attempting to discover issues. in case your a lady of religion you'll believe that what's interior the darkish will come to the mild. God received't enable a truthful coronary heart be decieved. And with that believe difficulty...that is gonna take time. Take it step by technique of step, in case you dont it is going to heavily run you loopy. if you're actually not gonna attempt to believe him there is no want to even being with this guy. go away the previous interior the previous. you won't be able to extremely love someone without believe. Now, my husband and that i are doing magnificent, that is been 1yr 3 months the previous is behind us. it may go in case you want it to.
2016-11-23 15:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!That is really weird./This gurl must totally hate u!No fear I am here.I think you should tell him that you really think she's getting to you.And she's like flirting with you(tell him this in a peaceful time so he won't get flipped out.)Say you don't really want the girl around him so if he could just focose on you more.If he says this:"She is not flirting with me!Are you crazy,she's my friend!Your probably just jealus."
You say:Yeah I am jealus because you're spending more time with her and not with me!"
If he ignores you like "Oh shutup" you should probably leave him or start a fued(by flirting with another guy.)
That help?
2007-01-13 01:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants her to go for it. If he doesn't then to stop taking her calls and stop telling you about it because you are tired of the s*hit
2007-01-13 01:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start pretending to be friend with her and tell her how much you real love him and tell him how much he means to you and if you lost him it would be like dying and she might see how serious it is and back off
2007-01-13 01:07:47 · answer #8 · answered by xhellsxlilxangelx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm talk to him gently but firmly and see what he said. if he ignore to take good action, let go.
2007-01-13 01:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound good, girl. If you can let this guy go, do it.
2007-01-13 01:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Miz Understood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋