my hubby went to work yesterday friday at 6.30am came home at 6.00pm had too go to work as a crowd controller again at 7.30 got home at 8.30 this morning slept almost alll day went too work again tonight (saturday)at 7.30 will be home around 3.30am is off too work again at 11.00am (sunday) will be home around 6.00pm sunday evening, then he wants too go to a staff party at the hotel he works at. this starts at 7.30pm and dosnt include wifes g/f's ect i have hardly seen him this weekend and dont want him to go too the party is this unfair of me?
2007-01-13 01:02:02 · 15 answers · asked by just_a_bitch61 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No.
I have had jobs like that where the hours were hell on wheels.
12 hour days 6 days a week.
When I had break and was offer to go to party by the workers only. I amost went but my wife at the time talk to me about it.
Sometimes people work so many hours they are not thinking to clearly. Suggest something romantic for the two of you.
He sounds very tired so yelling and screaming won't work.
You can great him with only a smile and his favorite beverage.
Than see if wants to go to that party. ;)
Good luck
2007-01-13 01:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh gosh. that is a LOT of working. In a way, I have the same situation.....
My boyfriend is going to aviation maintance school...he goes to school Monday - Friday 7am-2:30pm...and then on Friday, saturday, sunday, and monday....he works. Friday and monday he goes in after school until about 1am.....saturday and sunday he goes in from 12pm-1am.
For a while he was taking on a lot of extra hours that he really didnt need. He was working from 8am saturday to 1am sunday... and then the only thing he would want to do when we DID have time together was SLEEP!..... I felt very neglected. Like money was more important to him.
I talked to him about it and I told him how I feel. The two of us do not have financial problems, the only reason he was taking extra hours was becuase he didnt have the guts to say "NO" to his boss. ----- I also work. I get out every day at 6:30 though, and we're closed on weekends..... but our schedules clash!!
Things are a bit better. Sometimes we have a chance to go out for a late breakfast on saturday mornings before he goes into work or when I get out of work we go see a movie(Because now hes not so tired all the time)...things like that....
Try talking to your husband. No. I do not think you are being unfair. you married a man wanting to spend your life with him.... not so that you could be alone all the time.
However, going to the party might not be so bad. I'd suggest to him that maybe you guys go for a few hours just to stop in and make an apparence....and then go home and have a romantic night together.
2007-01-13 09:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being unfair by wanting to be with him and have a little time with him. You need to talk to him. Try to get him to see things from your point of view and you try seeing things from his point. Maybe he can cut the party short, come home early and spend time with you. That way you both have what you want.
2007-01-13 09:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just allow him to go to the party. That way he won't feel restricted from doing something he wants.
And, when you are in a similar situation later on he should be respectful for your right to go do what you please.
He will be appreciative and will probably go to his party and realize he misses you more anyways. Perhaps you could schedule next weekend as just a you and him weekend?
Hope this helps.
:)
2007-01-13 09:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unfair, but I could only feel how much you miss your hubby and the time that you spend with him. Explain yourself as to why you do not want him to go to the party. But I think its okai to let him go for the staff party. :)
2007-01-13 09:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by th1608 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are. just think about the poor man. He has hardly had any time for himself, let alone for you and if he can enjoy himself a bit at the party, perhaps it can make him feel better and more refreshed. You may sacrifice this weekend to make him happy.
2007-01-13 09:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it is, he should spend a little time with you first just to show a bit of rspect to you at least ,thats what i always do to my wife,i might have a hectic schedule but i will always make an effort to cuddle my wife a bit even if im tired,the homefront will always be a peacefull place if the lady of the house is happy
2007-01-13 09:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is sort of not just let him do what he wants and dont get in trouble with him you no what I mean and then just see when he comes back and then the next day go do something fun and romantic
2007-01-13 09:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go hes had a busy week, its not his fault its a staff party. Okay well i have lived alone for 8 years and i would love a bloke like that. he does not do it regurlly, try to make time to be together another time,
2007-01-13 09:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it's just a one off let him go. But if he's always at work, work work all the time, then i'd say no.
2007-01-13 09:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋