At Times I Hate My Brother-Depression?

Question

I have been diagnosed with depression.
Anyhow when I am low or miserable or in tears I hate my brother (we used to be close until around five years ago) but certain scenarios remain in my head- bullying etc. This happens with other people as well who have done wrong towards me.
And when I am like this I feel I could quite literally slit my brothers throat from one side to the other.
Other times we get on quite well.
I only feel like this when I am low.
Is this another trait of depression?
Any answers appreciated.

I have read a few of the answers and would like to say 'Thank you' to people who seem to understand my problem???
I look forward to hearing some more sensible answers.
Thank you again.

I have read a few of the answers and would like to say 'Thank you' to people who seem to understand my problem???
I look forward to hearing some more sensible answers.
Thank you again.

Answer 1

Hi, I have bipolar disorder (manic depression) and experience very similar during times of depression. For years I thought I lived with six different people - nice Mum, horrible Mum, nice Dad, horrible Dad, nice brother etc but what was actually happening was it was during my depressions I felt hatred for them. Just make sure you don't act on your feeling when you feel low or if you do then talk to someone like your doctor. Depression is a medical condition, it has a "physical ie chemical" cause (too little serotonin/noradrenaline in the brain) and people without clinical depression can't understand fully what it is like. All the best to you x

Answer 2

Yes it's your depression that makes you feel that way. I have it too. I get amazingly strong feelings of violence or anger. I'm not a violent person at all, but I get a little film in my head of what I'd like to do to people who get on my case.

Thankfully I have a Clinical Psychologist, so I've been able to talk through all this stuff. It doesn't always make it easy to deal with though.

When I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I was quite confused by the anger, as it seemed to go against the idea of a depressed person. I see now that in lots of ways it has a lot to do with it.

I never got on very well with my sister. We argued all the time. I didn't speak to her for a year, because of something she said. Over the years we have gotten closer, I think it's mainly because I've come to terms with her silliness and learned to forgive her a bit more. I think she bites her tongue sometimes too though.

Look up "schema therapy" for some help. See your GP if you haven't already. I take Fluoxetine (aka Prosac) it really helps. Hope you get well :-)

Answer 3

This is quite normal...you feel terrible and you are looking for a cause. No one likes to feel this way and not know why, so your mind brings forward bad memories and you tell yourself that *that* is the root of the problem. It may be a part of it, but remember that depression has a large physical component as well as the psychological/emotional angle. Do get a thourough physical exam, bloodwork etc., this may show that you have some organic problem that is making the depression worse. Also review your diet to make sure you're getting the nutrition and vitamins you need. Make sure you're getting enough rest, water intake, and exercise...it all helps.
I too suffer from periodic episodes of depression, I know what it's like. Try not to hide away, tempting as it is, but get out and about and doing. Do something new, learn some new skill even if it's just a sport, language or drawing, something creative that you've always wanted to do. And give yourself permission to get it wrong, remember this is just for fun.
(((hugs for you)))

Answer 4

I agree with Kinacl, I also get depression but never get violent thoughts like that. I think you have some unsresolved anger and thats not helping you. Did he ever say sorry for picking on you? Would that help if he did?
See you gp and if they're not sympathetic and helpful try to get another one. You deserve the right treatment.
Best of luck, hope you get it sorted. Remember at least 1 in 4 people go through a phase of this at some time in their lives and for most of us it is a phase.

I also think that a bit of anger is healthy and will help kick you out of the depression faster. And you can see the difference between how you feel usually and how you feel when you're angry; I don't think you're going to act out because you can tell the difference. :)

Answer 5

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 6

I've got three older brothers, and let me tell you, not all families are going to be like they are on 'Leave it to Beaver'. There's an old saying, 'you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family.' I really have very little in common with any of my brothers, and yes, they did also sometimes give me a hard time when they were all bigger than me. But as I have grown older, (by the way, I'm not that old 26 yrs) I have found that 'family' IS something special. It doesn't mean that we have to be all lovey-dovey, but the fact that we are brothers binds us. Celebrate you and your brother's differences. It doesn't mean that you always have to get on, but there is definately something there that transcends those boundaries. It's natural for brothers to rag on each other. Your depression probably has something to do with your feelings, but trust me, brothers can be a pain in the butt. It is always those who you love most that can hurt you the worst.

Take care buddy.

Answer 7

in case you on no account have had melancholy you do no longer understand what it is like, that's poor and at circumstances I choose i ought to have traded it for many cancers or something so a minimum of i might have a reason to be depressed. once you're depressed you sense very trapped and it is on the brink of impossibe to work out some mild except you get therapy. therapy could properly be no longer hassle-free because of the fact the depressed individual ought to discover what works for them and it could take years. most of the medicine could make a individual greater depressed so it takes various trials to discover the final suited type and precise therapist. interior the advise time, shelter your self so as that your mothers and dads have one much less factor to be annoying approximately, that's no ones fault and that i understand that being on the brink of somebody with melancholy could properly be debilitating. 3 years in the past my ultimate pals brother committed suicide and it tore their total kin aside, your fortunate your brother remains around because of the fact adult males with melancholy are greater probable to dedicate suicide. I nonetheless sense for you even with the indisputable fact that, what you're dealing with isn't hassle-free, i wish which you will cope properly with it and that i in my opinion wish that your brother gets the help he desires, there is wish with melancholy. good success :)

Answer 8

Hi there

I think when we get low, we can dwell on things and give things loads of thought, especially negative things.

My advice is forgive these people, (I know it's difficult!) but people learn from things and may very well not behave that way now.

Think of the good things that your brother and other people have done. When we feel low and maybe angry, it's easy only to dwell on the negative things, but it's imporatant not to forget about the nice things people do as well.

I hope this helps and all goes well for you

Answer 9

Are you in counseling?

I think what you are feeling is quite normal. I resented my ex husband because of things he has said or done. It has helped ME overcome my resentment toward him by being able to discuss the problems with a qualified counselor. You could even find a couselor who uses Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). This is a method of therapy that helps process situations we have had to deal with to help us overcome the effect that they have had on us. It does work! I took several therapy sessions myself and was amazed at how well I felt about the situations I was dealing with.

Best wishes!

Answer 10

I'm a nurse. I feel that everyone gets down and feel depressed. I think yours is a step beyond that, due to the violent thoughts. You need to see a physician for medication to control your feelings. You are not the only one, everyone needs something at one time in their life. Take care and try really hard to feel better. Write in a journal everyday about your feelings. I use this method and I have to say, I feel better when my thoughts is on paper. T