My Aunt's Bugging me help me find an Excuse?

Question

Okay - my mum's coming to see me from overseas - its been about a couple of years. So my Husband and I are picking her up from the airport etc. My Aunt wants to come to the aiport too (she hasn't seen my mum for 5yrs) - but I don't want her to come. Whenever my aunt comes to the airport - like the few times when my siblings have been to see us, she causes trouble. Last time she wanted ,my siblings to carry a mini suitcase for her within their luggage - there were some gifts for her kids. But we said no, because their suitcases were already over the limit and we would have been charged extra etc, then she got stroppy and the atmosphere was so tense! She also doesn't get along that much with my mum - she pretends to, but then she just uses people. So we really just want to collect my mum from the aiport in peace, and come home to catch up on our own, then she can come visiting another day. The problem is I don't know how to tell her, she is already planing days off and all that. Help

Just another thing - my mum doesn't want her there either. She knows my mum asked my grandmother to look after the kids while she's away, but she decided she was going to bribe my grandma by paying for a trip for her which was meant to last till just before my mum travels. But at the last minute she started forcing my grandma to stay longer! How mean! But at least my grandma's sensible enough. So please help me come up with an excuse. I thought maybe saying something like - I won a spa break, so I will be taking my mum with me, during the weekend she arrives - or something like that?

Answer 1

It sounds like keeping the peace isn't a high priority,

So just tell her that you were looking forward to a private reunion with your mum, and that you are working on a time when you can all get together as quickly as possible. That you have plans for the first weekend she is home, but as soon as your mum gets into town, you can coordinate a vist better. That you don't know what ideas your mum may have adn that you can't promise any days in particular at this moment.

Then once she is in town you can find a day for perhaps a dinner out with your aunt - or some other quick & easy visit.

You shouldn't completely shut her out, but you don't have to plan around her either.

Answer 2

Oh Lord, I have relatives like this that's why I cut them off. Talk to your mum and come up with this game plan which works every time I know Ive done it. Don't make excuses it adds more tension so here is your solution. Call your mum and explain the situation and tell her you want to spend all the time with her and she needs to call your Aunt and tell her she had a change of plans and she isn't coming. After that you call your Aunt and tell her your mum cancelled her trip, don't take any time off because she isn't coming. Then she will just carry on as usual and you can go pick up your mum at the airport for a stress free visit. If you try to make up excuses she will be offended and still try to have her way and make things more miserable. If you and your mum pull it off she won't know the difference. Good Luck.

Answer 3

. Talk to your mum and come up with this game plan which works every time I know Ive done it. Don't make excuses it adds more tension so here is your solution. Call your mum and explain the situation and tell her you want to spend all the time with her and she needs to call your Aunt and tell her she had a change of plans and she isn't coming. After that you call your Aunt and tell her your mum cancelled her trip, don't take any time off because she isn't coming. Then she will just carry on as usual and you can go pick up your mum at the airport for a stress free visit. If you try to make up excuses she will be offended and still try to have her way and make things more miserable. If you and your mum pull it off she won't know the difference

Answer 4

The only thing to say is that you want to spend some time with your mum on your own before you loose her amongst the gaggle of the rest of your family. after-all she is your mum not your aunts. Don't go down the road of lies as they have a habit of catching you out. Just tell the truth, sort of, and if your aunt gets up tight that's her problem not yours. As the old saying goes , you can pick your friends, not your family. Good luck hope this helps.

Answer 5

Just tell her that meeting your mum at the airport is strictly a private thing which both you and your mum want it that way... she will have time later one to visit with your mum and you both would appreciate her respecting your feelings about not going to the airport..........AND, next time your mum is coming to visit.........keep her arrival date a secret, or give the wrong information to anyone who can give it to your Aunt so neither of you needs to deal with this situation again....good luck..lol

Answer 6

You don't need an excuse. You need a backbone.
Excuses are for wimps. Does George W. Bush really give an excuse why he does what he does? No>>he just does what he thinks is right and goes ahead and does what he thinks is best.
Don't go life being a wimp. People will give you a lot more respect when you stop acting like a ninny.

Answer 7

Hi! Your aunt can be a pain in the neck!Nyway, just tell her that ur mo closer 2 ur mum than she is. Lyk, she is tha one who gave birth to u, and not ur aunt. Make her undastand that u nid to spend more tym with ur mum, and catch up on things, u know. Your aunt could arrange with ur mum when they should meet, lyk 4 days later after u spendin tym wid her!! So,i wish u gud luk, n i hop ma answer has assisted u! Mia

Answer 8

OK. So U DONT like ur aunt!!!!!Right? OKay well u might have all the information which terminal, and stuff like that. Leave ur aunt with out tellling her, and if she doesnt no the terminal than she cant go to the airport!!! HOPE THIS HELPS!!
P.S. Or next time dont tell her that ur mum is coming!!!

Answer 9

CattyOne, just say NO to your aunt. She can wait for your mom's arrival at home.

You could also leave the day before your mom's arrival and stay at a pretty hotel, (no cooking, no doing laundry, no ironing hubby's shirt = vacations), and meet your mom the next day at the airport.

Best wishes.

Answer 10

Tell her no because you want to spend some well deserved alone time with her and hubby,that may be the only time you will get. Tell her you will call her when you get back .