if your kids are bad in a store would u wait to get home or take them to the car?

Answer 1

I would take the child's hand and we would go out of the store and go into the car.we would stay there(and I'd be reading an interesting book I have placed in the car before going to the store) until the child is ready to behave well.I wouldn't critisize or remind him/her why are we in the car or treathen him/her that he/she won't come with me the next time.I'll just be reading quietly while the child has calmed down and ready to behave.
That means I would lose some time for shopping while I am sitting in the car with a screaming child behind me but I definitely think that my child's discipline is more important than the little 'wasted' time in the car.

Answer 2

That depends. Are you the only adult with them at the time? If there are two adults, then take the children to the car and sit with them until they are ready to behave.

However, if you are the only adult and you need to get the shopping done, take them to the restroom and have a stern talking to them. If they are generally allowed something on the shopping trips, tell them that priviledge will be revoked if they do not behave.

I have always allowed my children to have a pack of gum (the 30 cent pack), mints or the option to play the games once on the way out of the store. They know that if they misbehave, they do NOT get anything or play anything. This may sound like a bribe to some, but really it is not. I have always allowed them to have something because what fun is shopping for a child when he can't walk away with anything? It's not fun for them to have to be good while mom/dad buys what ever mom/dad wants. So next time, before you leave your house, mention that you would like to buy them a pack of gum. (Do not say "if you behave") However, while in the store if they are misbehaving, mention that they won't get their treat if they are bad because that would mean you condone their behavior, and since you DON'T like it, you wont' buy it.

Maybe that will help.
Best wishes..

Answer 3

I did have to leave the store a few times when my son was young -- I once left a full cart of groceries! It helps to do whatever you can to schedule the shopping trip so that it isn't a time of day when the kids are tired or wound-up. I would speak to him at first, but if the behavior escalated, I wasn't about to subject the other shoppers to hearing his tantrums.

It is also important to be CONSISTENT in disciplining them! If you give in once, they'll just keep trying to break you down. So if you say that they have to behave or you will leave the store, make sure you follow through with that threat, or they learn that you don't mean what you say.

Once my son knew that "Mommy don't play that", he gave up. Also, if he would ask for something during the trip, I'd tell him that I didn't have money for it. So he then suggested that I go to the MAC for money, I told him that the money in the bank was for other things. Eventually, he learned to take no for an answer.

Answer 4

Straight to the car! If I am by myself with him, usually I'll wait about 5 minutes (in the car that is) to see if his behavior is going to improve (which it usually does) Unless its been a tough day and I'm not in the mood ; ) then its straight home.

If hubby and I are together, one of us will stay to do shopping and the other will take him to the car for time out - which sometimes can even last till the other has finished the shopping.

Usually if he is well rested and fed, and we are not busy shopping ALL day, he is pretty well behaved.

We keep shopping (and other errands) to a max of about 2 hours in one go, then we go to a playground or park to give him some time to do what he wants before getting back to "grown up" stuff

Answer 5

When my children are misbehaving in a store, I give them warning first. If they really started throwing a tantrum, I would walk them out to the car, get in, and let them know what my expectations were. "If you can't calm down, we'll have to go home." The main point is that you don't want to give choices that you wouldn't accept. "You can either stop throwing a fit so that we can finish our shopping, or we can go home now. What do you want to do?" Then allow them to choose, either by their words or their actions. If you see that they just aren't going to have the ability to make it through the trip without another meltdown, drop everything and go. It can be really frustrating to have to leave when you have something you need to get done, like grocery shopping, but it's going to be more frustrating if you stay.

Answer 6

My kid's misbehaved only once in the store each. On those occasions it was after they outgrew being in the seat in the shopping cart. Upon throwing the temper tantrum I simply warned them once that they would return to sitting in the cart if they could not act their age. My eldest obviously did not take my warning to heart and proceeded to throw an even greater tantrum where I then picked them up (this stifled the screaming immediately from shear surprise) and placed them in the cart. The remaining time in the store was bliss. My younger two due to my eldest's experience warned them that I was going to do as I warned and shouldn't push it. Thus, my younger ones did not go past the warning.

Answer 7

I would discipline them in the car because by the time you get home it's lost it's impact. And because you didn't indicate what I should wait for I am clarifying that I don't spank my kids, I would just put them in a time out in the car.

When you take your child to the store you should always be sure they are fed, well rested, and find a way to keep them busy during the trip. Otherwise you are asking for problems.

Answer 8

If there is a bathroom in the store, take them in there. Get the message to them that they are 100% free to express emotion, but the petty stuff isn't going to mess up your schedule. If they continue to act up then take them directly home and make them spend some time in their room. Just make sure (like with a toddler) you're not dragging them around during nap time...that always makes for a horrible experience! And, I always suggest spankings ;)

Answer 9

No, i would continue with my shopping, because by the time you get home, your child may no longer remember how bad the incident was. Better to deal with the situation there on the spot.

I once threatened my child that i would leave him behind at the shops if he didn't sort himself out. I walked out and left him staggering behind in shock as i almost made it to the car. He has never behaved in that manner ever again.

I also believe your children will only go as far as you let them.

Answer 10

Depends if they stop when I tell them to...if not, I take them into the store's bathroom for an attitude adjustment. If I have to leave the store...they will get it in the car and put to bed when we get home!