First of all, I am 25 and she is 18. Am I not too old for her but she said it does not matter.
Anyway, my girlfriend has not had sex before and she is very nervous about doing it for the first time. She said she needs time and wants to be totally comfortable with me before engaging herself in the act. I said take your time girl. But everytime we chat or talk, she is always taking dirty to me. Whenever we meet we are over each other kissing and so fourth but she would not let me do it. We have been going out for 3 months. How long do u think Ishould wait? I am thinking 6 more months.
2007-01-12 23:29:06 · 43 answers · asked by Tim81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think about it. I believe deep down you know the answer; all I would give you is an opinion, which will not help you at all. Now ask your self again how long can you wait?
2007-01-12 23:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. Ok dude, here's what I think:
She's 18, so legality is not the issue here. It's good of you to tell her that you will wait till she is ready (This will increase your overall chances because she won't want to do it if she isn't comfortable). I know that it sucks right now cuz I'm sure that u r dying 4 some action (Am I right?) But you have to make a choice here. If you REALLY care about her, you will continue to go out with her and respect the fact that she isn't ready yet, basically letting her tell you when it's time. I know that us men need our sex, so this might be difficult. If she is JUST SOME CHICK who you wanna ****, then tell her that you want to have sex soon. It's up if you are willing to wait to see how long it might be before you have to pack up your balls and leave. To make a long story short, it all boils down to this: Are you willing to give up sexual pleasure for a potential future with this girl? If yes, then go as long is you can. If sex is of primary importance to you, then find someone else. Good luck!
2007-01-12 23:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by Soundguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know what the next level is because shes never done it before so patience is the key. If you force yourself upon her she will think of sex as dirty or a chore so wait for her to make that move. She wants to play around with the idea of going all the way with you and if she does boy you are lucky, think of it as respect for her to wait until shes ready.
The signs are good and i don't think it will be long. Mske her first time with you special, and make it feel natural. You should feel honoured that she wants to lose it to you and shes not been round the block a few times already. If you are the one then it will be an unfprgettable time for her.
Relax and go with it, she'll come to you when she's good and ready.
2007-01-12 23:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Scatty 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First since you are both legal adults you can do what you want. However, you should respect her and know that she is still in fact "saving herself" for you. You wait as long as it takes. If you have no intentions on marrying her, then don't pressure her. I think it's great that you have been respectful of her. 3 months is only like 90 days, you can't expect her to give something up that she apparently holds value in. She hasn't maintained being a virgin for no reason. She is saving herself. Once she gives it up to you, it is gone. Because she is inexperienced, continue to be respectful. Perhaps you should not allow yourselves to be "all over each other". Certainly, it gets your wheels rolling. You can't get mad at her, she isn't being this way intentionally and being a tease. Tell her that talking dirty to you, gets you aroused and that in being respectful of her and her not being ready to complete the act that you shouldn't even put the temptation out there. Tell her it frustrates you and you are willing to wait however long it takes.
2007-01-12 23:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl! If you want to have sex and she doesn't, then you can't set some deadline.
So, you're looking at her the way my aunt watches that plastic pop-up turkey thermometer on thanksgiving, waiting for her to get done.
Meanwhile, she's trying to do the sexy thing, and she's wants everything to be perfect, and she doesn't know how to do that, which isn't making her anymore comfortable.
And twenty words into your question you have "not too old" sitting there, which makes me and just about everyone else who isn't twenty-five and dating an eighteen year old girl that maybe you're too old for her.
If sex is important, find someone to have sex with. If dating this girl is important, than take care of things in your bedroom after your mom tucks you in.
And if your girlfriend is reading this, then Run, Girl, Run! He's too old for you!
2007-01-13 00:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by Miz Understood 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her then wait 6 more months. But if you just want to bone her, find someone else. If you do a virgin, she will be a lot of headache for a long time if things don't work out between you two. Good luck
2007-01-12 23:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds like a cliche, but just wait until she's ready. Be that 6 days or six months, there's no particular time you can put on it she just has to feel comfortable.
2007-01-12 23:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
am glad to hear that you are planning on waiting for six more months...but i think you should give her more time..if you think you can handle it...who's to say 6 months is okay...maybe she may be thinking of upto 1year before she has sex with you....i think you should start by telling her you are getting mixed messages from her...i mean she doesn't want to have sex, but talks dirty to you and is all over you when you are kissing...just sit her down and tell her that you are willing to wait for her,you should also tell her to cool down with the dirty talking or the strong kisses,cause it might get you all excited and you might think it's finally going to happen,then all over sudden she doesn't want to have sex....you should both chill,and do other things that interest both of you...like sports....don't sweat it, it will work out....
2007-01-13 01:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by maverick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tim if you love her you'll wait as long as it takes because it should be as important to you as it is for her.You are going to be responsible for here sex history depending on how prepared she and you are for this big moment it will mark here life for ever you are the man that she wont ever forget let her take here time and wen shes ready make it special its suppose to be something beautiful and natural beyond sex you are deflowering a flower do it with love
2007-01-12 23:40:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think she's too young for you. She is very immature by the way you described her actions. She won't be ready in 2 or 3 more years.
2007-01-12 23:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋