How come a man sleeps with another woman for one night and keeps on loving his current gilrfriend? Being a woman, for me to do this would mean i am not really in love with my man. I wonder how men feel about it.
2007-01-12 23:23:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women usually do not want to hear this answer but it is indeed that men are not genetically programmed for monogamy. Monogamy is merely a relatively recent value of modern societies, which has developed as women have strived for sociopolitical equality. It's really only over the last century that it has not been commonplace for those men with the wealth to sustain more than one mate and family to do this quite openly (church notwithstanding!).
In other words, to men sex is generally not an intimate act of reaching out to a lover, forming a deep, strong and fulfilling emotional bond. In fact it's really just a particularly stimulating and compelling form of recreation. Most men would have little problem having a one-night stand with another woman whilst still loving his normal girlfriend but for the guilt of knowing that she wouldn't like it and the fear of how she may react should she discover this act she has been programmed to perceive as unfaithfulness.
If he loves you, protects you from this and other things, treats you and your future right, forgive him.
2007-01-13 03:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by servir tres frais 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isn't a marriage. And even if it were, you wouldn't own the boyfriend.
This works both ways now days. People in general don't put much value in commitment with thier girlfriends/boyfriends, or husbands and wives.
It's possible for anyone to have a one night stand and still love thier partner in a relationship.
Every person is different, and each of them will give a different reason for why they did it. It's a really screwed up way to be these days but that' what happens millions of times a day around the world.
It's hurtful, and if you have someone that did this to you, you may want to consider ending the relationship. Cheaters always do it again at some future time in a relationship. That's a given.
2007-01-12 23:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A one night stand is entertainment, not a relationship. There are not feelings involved, just hornyness. I'd forgive a one night stand instead of a man infactuated with another women but never acting pyhsically on it.
2007-01-12 23:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by cabriojazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you recognize what individually its a stand the guy has to take.! yet then bear in mind one element any relationship is in keeping with believe. That varieties the backside for something. So by potential of giving her yet another threat ur purely showing her how lots u believe her which will purely heighten the dedication to repent and make up for the errors on her area. In any relationship forgive and neglect, its considerable. anybody merits a gamble. nicely worth a attempt. anybody makes errors. chum. help the guy evolve and interior the technique fix the chinks of their armour. sturdy success :)
2016-12-13 04:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be forgiveable. If you keep on hating its going to eat you up inside and poison the relationship you have. If you can't forgive this guy then you should end the relationship. Why would a guy do this? Maybe he could get some thing from this woman he couldn't get from you.
2007-01-12 23:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can have one night stand or many one night stands and still be in love with his girlfriend. We just get horny and we need to unload. Where as for girls, they cheat on their boyfriends for emotional needs. Guys can just have meaningless sex but most girls can't.
2007-01-12 23:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not forgive him he obviously doesn't love you,its a two way street, he can't love you to be sleeping with someone else. he did it once he will do it again.dump him.
2007-01-12 23:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
men like variety. its an inbuilt thing with them it also gives you carte blanche to do it too. i personally would do the same and then when he knows dump him.
2007-01-12 23:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
depends from person to person
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2007-01-12 23:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weakness darling.men hang out with friends,meet girls ,you know...drinks and more drinks...it happens a lot.
2007-01-12 23:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by ann 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋