we started going out as friends...but i slowly fell for him. The problem is...he went out with a girl who broke his heart...and he still hasn't forgetten her 2 years later. I've been through a minor depression lately...and it's becoming real difficult to accept his lack of love towards me. I know he'll never fall in love with me...but a part of me still hopes that maybe...one day he'll forget his ex. I'm scared to tell him i love him...and i really don't know what to do. I'd really appreciate some advice.
2007-01-12 23:09:04 · 21 answers · asked by erebus_convict128 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its cool liking someone especially when they don't like you but if you more than like them then maybe you should run because you have problems for the very fact that they don't like you back. You only really like him because he won't love you back you are setting yourself up for disaster from the start just cool it and regain the right kind of love else where honey you deserve love and need to have it right
2007-01-12 23:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your position, I would just spend as much time as possible with him. Try to have fun, because isn't it better being friends than nothing at all? You say he isn't over his ex, and that he will never fall in love with you. I don't believe that. If you have been spending a lot of time together, and you two are having fun together then maybe things will change for the two of you and he will realise that he'll like you too. Don't give up on him. Keep seeing him as friends, and one day you'll work up the courage to tell him how you feel, and you never know - you might find that hes always felt the same way.
2007-01-12 23:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by laislinns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear "fallen for him" - Brutal but truthful answer you already know. This situation has most likely occured before to YOU, with some guy you knew that devolped or right at first sight had feelings for you that you didn't, and couldn't reciprocate. What did you do? Did you think you were EVER going to "fall" in love with this person? Probably not. If the feelings weren't there in the begininning, they won't be there later. Your head doesn't rule your heart or emotions ever... until you get much older and nothing runs as HOT anymore... then you can use that head to to talk or listen a bit. Still... It takes some serious growth to be able to put aside our wants and desires and do what we know is probably right... when our bodies and hearts are screaming at us to do what we want...
Good Luck, best wishes
-G
2007-01-12 23:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by thatappraiser_guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never going to know for sure about whether or not this guy will love you unless you find some way to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't love you, its not the end of the world. Some how you'll go on with life and find some one special. I know this all sounds stupid, but its the truth.
2007-01-12 23:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say Never. He just needs time to heal. Let him know how you feel it might help. Some times when a guy knows he is wanted it helps him get over a hurt or past love and says hey I must be OK she likes or loves me. He might be very happy to hear that.You cant do any more after that. If tit is meant to be it will happen.
2007-01-12 23:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey relax.....tell him that past is past .OK i don't know whether this is right but in someone's absence v realize how v really feel about that person..But FUTURE can bring a lot of changes.So HOPE 4 THE BEST.try 2 tell him OR go on with ur life.
2007-01-12 23:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by MM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and have it "accidently" slip out. Thats what my friend did with the guy she loved. It turned out he loved her too he was just to scared she didnt feel the smae way. Try it if worst comes to worst you guys can still stay friends.
2007-01-12 23:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by xhellsxlilxangelx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it already, maybe he feels the same way. As a double, he'll get over his ex very quickly when with you.
2007-01-12 23:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... this is one of the most sophisticated questions ive had in a very long time. you just gotta give him some very good sex and yessss men do forget about thier ex. it just takes time. seams impossible but it is not. you just gotta find out what he likes to do n cherish that and lighten up the relationship. men like that needs a lot more love than what their ex gave them in order to forget about the past. burn all past memories n pictures. and yeah youve got yourself a very hard man to work with. just stick with him i guarantee youll get his good side in a couple of months. couple of weeks if you do it right. goodluck my lad
2007-01-12 23:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Richard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never said anything. He is now married with three kids of his own. If I had to do it all over again...I'd probalby say someting but I still love him but it isn't a sexual thing it's more like you would love a brother. I wish him well. I love him dearly still but I am married and have kids of my own.
2007-01-12 23:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋