Cutting Yourself?

Question

My friend cuts herself on her wrist. I ask her and she dosn't answer. im worried about her. WHY IN THE WORLD DO PEOPLE DO THAT?!?!

Answer 1

For some people it's for attention. For others, it is a genuine, though sometimes fleeting, desire to die. And for others, it is a way to feel something. People who are severely depressed can become numb to everything. They cut because then at least they feel something.

Whichever the case is, your friend needs help-- and soon, before she seriously hurts herself. I would reccommend telling someone that you trust, like a mentor, teacher, or counselor.

Answer 2

Don't go around telling people about it, it is a private matter and I am sure it is not something she wants everyone knowing about, maybe try and write her a note, talking one on one can be a bit confronting at times and put her in an odd spot and make it harder for her to talk, a lot of people find it helps them feel better about stuff theres an issue at hand that she is finding it hard to cope with write her a note telling her your there to listen

Answer 3

If it's her wrist, she's either trying to commit suicide or trying desperately to get help. It she cuts in other places, it's because cutting releases serotonin in the brain, which eases pain, like the pain of life. Either way, she really, really needs to get help immediately. Tell an adult! You've got to tell someone like a counselor or a teacher at school.

Answer 4

For most people it's their way of dealing with depression and high levels of anxiety. I guess instead of releasing it through screams and other outlets like exercising and blogging.. cutting is their form of "relief". For some people anyways..Talk to her about it, relate with her in some way or another - try not to be too imposing but let he or her know that you're there for them.. gain their trust.

Answer 5

Attention. I know people in the past that did this and it was because they didn't get any attention at home and when they came to school everyone made fun of them. They were seen as "outcast" so to get people to notice them they would cut and do other self mutilation to their bodies.

Answer 6

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 7

it feels better like it releases the tension and kinda makes you feel as if you can just let go as the blood runs down you feel like you are releasing what ever was bothering you that made you cut yourself in the first place

Answer 8

I thus who don't a goal or any reson to live will do that. Maybe she have some problems more than she can handle.

You know, she need love, she need someone to care about her.

Answer 9

I have tried it...and will try it again....there is no specially reason....there are different reasons.....
It happens when pain increases to a level where no coping method helps.....
You just have to be like us(god forbid) to understand what we go thru....

Answer 10

Sweetheart, your friend needs help....talk to someone you trust...perhaps prepare for an intervention.....she could bleed herself to death doing this...

Good luck and God bless