What do you do when everything is out of control?

Question

I can't control my emotions, I have attachment&abandonment issues, I keep on getting myself into awkward situations, I hate my life, I feel I can never be myself. I don't know how to go on, I can't deal with life anymore

Answer 1

try yoga or meditation....it will work i am sure. its my experience

Answer 2

Well then just pick up your phone and call 911, an er, an hospital, or your local crisis line, cause they will help you work on that anger that keeps getting out of control, and while they are doing that they can help you with your attachement and abandonment issues, so you can learn to stay out of trouble. Now it is up to you, cause i sure the heck can't do it for you, i don't even know where you live. so this is something you have to do for yourself, so do it now , and get it over with, and get the help you know you need, but you just did not want to admit that you could get it . If you can not deal with it , call to night, stay safe, there is light at the end of the tunnel, and you can work hard and make it through all of this. so please don't wait any longer call now.

Answer 3

See a therapist and talk to a good friend, there are a lot of people out there who will help you get through this and if it's hard talking just show them what you wrote just then.
Things get tough but if we hold on we will get through them, if you didn't do anything right now or for the next 16 years not a dangerous thing at all such as attempted suicide you'd still be here showing you can get through anything, emotions change and so do people you can become stronger, ring up someone close to you whether they're asleep or busy and just tell them that you need them right now, I am sure they will understand.

Answer 4

i don't know anything about your medical history, but I'm going to cut and paste something i cut and pasted to some teenager who was depressed. look through it and see if anything might help you, but use your discretion of course. I highly suggest fish oil pills, a reduction in dietary refined sugar, and a multivitamin if you aren't taking one already.

the following cut-and-paste is what I would tell myself when I was ten. I believe it is a trial-and-error process. since you are so young I have ethical concerns about giving you advice, particularly about the supplements I suggest. still, i wish i believed the following when i was 10:
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anyone who is depressive should take a good multivitamin most days with a meal. while you are at it take a calcium+magnesium pill, unless by some miracle you get enough calcium. (don't take calcium-based antacids, especially if you already supplement) also, get lots of beneficial fatty acids. you should try taking a gram of fish oil daily, it can do wonders.

then try getting lots of sunlight. get some vigorous cardiovascular exercise as often as you can. practise good posture and learn a little about basic yoga postures and t'ai chi warmups. posture has a large impact on your sense of well-being. always work to expand your approach to and understanding of fitness. core strength is crucial.

eat a varied very high protein, high fiber diet with a sensible balance of fats and almost no refined carbs. shun additives and preservatives. you want fresh whole foods, not overcooked. eat leafy greens and colourful vegetables. eat tree nuts,eat fish, eat more fish, the more nutritious fruits (berries, etc.), herbs, legumes, and some grains. don't eat sweets or drink sweet/sour drinks, especially soda. instead eat fruit. diet really really really matters. it has a slow cumulative effect. I know these diet changes can be inconvenient and costly. However, because the alternative occasionally involves hospitalization, and because the overall quality of your life will improve on this diet, I believe it is necessary.

stay hydrated. this can be a matter of simply avoiding certain foods that dehydrate you.

that's all that comes to mind. If you use caffeine, try 3 weeks off. If that's no good, consider optimal dosage and timing relative to work/sleep. you may wanna look into ginseng.
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and i should say that ginseng is probably a bad idea for someone your age and maybe is a bad idea for women. then again it may help.

i want to emphasize daily exercise, low low sugar, no junk food, fish oil, and a high quality multivitamin. (I _think_ multi's are correct for people your age) (my suggestion is twinlab's "daily two caps" but only take one because you are young... you should consult a nutritionist if you can and discuss diet and supplementation)

A lot of your problem is just part of growing up. Some people are genetically inclined towards it. I hope that it gets better. But I am inclined to think that your diet is not balanced (you're young, plus you say your parents have no money.. feeding a family nutritiously is expensive and time-consuming) and your body is no longer young enough to ignore inadequate nutrition. Finding balance is crucial. "Commercially produced" food is very low in nutrition. Our soils are depleted in some ways and thus even fresh food is low in nutrition, but at least with fresh foods, the problem has not been exascerbated by unnatural mass production methods. Also fresh produce is your best bet for actually absorbing the nutrients. So try to find a way to eat some healthy fruit and some non-starch vegetables and avoid processed foods.

give it 2 weeks before you give up. expect possible discomfort (achiness, headache) when making large beneficial changes in diet)

remember, just cause someone else can eat garbage their whole life and not become depressed, doesn't mean you can do that. same goes for some of those other things... fish oil, sunlight, etc.

tell your parents what's wrong of course, and tell them what you are going to do about it, and see a doctor if you're not a shiny new person in a month and a half.

the complete idiot (me) is not at all a doctor.

Answer 5

If you can't seem to manage just by simple advice, and things always seem to go as you say above....
First of all I would like to say, it is amazing the progress of psychiatry... just because you go to a psychiatrist doesn't mean you are abnormal. Depression is now considered simply just a disease like heart disease, not some weird mental condition.
I would try visiting a psychiatrist. Some conditions like depression(not just a bad mood, I mean medical depression) can be controlled very well by medicine, but not all need medications. Some can do well with just consuling, but that is for you and your doctor to decide. If you really are in trouble, I suggest you try visiting a doctor. It can possibly change your life quality.
Well I wish you luck.

Answer 6

Take a deep breath count to 10, and just put it all in Gods hands. We can not control everything, and should not let it wiegh on our minds , depress and freak us out. Take some time for yourself, have fun and to haidees with all the issues. The will be there when you return. Take one thing at a time, dont let it stress you out. You can only do what you can.

Answer 7

I Pray, I throw tantrums, I cry,I write to authorities and ask for change,I seek for answers, I read the Bible, I educate myself about my problems,I research and find answers to my problems, I call my pastor to pray about the situations bothering me, I set boundries, I remove myself from people that are detramental to my wellbeing, I give other people the dignity to make their own mistakes and consequences that follow. This is not easy, I'm 45 and I just learned these skills. I hope you know JESUS loves you, and that I relate 100%. I pray that GOD will give you strength in this trying time. Please do'nt give up. LUV YOU.

Answer 8

First, calm down and take a deep breath. I've had the same problem. You feel like everything and everyone is out to hurt you. Maybe you need to see a therapist and get everything out in the open. He/she may put you on antidepressents. It helps alot. Please, if your thinking about killing yourself, don't do it, Its not worth it and it doesn't work. It also doesn't solve your problems. Trust me, I tried the suicide thing. If it worked, I wouldn't be typing this to you.

Answer 9

I get down on my Knees and pray to God, through Jesus Christ, to help me find the way to straighten out my life...I remember to forgive those that are abusing me, and love my enemies...I thank Them both, for the love and forgiveness they give me, and then I ask for guidance, and I am always answered...

Answer 10

If you keep doing what your doing you will keep getting what you got.......try something different, think about the moment and the future; not the past.