ok so i work with a girl who i find atractive and cool. but im 31 and she's 21. (i know everyone says age is just a number but im not in that camp.) so we were at our holiday party and she starts telling me things about how much she diggs me and what not and i was kinda drunk. well long story short i told her how i felt about dating someone so young but she didnt let that stop her and we ended up hooking up. now im in a bind cuz i feel really creepy about it and the whole dating someone so young thing. i dont want to hurt her feelings but i cant shake this feeling like im doing something wrong by dating her.
my main example is if I was a father with a 21 year old daughter and she was dating a 31 year old guy i would wonder what the hell that guy was thinking (as i was kicking his ***)
whatcha think?
2007-01-12 22:05:07 · 11 answers · asked by mclumpo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think I would be comfortable with it either, not that I'm against it for others but if you have the same interests and can converse on the same level then stick with it. Would you feel different if she was 41? Would that be creepy? Remember that you have 10 years more experience than her when it comes to life so don't expect more from her than you would have been able to give at that age.Go slow my friend cuz you may be the one who gets hurt.
2007-01-12 22:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you think too much. Lighten up and appreciate you have some one more than interested in you. And here's a true story. A girl (at the time) that worked with my Mum was 18 and she married a 33 year old bloke, much to everyone's disgust, including her parents. Most said it wouldn't work, wouldn't last etc. Today, he's 80 and still in pretty good nick and she's 65, they're still together and what's more, still in love and very happy. OK, so there's no Golden Rule but nothing in life has one.
2007-01-12 22:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Honey...I think you need to end this relationship. Not because of the age thing...but because you are so uncomfortable with it. The longer you stay in it the deeper the hurt is going to be for her. So my best advice is to either get over it and give the relationship a try...or break it off before she falls any deeper for you. Best of Luck to you however you decide!
2007-01-12 22:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a woman when I was 48 and she was 24.
Her dad was 46.
It's not age, it's what you really feel about a person that counts
If you care, it is the most important thing.
2007-01-12 22:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a big deal baby. Really it's not. I'm sure her father would appreciate her dating a respectable ambitous 31 year old, instead of the drunk frat-boys her own age.
Really not a big deal, your making way more of it.
2007-01-13 10:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was 25 and you 35 it wouldnt be the same thing. 21 is young, and if you have a problem with it, then don't date her. You already told her how you feel, just tell her you made a mistake, and you don't want what she does
2007-01-12 22:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to "get over it" re: this age thing. You like her? Are you compatible? Does she turn your crank in several areas of your life? Does she treat you well and do you treat her well? Try living in the "present" and don't over anyalyse. You seem to be the victim of some pretty rigid self-imposed personal standards.
2007-01-12 22:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your act right buddy! Its love in the first place, isnt it! So ask yourself if you are in love with each other or not. If yes, go ahead and have a nice life. If no.... well better luck next time. Cio.
2007-01-12 22:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by Krish G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have no conpunction about her licking your *** then I guess go for it. Why feel creepy about age if you don't feel creepy about having sex outside of marriage.
2007-01-12 22:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with her
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2007-01-12 22:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋