i'm in death end?

Question

It's a miserable life living with my husband's family. No privacy, his parents involve everything even my 4 months daughter, they think they got the power to be on the husband's side. My husband told me he'll never move out. His mom is 46 and dad 53 they're working but he said he'll take care of them now and forever. I can see he doesn't love me enough to do anything against his parents. Move out alone? who will take care of my daughter when I go to work. I'm with her 24/7 now. Go back to my mom is north california? I can't depend on her forever. Can I apply for housing and child care? will I be approved fast for the programs? thank u

I didn't ask to move out until I'm so controlled by them, I wanted to talk out but even my husband got mad at me when I told him. I'm facing this everyday, can't sleep until 4 or 5 in the morening, so tired but have to keep it up bcause nobody is helping me. They just hold and play wit her for awhile and give she back to me.

Answer 1

Its not you....you're right....you shouldn't have to live in a situation like this.
When a Man and woman married they are excited to start their lives together Not with Mom and Dad tagging along.(looking at their ages and both of them working they could have another 20-25 positive years making it on their own)I think its great that he loves them....but honey cut those apron strings.

Maybe buying a house close by?

If you have told him how you feel and you don't see a future living like this.
Make a plan.....thinking of you and your daughter....get those ducks in a row.
You mention your mother....you could move back and it could be a beginning for you and your daughter.
You have a computer ...look into the laws and programs that the state of California has.
It may take a little time....however if you truly want this go for it.

best wishes

Answer 2

Sounds like he likes being taken care of by his parent's. He has some deep problems. I was wondering how old you two are? How long have you been married? I figure not long and that is why your at his parent's. Well for whatever reason he should be wanting to find a home for you and his child. His parents are working so they aren't sick. That is just an excuse. I don't blame you I would call the housing authorities in your city and get on list for a home. Tell them you are separating and you have no where to go. There is usually a list in our town. If I were you I would go home w/mom and get back on your feet and find a place. But their is govt assistance for single parents. Look it up online. I wish you luck and I hope you two can talk it over and work it out. I just feel like he doesn't want a commitment. I'll pray for you.

Answer 3

try webmd, psychiatric services. You sound very depressed, at the very least see your physician and/or a pastor to have someone who isn't part of the family that you can tell your troubles to and get an objective answer, Maybe if you talk to your husband and say "I know how important your parents are to you and I think we should find a home near them so we can keep and eye on them as they age however as you are my husband and I am your wife, we need to have some privacy and freedom to make decisions about our child, whose welfare we have to make a top priority" If you're sure nothing will work I would suggest marriage counseling, if that doesn't work, you have to decide what would be the best for you and your child staying in a miserable situation or leaving and being a 1 parent family. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 4

What made you get involved with a mama's boy? I wish I would date a grown man living with his parents. That is insane! Now that you see the reason you should have never got involved with him it's time to fix it. Go to the health department and there should be something like social services who can put you into section 8 housing where it is based on your income then aplly for child care assistance and you can get assistance with child care. Maybe grandma will watch the baby while you work but you may have to establish custody or there may be a battle when you try to move out but where there is a will there is a way.

Answer 5

i think you have a very insensitive husband.we are on similar boat desperate to do something to make our lives better and more peaceful..if you cannot make your husband move out then, you move out, go back to your mom.you're not going to depend on her for long, of course, but you can always find a job there with a flexible time so you can take care of your daughter also.but you need help in taking care of your daughter in your absence.it is more expensive but hey, nothing is free in this world.even now you are paying a high price in raising your daghter and keeping your family intact..the bottom line is it is your decision that matters..pray for God's guidance..Gob bless

Answer 6

with this kind of husband,u can live in peace of mind coz u know that his love to his family is so pure,and so his love to u
u dont have to ask him to move out to show u that he loves u,believe me if the person treats his family bad then u cant expect him to treat u good