How do get over her and get out of this depression?

Question

Should i mourn her(look at her photos, what we had, go over everything for a while)? Or should pack it all up in a box(out of sight out of mind)? If i should mourn, how long would be to long. Im not even sure if were going to be completely over, but for now it seems that way. I need to see a therapist to help to understand wether i can come of this depressed state and stop feeling anger towards the past. Keeping it simple she cheated and lied. I need to start trying to get over her or the past. If anybody has delt with cheating, what are someways you over came past or did you just move on. I do love her dearly, and thats why im stuck and depressed. If you cheated id like your input as well, how did you help out or did it end

Answer 1

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Take care and God Bless you and give you the strength to bear the loss. Amen

Answer 2

My ex cheated on me and it was the hardest thing to deal with because no matter what I still loved them so I kept forgiving and they kept cheating I was scared to leave them to be completely alone and one day I did it, and it was so damned scary I pushed my self away and forced my self to realise if they don't have the decency to atleast break up with me before seeing someone else then I shouldn't waste my time crying over them.
I can honestly say finding someone else someone who loved me and making my self realise they weren't worth my time was the best decision I have ever made otherwise things wouldn't have gotten so much better.
So don't just pack away stuff or "mourn" throw it all out the window literally put it in the bin smash it what ever and go find someone new someone who can value you not someone who will just use you and isn't worth your pain.
It's very scary and very hard and you'll be tempted to run back but just look ahead and find someone new and start over things will get better there should be no mourning involved for someone who cheated on you

Answer 3

Depression is a feeling of intense sadness; it may follow a recent loss or other sad event but is out of proportion to that event and persists beyond an appropriate length of time.

After anxiety, depression is the most common mental health disorder. An estimated 10% of people who see their doctors for what they think is a physical problem are actually experiencing depression. People who become depressed typically do so in their 20s, 30s, or 40s, although depression can begin at almost any age. Depression affects a number of children and adolescents (see Mental Health Disorders: Depression). People born in the latter part of the 20th century seem to have higher rates of depression and suicide than those of previous generations, in part because of higher rates of substance abuse.

An episode of depression typically lasts about 6 months if untreated, but sometimes it lasts for 2 years or more. Episodes generally tend to recur several times over a lifetime.

Excerpt above is from second source below and excerpt below is from first source below:

Grieving is a normal process that usually begins before an anticipated death. According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, a pioneer in death and dying, the dying person typically experiences five emotional stages, often in the following order: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. A person in denial may act as if, talk as if, or think that he is not dying. Denial is caused by fears about loss of control, separation from loved ones, an uncertain future, and suffering. Talking to a doctor or other health care member can help the dying person understand that he can remain in control and that his pain and other symptoms will be controlled. Anger may be expressed as a sense of injustice: "Why me?". Bargaining can be a sign of reasoning with death, that is, seeking more time. When the person realizes that bargaining and other strategies are not working, depression may develop. Acceptance, sometimes described as facing the inevitable, may come after discussions with family, friends, and care providers.

COMMENTARY: Cheating and lying are not qualities that you value in a companion. If you treat the relationship as a person that has died, you may anticipate the same steps of the grief process as one does with death of a family member. There was something there...now it is gone. Acceptance is the most difficult step of the process. Box it up and store it or discard it...the less anger used in the process the better. Accept the break-up as being of benefit to you. You could have invested more time and emotion into someone whose values are different than your own. Wait awhile to see someone else so that the inclination of speaking of the other person is behind you. There is nothing worse than dating someone on the rebound from a failed relationship. I certainly would not want to spend time with someone and have the entire evening tainted with the talk of someone else (who is not even there to defend themselves).

It takes time...it hurts; however, this, too, shall pass and you will probably be better off in the long run. At least you do not seem to have any financial obligations in the relationship. What if you had one or two children's lives to finance despite the reasons for the dissolving of the union? Imagine having to pay 50% of your income to her...for child support or alimony...and under the same disgust of her 'qualities'. Take care..mend slowly and thoroughly.

Answer 4

Well some people come out of it a lot better then others. It depends on how you take it, if you go and get help for it right away, and if you are willing to forgive her, or if you are not then you need to forget her, and if you cannot do that then you need some professional help to do it. They can talk you through it, i am not going to tell you that something like that is going to go away, ever, you will proably always remember it, but you do not have to be depressed rest of your life neither. By getting help you will help yourself understand and move on, to a better life with someone that will not cheat on you. So it is really up to you, what you are going to do. Are you going to stay in limbo , or are you going to get help and move on your way after the depression has lifted some. You still have a life ahead of you, and you can have a happy one if you chose too. So the choose is really up to you, if you are going to stay depressed, or if you can forgive and forget, or if you are going to get professional help , so you can move on to a more happier life ahead of you.

Answer 5

I have had numerous broken hearts like many others here.

Pack everything up in a box & don't look at reminders anymore, it only makes the pain worse.
She has betrayed you so I doubt you could trust her again & you would not be honoring yourself if you took her back.
Just try to deal with one day at a time & you will move past what you are going through now.
Be kind to yourself while you are grieving.
Talk to someone & cry on their shoulder.

Good luck to you.
May I gently remind you nobody ever died from a broken heart... even though it feels like it some times :)

Answer 6

It fades over time. Even if you were the one who got hurt...it'll still fade away. I went through this too (after a 4 year relationship ended with her cheating and running away to be with a married guy). I was devastated, and the worst thing is that i did not expect it and i was left still loving her. meaning, i still loved her at the time she dumped me...which was hard on me. it hurt way worse because i loved her unconditionally. being with someone for 4 years is a long time...it took a long time to get over her, but it happened. i have not seen her since, and it's all good. of course that person may "pop in your head" from time to time, but that's just the way it goes. you cannot erase them completely, because they were a part of your life, but you can try to erase the memories. a lot of the memories will fade over time. i can't even remember what it was like to be with my ex, and i was with her for four years. just remember that you will be better off without someone like that in your life!

of course it's going to hurt like hell for awhile, but it's been a little over a year since the breakup...and i've been feeling good for quite a while (it didn't take a whole year). don't worry, you need that time to get the hurt out. but it will leave.

tips to forget that person:
1. round up EVERYTHING that reminds you of that person and destroy it! pictures, knick knacks, etc.. i did this and it was like a weight was lifted off of me

2. try to stay busy! maybe get back into some of the hobbies you used to like or things you used to do, but put off...or even find new hobbies. hang out with friends, too.

3. don't worry, there A LOT of fish in the sea! you will meet more people and develop new friendships. you will be surprised one day, that you even were down and out about this. don't worry. you WILL GET THROUGH IT

Answer 7

exercise can be a great way, to improve your endorphins, and promote the positive brain chemicals in the body. To help lift your sipirits and move out of depression especially when combined with healthy nutritional practises. and pursue your hobbies and interests to take your mind of the e/x. and try to get out and meet new people who share your interests.

Answer 8

sorry about that...Ive dealt with cheating and honestly it sucks! i dont want to get in to details, but i was depressed fro over 3-4 months, just constantly sad and sometimes crying. I dont know when it happend, but i suddenly just decided to move on and i think thats something that you should do as well!! def. pack up her belongings and just move on!!

i did and i never felt to refreshed!!

good luck!