I'm 18 years old in a family of 5, recently a relative moved in with us from another country so he could do get his undergrad degree here in New York. So me and him have to share a room now. I said that fine because I only live there in between college. But his snor ing is so bad I had to move into the computer room. I told my parents he should be the one to move there, but they said it doesn't matter because I only live here 4 months a year. Anyway, This guy spends all day on the computer and I have to wait for him to get off before I can go to sleep. Sometimes he's on it till 2 AM. And I'm also getting upset that he uses one of our cars now but never pays for gas. What should I do?
2007-01-12 20:32:08 · 18 answers · asked by ajfalkjf a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nothing. Your parents should handle this.
2007-01-12 20:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by dana5169 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much longer will he be living with you guys? If it's less than a couple years, I'd say just put up with sleeping in the computer room until he's gone, since you're only there 4 months a year.
If it's longer than that, then I would definitely bring it up to your parents, and demand that his computer time be limited because you need to get to sleep. He should "get it" after everyone says, "Hey, there's a problem. We have to figure out the best thing to do here."
Don't worry about the gas thing unless it's your car. Let your parents deal with that. Eventually if it gets bad enough, they'll do something about it themselves.
2007-01-13 04:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by Mike J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're 18, and still living at home, your choices are few. You could move into your own place, or share a place with some friends. Or just grin and bear it until you're done with school, or until Mr. Mooch moves on. Remember, this is your parents' house, and they can do pretty much what they want to do. After all, they pay the bills. If you paid them for your room, then you'd have something to say about sharing your room. Myself, I would put the relative in the basement, and give my kid their own room. But, that's just me, 'cause I'm proud of my kid going to college. As for what you should do? If you want privacy, find your own place, and keep the peace in the family. My daughter works two part-time jobs and goes to college full-time & has her own place, so it's do-able. <*)))><
2007-01-13 04:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in that situation, and he took over MY bedroom and I was forced to sleep in the computer room, I would tell him that your "new bedroom," the computer room, is closed after such and such time at night(whatever time you want to go be alone, get ready for bed, etc). Talk with your parents about it. They may not see the entire situation. Don't ask them if it's okay to expect some privacy when you want to go to bed. You have a right to privacy. Instead, tell them you intend to have some privacy before you go to bed and, since the computer room has become your new bedroom, you intend to shut the door after a certain time at night until morning when you're up and about. If your parents don't agree with that, patiently persist and ask what they suggest. Try to come to a happy medium with your parents if possible.
2007-01-13 04:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your parents set a rule: no computer after 11PM because that's your room for the time being.
If he's going to college, there will be no lack of computers on campus for him to use year-round!!! he just needs to show his student id and he can use the school library for free.
As for the gas thing... do you pay for all of your own gas? If he is mooching off YOU, then tell your parents, but if he is mooching of your parents, then that's their problem, and they will handle it.
2007-01-13 04:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there isn't much you can do. It's your parents home and if they're okay with it...
Talk to him personally and tell him to stay in the computer room since he pretty much lives in there anyways! Good luck.
2007-01-13 04:37:00 · answer #6 · answered by GraceSlickChick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Document all of this over the next week and then present it to your parents and make out some sort of compromise. He may be a guest in your house but that doesn't give him the right to walk all over you.
2007-01-13 04:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by WINGS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if he wants to sleep late on the pc, then he should take the pc room as his room - problem solved. Lay down a rule - no pc usage after ....pm which is when you sleep.
Th epetrol thing - I agree, let your folks to deal with it - its their car after all.
2007-01-13 08:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit bitching if hes your relative... tell him to get off the computer by 11 pm or youre gonna kick him out of your bedroom, you have every right to. As for the gas money, quit bitching! hes your relative
2007-01-13 04:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your parents and state that you will move out. It may not work in your favour but at least you know where you stand.
2007-01-13 04:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell HIM this. If he is worth a damn he will go along to get along. I suspect your S.O.L. (S---t out of Luck) He's older it seems and you parents apparently think his needs are greater than your own at this point.
2007-01-13 04:38:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋