i had a fight with my boyfriend on a verysmall thing. but we dint talk for the last few days. i tried talking to him but he avoided me. today we are going to meet. he said thad we shuld just have a talk. i have a very strong feeling that this is going to be a break up. what should i do? i love him a lot and dont want to loose him.. please help...
2007-01-12 20:19:38 · 12 answers · asked by ish_avk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like the sayin goes if you love him let him go if he comes back 2 you hes yours if not he never was ....... just because he needs 2 talk 2 u doesnt mean its a break up dont jump 2 conclusions yet ..... if that does happen to be the case ask him if you guys could atleast stay as freinds cuz if u care about him its better 2 have him as a freind then not to have him at all . if u cant because it hurts 2 much i suggest that u try 2 stay as occupied as possible so that u wont have him on your mind 24-7 its gona hurt but time heals all wounds .... good luck thoe with wut ever does happen
2007-01-12 20:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by bandolera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a big fight over the xmas and new year with my bf and i exploded with the work "break up" but after more argument I asked him firmly "do you have feelings for me?" and if yes then tell him that "if you still have feelings then why should you agree we break up for?"
On that new year eve i was so drunk to the point that i told him I'm not clear about the conversation so could we talk another time. Next day i messaged him and said if we could meet and talk things clearer. he said "i dont feel well and have things to do. meet you on the weekends" well i thought it was my fault for starting it all so i agree to meet weekends. I was really in shock and feel broken that this dragged but he needed space so i have no choice. and i think men loves you when you're able to give them reasonable space. anyway on weekends he called and took me to dinner. we talked about other things and after that i open the topic and try to point the arrow on him that he hurt my feelings and told him how i felt. and bascially make amends. relationship is all about love and fighting its part of it. fighting doesnt mean you will break up. his just prob need space. just need to be confident and positive
2007-01-12 20:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by gucciRUSH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you guys stop talking etc. for a few days over a small thing then there is no future in this relationship. A break up will be better. However, instead of waiting for him to tell you that he does not want to continue, you tell him that you have had time to think things over and it is you who does not want him...if he begs real hard give him one last chance, if not there are plenty of guys out there.
2007-01-12 23:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you will be breaking up over such a small thing...maybe a break up is best. because it shows he isnt strong enought to be able to maintain a relationship through a small thing, let alone a big problem, once one arises.
if you stay together, than you dont have to think about it much. it could just be you both got upset and needed a few days apart.
but like i said, if you end up breaking up, then it shows he cant handle situations in which he needs to be strong and smart. and in that case, you will be lucky to have the chance to rid yourself of him.
2007-01-12 20:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are most likely a very nice person. Shi* happens, a relationship is not all butterflies and rainbows. Its like a job. if he decides to let you go over something simple Just breathe and let time open doors for someone who will truly care.
2007-01-12 20:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by JAMI E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the book men are from mars women are from venus. as for now just let things be. dnt push him into anything. whts to happn wil happn, dnt imagine or crack ur brains too much. give him some space.gosh!!! just imagine all ur frnds and we at yahoo answers trying to think of a way to save ur rlationship!!!
2007-01-12 23:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by shreya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him this and also tell him that you trust him and that he obviously trusted you with his heart and you took care of it, who is taking care of your heart? Is the small thing just one small thing or is it one of a string of small things if little fights keep happening maybe you two aren't right for eachother
2007-01-12 20:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to him applogies if you want take a card or a letter and write abt your feelings i dont know wat fight it is may he jus wanted to clear the things in face so dont be afraid be strong and clear meet him. if he loves you he will not ask for a break up. remember dear
2007-01-12 22:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is not interested in resolving the issue.
2007-01-12 20:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lynne. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he's not interested in solving the problem. But that's sad if it were to be true..n
2007-01-12 20:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋