Ive known her for a year, recently we started dating however she wants to be married in the Temple. Both must be Mormon to do that..Im Christian but not devout.I love her very much but her religion is a hard pill to swallow. Im torn.
2007-01-12 20:13:47 · 26 answers · asked by sleepthief 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I wouldnt follow a Faith that you dont hold dear in your heart. You'll just have t break it to your gf.
2007-01-12 20:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Darktania 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If she must convert you, then I would say the relationship is not going to work. If you want to convert yourself, then all power to you.
I am Mormon, but my wife is agnostic; we have been married coming on 4 years and are very happy. However, we entered into the relationship knowing that each believed differently and that we respect each other regardless. Of course, we were unable to marry in the Temple, but that was a choice I made because I loved my wife so much (I knew I was giving up many things we believe in the Mormon faith). I go to church weekly and she respects that decision. Of course, religion will always be an extra hurdle, but one we knew we would face. When our son gets older I'm sure issues will arise. But, we will talk through our problems and continue to show respect. Follow your heart and do things for the right reason.
God does come first for me, and I tell my wife this, and she accepts that. Good luck.
2007-01-16 11:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor is a Mormon woman married to a Catholic man. She still goes to her church every weekend. My brother-in-law converted to my sister's religion after 15 years of marriage, because he was sincere about it. If your gf's faith is not to your liking, it would be a false conversion. Don't convert just to please her. If she makes this a "test" of your love, then you can tell her the "test" is, if she loves you enough, she can stay Mormon but not marry in the Temple.
She knew you weren't Mormon when she started dating you, so she wants you to change. You should marry someone who accepts you and loves you just as you are. If her faith was that important to her, she shouldn't have dated a non-Mormon in the first place. You don't marry everyone you date, but you date the person you will marry, so if there's something that she won't marry, like a non-Mormon, she shouldn't date people who don't fit her criteria.
2007-01-13 05:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest misconceptions in the world are these:
If you love someone you should marry them.
Love will conquer all.
Love is the only thing you need.
there are boatloads of people that I could love but could never marry for various reasons. Religious differences are HUGE!
Here's the problem: She believes that in order to be with you forever and to recieve all the blessi ngs in the next life that you have to be mormon and she has to be married to you in the temple.
She believes that to be a good mormon she should contribute 10% of her income (and your income for that matter) to the church.
She believes your sons should serve as missionaries for 2 years (currently about $400 per month).
The list goes on. I think it is VERY difficult to marry someone of a drastically different culture or religion. Mormonism is not an "easy" religion to belong to. It asks a lot of its members.
I suspect that one or the other of you will be sacrificing more than you're willing to if you continue in this relationship.
HOWEVER......I also believe that god leads individuals to truth who seek it. Let me ask you this question: If you were able to discover if the teachings of mormonism are true and that it is the one and only true church on earth, would you be willing to commit yourself to it's teachings and changing your life???
If the answer is Yes, then I would suggest contacting the missionaries and beginning a very deep, meaningful, and SINCERE search for truth.
If the answer is NO then I would suggest breaking up as soon as possible and letting both of you move on to more promising relationships.
2007-01-15 07:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ender 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she sticks with the Mormon church she'll either convert you or make your life a misery or both. The younger she is the more likely that she'll outgrow Mormonism. A very high quality woman is worth jumping through a few hoops to keep but as you probably know the Mormon church and Mormon in-laws can be rather intrusive.
2007-01-13 04:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't convert! I even consider the name mormon. Take away the "m" after "r" and what do you have? Here is a website that will tell you about the Mormons. Once you get on the page, click on "false religions" and go from there.
Try and get her to convert. If she really loves you she might.
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com
2007-01-13 04:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advise, do not marry her. Keep your faith, because it is the right one. Mormons are a cult, do not get involved. Satan like to come it that way. Stay away from it. Find someone who had the same beliefs as you. Yes Satan is tempting you and wants to see you give in. Stand firm and do not be diceived. Unless she is willing to become a Christian and follow the right path, have nothing to do with her.
2007-01-13 04:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Mormon is Christian too... If you really study it OPEN-MINDEDLY (or maybe slightly leaning towards it because of your girlfriend), I think you would find that it is very reasonable and understandable and you would like the religion. You should at least give it a shot.
BTW... How is this a question?
2007-01-14 14:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Beast8981 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you recently started dating, then why would you consider marrying her now?! I wouldn't marry her if you have to convert to a Mormon. As a Christian you need to stay strong in your faith.
2007-01-13 04:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you make this decision, it's essential that you understand that Mormons aren't Christian. I know they believe they are--since their church has his name in it and they have the Book of Mormon "another testament of Christ..." --but when you look at who they believe Jesus is, it becomes apparent.
Mormons believe that Jesus Christ: was just like you, me, and Satan before we came to earth. (That we were all spirit brothers and sisters up in heaven.) They'll say that Jesus died for our sins, but they really believe that his grace only saves you AFTER EVERYTHING YOU DO-- So, essentially, they believe that you're saved by your works. They believe that Jesus is a very separate person from God and the Holy Ghost--that all three are separate. Meaning: They believe in multiple Gods or they believe that Jesus isn't God--I'm yet to get a straight answer from them on the topic. They believe that God was once man and that righteous LDS members will eventually become Gods over their own worlds. They believe that God and Jesus are made of flesh and bone AND literally look like you and me.
So, for starters, you need to decide if you're willing to give up everything you believe as a Christian for love. Which is more important in the long run? Then, you need to start talking to her about Mormonism. Show her who the true Jesus of the Bible is. Show her what his mission was truly about. Most of all, pray for her.
My high school friend started talking to me about Mormonism and helping me understand what true Christianity looks like. We've now been married for almost 5 years.
Prayer is the best thing you can do. next, inform yourself about Mormonism. Lastly, talk with her. E-mail me if you need any tips on how to speak with her and which subjects to tackle. With God, anything is possible.
http://www.carm.org/mormon.htm
http://www.utlm.org/
2007-01-14 15:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by applesoup 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, her god would know that you're not sincere in your mormon believes so what's the point of converting? I suppose her family is not going to accept you if you don't convert and that's probably why she wants you to convert?
2007-01-13 05:54:57 · answer #11 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋