never helped you clean, cook, take care of the baby, and went as far as making you bring him glasses of water when he's fully capable to, and makes you get all his stuff ready for the next morning? and then told you that it's all your job because he works 8 hours a day? What if you'd been with him for 5 years and he was only recently like this?
2007-01-12 20:09:38 · 19 answers · asked by lynn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may feel like that is your job if you don't work. If you don't work then he may feel like he is bringing home the money and you aren't helping at all so now he is expecting this. I personally do not work and i do all of that for my husband. I feel like it is the least i can do since i do not work. That's also just how i was raised is to "take care" of my husband. If you cant deal with it though then talk to him about it. If you don't work however then you need to suck it up. Don't you think you should contribute in some way?
2007-01-12 20:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay with him, BUT I would probably leave him for a short while, at tell him that you're not coming home until he can start helping himself, or at least learn to appreciate the things that you do for him. Do not like him make you think that it's your job, especially if you have kids and you take care of young ones all day also. Being a stay at home mom is harder than working 8 hours. I've been there, done that, on both sides. Stay at home women's jobs are never finished, at least he gets to take off after 8 hours.
I have actually do that myself. My ex called begging me back and finally realized the importance of what I did after only a few days.
2007-01-13 04:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set him straight right away. The longer he gets away with it the worse it will get. Next time he asks for a glass of water say...hang on a minute, I'm busy right now. And then conveniently forget about it. Keep doing that until he gets the message. As far as cleaning goes, just clean up after yourself and the baby and let him pick up his own crap. Or you could hire a cleaning lady (I actually did that at one point) its amazing how quick he will help if he has to pay someone!
2007-01-13 04:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I've been through that. It's not 5 years - it's 26 years and he complaint all the time. And yes, he works 8 hours some time more, but so do I. My work never stopped - not until bed time. I stuck through it all because I have promised to love til death do us part. He finally asked me for a divorce because I stopped serving him.
2007-01-13 04:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he MAKE you do these things? Does he hold a gun to your head? Are you this weak and stupid. I don't mean to hurt you but if you do these things for him you are setting yourself up for this kind of treatment. You should have never started it. Stop now! Be a woman. Your work never ends. If he does not start respecting you and I doubt that he will I would leave the bastard. Maybe if you gradually change he will too. Good luck and please get some self respect.
2007-01-13 04:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a stay-at-home mom, yea. I am not a women's libber. If he goes to work and brings home the bacon, yea. If you have to go out of the home to work and are expected to do all, leave a note somewhere and tell him that if he doesn't take care of himself, you are gone. You are not his mommy. Most men are little boys at heart. When you marry, you do not marry that muscular, handsome, man that you think you are. He is going to be on the same level as your children. Most will agree.
2007-01-13 04:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always tougher if you've been together awhile. Yes he should help, not just out of concern for you, but because he wants to. You need, I think, more romance in your relationship (marriage?) He will respect you more, and be willing to listen to you. I hope though that you haven't laid all the responsibility of bring home the bacon on him though.
2007-01-13 04:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt, but if you want to save the relationship then you need to tell him to stop now or you will leave. If its cuz your not working then go get a job then he should stop because your working as well.
2007-01-13 04:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by JENNIFER C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THAT IS THE ONLY THING THAT HE IS DOING TO YOU THAN I WOULD STAY, BUT THE WAY THAT YOU ARE LIVING WIL GET OLD VERY FAST, SO IF I WERE YOU I WOULD THINK ABOUT TRYING TO COME TO SOME KIND OF COMPROMISE YOU CANT LIVE IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE YOU WILL GROW TO RESENT HIM, OR HATE HIM
2007-01-13 04:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby's father is a jerk! and you should not allow him to walk all over u like this. 5 years? wow
2007-01-13 04:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by i luv u all :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋