If my bf cheated on me (not physically-or so he says!) for a long time, right from the beginning of our relationship do you think he would do it again now that ive caught him (and he seems to be really trying hard to fix things between us) and do you think im making a big deal about nothing considering it was just e-mails and text messages?
2007-01-12 20:02:06 · 24 answers · asked by Bubz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's really serious, he won't. But it is possible he would. n
2007-01-12 20:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him again. Having been with a cheater in the past, my experience has been that a cheater will say and do almost anything to fix things "for the moment." He may have good intentions "at the moment," but he will most likely go back to his old ways after a while if you stay with him because, for one thing, he was "cheating" in the first place because he liked it and wanted to, and he knew at the time he was deceiving you-- you only disrupted his game, HIS game, which he plays by his own rules and which is most likely a comfortable pattern for him. He didn't admit to you after "one time" what he did, he kept doing it until you busted him, and NOW he's "sorry". For another thing, he would know already what he can get away with, being with you, and he would probably go even further, perhaps more secretively, just for the thrill of possibly getting away with it. You aren't making too big a deal of it. He disrespected you and your relationship together and he broke your trust and faith in him. You don't know what else he's done, which is obvious from what you stated yourself. You should never have to wonder. Respect yourself more than that. You could be risking catching an STD from him, to say the least. You don't know. Without trust, honesty, and openness and communication, there is no real relationship, at least not the loving kind that can possibly endure with nurturing. Do you think he really deserves another chance with you?
2007-01-13 04:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters are stupid people that are missing something in the relationship they currently have.
This relationship could possibly not work now that the trust between the two of you has been severed. There are certain points in relationships when things go too far and that is when there is nothing but a steady fall from grace.
He is possibly trying to fix things between the both of you because of the fact that getting over you will be too hard for him to handle. Otherwise he is really trying to make it work.(Slim chance though, that depends on where he wants to go with his life.)
If he has been doing it since the beginning, he will have no issue doing it again, only this time, he has to be sneakier.
Where do you see yourself going in this relationship?
Remember that Emails and Text messages are still forms of communications. Think about it.
2007-01-13 04:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Eidolon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but, yes, he'll do it again. The reason I say this is because if he only stopped if you caught him, he'd still be doing it. Emails & texts seem innocent right now but, if someone is getting away with something, they will get bolder and bolder and eventually just physically cheat. Find a guy who is honest and doesn't feel the need to talk to other girls behind your back. Unless you want to be disrespected again, drop him like the wannabe player he is.
2007-01-13 04:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are built on trust, so the big question is do you trust him now. Now he knows how you feel and he is trying to fix things do you feel happier around him. If you still have issues with this, and can't move on, end the relationship now
2007-01-13 04:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know it was not physical? You only have his word for that. The word of a confessed cheater.
But anyway, back to your question. Of course he will do it again. He has been doing it for how long now (not just one isolated incident, I mean) and he has been getting away with it.
He may be trying to butter you up at the moment, but trust me, he will go back to his true self soon enough.
2007-01-13 04:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid so. Once trust has been broken, it rarely can be mended back. I can think of at least 3 to 4, cliche's right now that pertain to this. Start looking for someone else.
2007-01-13 04:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will! He'll be more careful next time - and e-mails and text messages will progress to more personal contact. Drop him - remember the 2 vital requirements for a loving relationship - honesty and trustworthiness. Without them you are wasting your time. That special someone is out there waiting for you to find him - go for it!! Go well, and God Bless!
2007-01-13 04:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's all he says is going on, but YES! he will do it again! My bf started out like that too, but a couple years later, it happened again and then i found out that the beginning had also included phone calls all night long, hand holding and such. ditch him and ditch him fast. you need a guy that is true!! don't torture yourself and get more attached, trust me. It hurts worse the longer you let it go and he can't change.
2007-01-13 04:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by lynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this, but more likely he will do it again, cos he'd been cheating on you for a long time so it wasnt a sudden fall for temptation. Or, you'll feel unsecure about him flirting with other girls.
2007-01-13 04:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by Fallen&Broken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a strong belief, nothing stopped you from cheating the first time, why would the second be any different? if he gives you a good answer, maybe he means it, or hes desperate, i would have to say dont take him back, you deserve better.
2007-01-13 04:07:01 · answer #11 · answered by panicatthediscoobsessed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋