I love the way my parents raised me but my son is there only grandchild so of course they are soft on him when it comes to discipline as grandparents are but i feel like he is starting to walk all over me cause i am the only one dishing out the punishment i know the best thing to do would be to move out but financially i cant afford it right now and i know they love having us here but i dont want this to affect our relationship either what should i do to show my son that i love him and im not the bad guy but am still his mum and deserve respect. HELP.
2007-01-12 19:41:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You really need to talk to your parents and explain your situation and what you are coming from. explain that you think their soft treatment is completely ruining the effect that your punishments would otherwise have. They can always be the loving grandparents, but if they know he is doing something that is against the rules, or they see you have punished him for something, they shouldn't just let it "slip" or "love him better" after you've given the discipline. You are 100% in the right to not want your son to walk all over you, he is at just the right age to start learning what is right and what is wrong. If your parents try to pull the "but you turned out just fine and we weren't that hard on you" kind of excuse, just remind them that they did do a wonderful job on you, but you want to be able to raise your son with your rules and values and you want them to be supportive and reinforcing people in your and your son's raising. If you need to, go over situations that have happened that you had disciplined him and your parents didn't. Let them know what things are not allowed for your son and what is. They can be loving and wonderful grandparents while still being able to put their foot down too. your son will still love them just the same as he does now. He might be shocked at first, but then he will most likely take it even more seriously that what he did was bad which will help nip that behavior in the butt that much faster. Just sit down and have a heart to heart but don't go at an approach that makes it their "fault". just explain what you want and need for your son and they will listen!! Good luck!
2007-01-12 19:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Make the rule and consistently remind everyone that when you are home, you are "in charge" and handle the childcare. When you are out, whomever is watching him makes the rules. This way you have the authority when you are home and they still have the opportunity to spoil him a little. It's normal for kids to get away with stuff when they are with their grandparents. You also should consider a set punishment for common infractions so that when you are home, but he does something that requires attention in front of the grandparents, they don't have to go get you to punish him....that would undermine their authority as much as them overriding you does to yours. Good Luck.
2007-01-13 00:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Michele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might particularly stay in a dumpster than circulate returned in with my mothers and dads. lol What are you saving the money for? while you're saving as much as purchase a house or to pay for college then i might say that's ok as a non everlasting concern. yet once you purely opt to have greater spending funds, then no. that's properly previous time to stand on your guy or woman 2 ft and stay on your guy or woman place. you will possibly no longer have the skill to bypass out and social gathering like a rock megastar each and every weekend, yet that's area of being an grownup. as properly, isn't it a sprint awkward bringing a "chum" abode for the night with mom and dad watching television interior the subsequent room? lol
2016-10-07 02:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I't's a bad job but someone has to do it. Your child will not love you less. Maybe more. Kids need rules, they really want them. Tell your parents to stick to your rules. The most important at least. As for you, let go, just a little. ;-)
2007-01-12 20:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents to give you some space in disciplining your child or else he will not listen to you especially if they are being nice and you are the only one trying to teach him something.
2007-01-12 19:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by CR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the "bad guy" is actually helping the child become a good citizen and well-liked by his peers. This isn't about being "cool" to your kid but preparing them for life.
2007-01-12 19:46:04 · answer #6 · answered by Greed...Is Good 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u know u r the head he can see that...don move out it'l only ruin things.there should be ppl who dont just want deciepline.
i mean c'mon he is just a yr old.
quit being so hard to him.
2007-01-12 21:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by tonima 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is tough... your parents need to back off. I know that grandparents find it really hard, but they need to be quiet and leave the room if they can't just back off when they are in the way. You need to talk to them, polietly and firmly.
2007-01-12 19:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
HI, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU PUNISH HIM HE WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU. TRAY TO TELL YOUR PARENTS THAT HE IS YOUR CHILD AND YOU WILL PUNISH HIM THE WAY YOU SEE FIT. THEY NEED TO HELP YOU ON THIS.
2007-01-12 22:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, good for your parents for allowing you to raise your own child.
it could be different. they could be trying to raise him for you.
keep doing what you are doing. you are doing a good job! he'll understand when he needs to.
2007-01-12 23:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋