I'm living with my husband's family. My parents in law keep telling me what to do wit my 4 month old daughter. Every single thing even how to feed, how to put on her clothes, and not to do this , not to do that. My mother in law said" she is 4 month, we should feed her whatever we eat to have her immune system get used to it so she won't get stomach ache later." They just invlove whatever I do. If I tell my husband to let them know I'm not happy wit it and he'll get mad at me, tell me that I don't love them and disrespect them. What can I do?
thank u
2007-01-12 19:11:06 · 11 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I asked him to move out lots of times but he rejected. " who gonna live with my parents when my sister get married? who gonna help them with the renting? sorry, i'll never move out." his parents and sis are working too.
2007-01-12 19:27:36 · update #1
definately look into getting yourself out of that house and into your own.
tell them thank you for all the wonderful advice--but you'd rather follow what the doctor says.
dont you dare start a 4 month old on anything! your babys tummy is not ready to eat what you eat.
dont ever introduce anything until you ask babys doctor first.
as for the other stuff just smile, say 'oh-thank you why didnt I think of that' & continue to do the thing just like you were going to.
eventually they'll get the hint.
yeesh-as for hubby, it's time he gets a spine and gets you out of that house so you can both live your lives with your baby
2007-01-12 19:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult position to be in. It is something you need to address carefully. What I recommend is getting sound medical advise (even if you already think what shes suggesting isn't right) just so that you can say back to her "Thank you ____ I appreciate your advise, HOWEVER Dr _____ reccommends blah blah" instead and state the reasons why. If you have firm backing from someone with sound medical and dietary knowledge, your MIL can't argue with it or make you feel like you're doing anything wrong. FWIW (I'm not a nutritionist) your immune system has nothing to do with your digestive system! Yes, a variety of foods is good but babies need to be introduced to new food types gradually as their digestive system can take time to accustom itself and babies have different nutritional requirements to grown adults or older children. When you can just "smile and nod" to what your MIL suggests and go with what you decide is best anyhow. Good luck, I don't envy your position!
2007-01-12 19:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by whoaanna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm old enough to know how these things happen. I've heard a lot of women who had to speak out to husbands. Most of them had to make a decision. In or out. You have to live on your own, you your husband and child. . Or you will be unhappy. He'll have to understand sooner or later. Be strong, You can do it.
2007-01-12 19:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband should move out if possible. He's obviously not going to tell them anything. If you can't move out then you need to talk to your in-laws let them know that you don't need them interfering in everything. Tell them you really appreciated it but you would like to learn how to take care of your child by yourself. This might cause problems but your husband should be by your side. After all you are his baby's mother... Tell him to give you some support!!
2007-01-12 19:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by CR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to back off its your child not theirs, their job is to be grandparents... in a respectful way as possible. Its not an issue of loving or respecting your in-laws, they are not loving or respecting you! Tell your husband to grow up and get out from under his parents thumb, get you your own house and tell the in-laws to mind their own business. Talk to them directly so there is no miscommunication. They might not realise what they are doing or how belittling it is.
2007-01-12 19:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Noota Oolah 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to move. Tell them thanks for the help .....but it is your baby........And feeding a baby adult food is the Wrong thing to do ....it will cause all kinds of digestion problems in the future.....good luck
2007-01-12 19:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Chris B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out its just going to keep happening seriously it personal experience and u r just going to be miserable not to mention when your baby grows up it going to be even worse respect issues and everithing
2007-01-12 19:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by revolution 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out asap
2007-01-12 19:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are living with them free, shut up and do what they say or tell them the doctor doesnt agree with them about eating regular food yet. get out of there as soon as you can and live like adults.
2007-01-12 19:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
who did he marry you or him i would tell him or me then start hiding money and try to find away to get out make him choose
2007-01-12 19:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by fire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋