need relationship advice!?

Question

have you ever wanted someone so much that it physically hurt? i had a crush on my best friend since the 6th grade, i am currently a sophmore in College. we became really close, we trusted each other which is not as easy for me to do with anyone. i developed a crush on her, and i told her in the 9th grade, i spilled my guts, put myself on the line. she rejected me. for years i watched her jump from boyfriend to bf. and she had the worst taste in men, woman abusers, drug addicts, alcoholics and general guys who didn't care emotionally. i felt like sh_it, it stopped me dead in my tracks, i blamed myself. it's funny, i would always leave her roses at her door that i planted and grew, i stayed up with her all night when she was fighting with her boyfriend, telling her it's not her fault and she deserves better. to be honest i would have given my life to save hers. i don't know, i just feel like s_hit all the time now. i chased her for 9 years only to have my heart smashed and handed back.

Answer 1

i dont quite know how to say how i feel

Answer 2

I know what you mean by wanting someone so much it physically hurt. I actually got to date the girl of my dreams for three years in high school. Shortly after we graduated she left me for some guy twice our age, but I've never stopped loving her - and that was thirty years ago.
I've loved and lost since then and I've been married now for going on 19 years and have a beautiful 19 year old daughter. But, that first true love still has a hold on me.
I know it is hard to see now but it is time for you to move on. Because of the duration and strength of your feelings you'll never really forget her, but you need to get away and establish a new life for yourself with new friends. Don't let this stop you from loving. Instead learn from this that you can't keep holding on to a dream that will never come true.
I wish you luck and hope that you do find that someone who can return such love with equal ferver.

Answer 3

it happens always honey

u can realise good only when u've crossed the BAD!!!!!
u can find sweet only after tasting the bitter!!!!

and as its said :
we always love the 1 who leaves
and leave the 1 who loves

she has taken u 4 granted she doesn realis ur importanc oz she has nvr gone thru the phase whn u were nt beside her

leav her 4 a while n let her realis what she is losin only then shall she realis ur importance and RUN BAC 2 u n embrace u 4ever


its said :
if u lov sum1 set it free
if they *** bac they r all urs
if they doesn they were nvr meant 4.......

dont lose heart if she doesn *** bac 2 u oz may b the 2 of u r nt Compatible n its neither of u who is at fault 4 it!!!! evry1 is nt meant 4 evry1

Answer 4

I don't know how to tell you to move on, but I can tell you how important it is to let go and not spend your life wanting this girl, as much as you love her. I held on for years, over ten, to the one guy I felt so close to. But now, at 36, I release how stupid and self damaging it was to hold onto that destructive love and miss opportunities that passed my way.
Love will come to you, a love so warm and freeing you will be stronger emotionally to be a great friend to this girl, which seems to me to be what she needs more than love. I have witnessed that those who date the bad seed often have self esteem issues that may even stem so far back they will always be un reachable. Move on, as much as it tears from your heart. Be her friend, don't be her savior. We can only save ourselves! Wish you luck in life and love. Keep safe, laugh heaps, love lots and enjoy you and yours.

Answer 5

yeah, you need to move on, if she reaches an epiphany where she realizes her past mistakes of dating all those guys, then she'll come back to you, she'll want you because you treat her better than the rest of those guys. Date some other women, see if it makes her jealous or something, if it doesn't, you two probably were only meant to be friends.

Answer 6

Im somewhat in the same thing. I would have to say , talk to her again your both older now and she might be thinking the same thing. You can wait for her but remeber that you shouldnt wait for her long. Follow your heart but you might end up getting feelings for someone else.

Answer 7

dude I've been there. look your putting the pussy on a pedestals. stop chasing her have fun with other girls. then you will also find out that girl don't like to be ignored and not felt like they are number one they get jealous and self doubting. once she sees you have a few relationships she will stat being interested in you, guarantee it! until then have fun with the hood rats!

Answer 8

i would have to say if you have'nt tried recently to get with her then tell her exactly how you feel and that you would do anything for her and if she still doesn't take the chance then move on i know it's hard to do but if she is not interested then it is not orth wasting anymore time on chasing someone that doesn't like you that way

Answer 9

okay dude...maybe im not the best person to tell you this mostly cause im kinda their...but it seems like youve been through more things than me so my best advice is try as much as it hurt s you try to get over her....try not to spend as much time with her....and open your eyes to other girls trust me they're out there but sometimes wen we like someone we blind oue selves to other ppl....i hope that helped....e-mail me if it did.....thank you (:

Answer 10

the best thing is to move on...she doesnt seem to be worth giving urself to her....u just have to move on...dont waste ur time over sumone who wouldnt care enough for u !!

Answer 11

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