Is it over ? Help me I m so sad ! :(?

Question

Hii...

As advised by most of you people I finally asked her out for a movie over phone,, could not do it in person since we do not meet that often... we work at the same place

Well she said she has plans for today & has already planned for a movie next day... Dont know I am so sad :( ...

I really want to keep on trying because I like her so much... but I m really depressed today.. Please plaese help me what to do ! :(

Answer 1

Her weekend was already planned and getting depressed will not help. She wont be impressed if you sound like a sad sack.

Call her Monday and make a date for a night that week. Let her pick which night. If she turns you down again just say ok if you are ever interested in going out give me a call. Then back off.
Then do not sit around waiting for her to call. Find someone else to ask out. The last thing you need to be doing is sitting around looking desperate, it doesnt impress women at all.

Answer 2

I can understand how you feel right now, and there's probably nothing anyone can say that'll help how you feel, but it doesn't seem like she knows you enough to ask her out over the phone since you two don't meet that often (even though you work together).

I don't know what your current relationship is like, but maybe if you were sending out "good friend" or "great work buddy" signals instead of "sexual alpha male", that could've hurt your chances.

You need lead-time (an opening relationship full of signals and flirting) before asking her out...and it needs to be in person unless you have history together. Otherwise, it seems like dating a buddy or an acquaintance, and they'll just as easily do that with their girlfriends.

Well...she now knows how you feel. Its not too late. It is always important to take action for what you want. Next, you need to show that you are dating material. Don't keep annoying her about it until you show her that you are a good catch.

If there are other ladies at your workplace, get some heavy flirting going on with them to polish your skills and show her what she's missing...she has to see that you are desirable in order to be so in her eyes (hell, that's the way we all work).

In the end, maybe she's genuinely not interested...and that's alright too! That's why we continue the hunt.

Answer 3

If you like a girl you have to ask her at least a week in advance if you want a date with her. She has a life. her life does not stand still and only begin when you suddenly take an interest in her. Call her Monday morning and ask her to a movie on Friday . That's how it works anyway people who expect people to drop their plans just cause they decide to ask the person on a date on short notice are inconsiderate.

Answer 4

You ask once in a sincere nice way and if thats the last straw and they say no or something else you must move on you cant make someone love you. I know its hard i had the same thing happen to me

Answer 5

Lay off for a while, impress her a little or leave a good impression on her and ask again. Woo her on the date and you'll be set, if it's a mediocre date she won't come back, if she really had fun she'll want more.

Answer 6

You should try one more time to ask her out. Next week, call her and ask her out for a week in advance. If she still says "no," then I'd take the hint and look for another girl to date.

Answer 7

I think you should discover the dating line.You go find a chix and flirt with her at work tell the girl ahead and thenboom there she is the girl you dreamed of there at a movie.Maybe a romantic movie!

Answer 8

Thats rough man.
If you cant bite the bullet .
You show her that you cant show your emotions and be ok with who you are.
Some girls are hard to approach because they like the ball in there court and they know have it.
Confidence. be yourself and be a freind first.
go slow. she will see how good of a person you are.

Answer 9

well, my friend .... I can tell you are probably a really nice, sensitive guy ... that is good, cuz girls love guys like that a lot. Lets talk about your girl for a moment, ok? ....... ughhhhh ..... you need to understand that for her to go somewhere with you, she has to have enough interest in you FIRST, and we have not established that yet .....

how does she act when you try to talk to her at work? She MUST show you some indicators that show some level of interest FIRST if she is going to go somewhere with you, ok? ... this is something called BODY LANGUAGE. It is time you learn about it ....

INTEREST [in you] looks something like this:

- she faces you directly when talking with you
- her body faces your body (chest to chest) when she talks to you or answers your questions.
- she has bright, happy eyes when she first sees you
- she instigates conversation with you and asks questions of you
- she smiles at you
- she finds reasons to be in places where you will also be

now ... do you see these things happening? I got a hunch you do not. If she turns her face away from you ... and her body faces away from you while you are trying to talk to her ..... she is not interested. Sorry .... but .... that is the way this works .... If this is the case ... you really should think about finding a girl that does show interest in you ..... ok? (^-^)

IF she DOES show interest in you ... then you have to have a starting point, and going to the movies is not it, in my experience. A short lunch lasting no more than an hour is the perfect starting point, because after lunch is over, you will know enough to know if you are interested in her ... and she with you by the way she looks and acts with you ( a girls eyes often say more than her mouth) .... If all goes very well ... THEN try the movies ..... This plan should work well for you .....

Something else to think about now ... is that you have already tipped your hand and now there is no doubt that you like her, right???? You are going to have to play it real cool at work from now on. If you are acting too interested, she may get more turned off (hard to explain .. just trust me on this) .... JUST BE COOL. Be careful ... cuz now you are forced to play your cards [with her] VERY carefully ..... It would have been far better to have developed her interest in your first ... but instead, you already tipped your hand ..... this now becomes a more awkward situation for you in order to win her ...... kinda hard to explain ....

I know you are sad .... I can totally understand your feelings. This is life ... it happens to all of us sooner or later ..... ok? I have the feeling that you may have to wait for the next girl to come along. That might be next week .. no one knows ...... right? (^-^) You are ok ... just got to find the right girl .....

good luck in the days ahead ....

Answer 10

Theres lots a fish in the sea. If you can't catch the one you want, you can always sit around with your pole in your hand.