If you where with a guy, found out he was gay, but he still wanted to be with you(so that his family didn't look down on him) what would you do? We're also the best of friends. I would do almost anything for him.
2007-01-12 18:29:21 · 22 answers · asked by L♥G 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello Chick, It is okay to still be "the best of friends" but keep in mind that your life does not end. If you find someone in your life who asks you to marry and it is someone you truly love then go for it. But i do not want his family coming down on you hard just because they thought you were going to eventually settle with their son. When really the only thing he was doing was using you as a cover up so his parents didnt find out he was gay. Just let his parents know from time to time that you are "just friends" so they do not get the wrong idea. Take care and have a great night.
2007-01-12 18:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
support him, and I'd personally do it, but have him tell everyone that you are in an open relationship.....so you can be with other men, and it not look TO bad.....
also support him in coming out, try joining some kind of PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays).....if you 2 live together, tell him to come out, no matter what his family says, he will have a home with you his "Sister"......encourage him to find a boyfriend and become more active in the gay scene (and no that doesn't mean clubbing and hot rooms, lol)
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duh, guys, if he's GAY, he isn't exactly going to be having sex with her, the "relationship" would be a front to keep other people from guessing the real truth.....jeeze, go gather some commen sense!
2007-01-13 02:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said "almost". You would do ALMOST anything for him. So think about it. Is this what you really want? I know you want to help out your friend, but this could be awkward. It may even lead to ruining your friendship. Also, he should be open with his parents, because even if they are shocked, and don't approve, they are still his parents, and will accept him. It will just take time. I hope this helped. :]
2007-01-13 02:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by softball002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats not a hard question,if he is gay ,and just wants to be with you because he will look good in his family,s eyes he is using you to hide the fact he is gay.....He will sooner or later have to come out and tell his family,it will shock them but they will still love him...Its ok to stay friends with him but I would not play his game that is something he needs to deal with..I would go ahead and get a boyfriend and just be friends with him....Im sure he does really like you and you him but its never going to lead to anything other than friendship and I would tell him that but you don,t have to pretend just to hide his secret....
2007-01-13 02:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to help him, maybe you could talk to him about coming out to his family. I know you care about him but, if you live a lie like that, you are putting your life on hold. Let him know that no matter what, you are there for him.
2007-01-13 02:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would honor the "friendship" and encourage him to be honest with his family. If he can do that, then problem solved. If he can't, then I would honor myself enough to not compromise my own personal integrity by getting involved with someone just so his family wouldn't think poorly of him.
Think more highly of yourself, girl!!
2007-01-13 02:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience ,do you know who makes best friends ?
gay guys , There's no competition who's' got the bigger ---- and the prettiest .
stick with your friend ,you don't have to worry about sex after a date.you can just talk about guys .
2007-01-13 02:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friend that he should NOT be using you to avoid the issue of his gay lifestyle. It's one thing to be friends. It's entirely different to be USED. I don't understand why you would allow that.
2007-01-13 02:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend but don't block yourself. Tell him if that's what he wants then it's all on him. Don't set out to help him hide his sexuality. But do be there for him. As a friend you owe it to him and yourself to talk about it and help him to 'find' himself and be comfortable with it. If he wants to lie, let him lie but don't you help the lie. It will only make things worse when the 'day' comes.
2007-01-13 02:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lulu 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
THE GUY NEEDS HELP. U COULD HELP HIM BECOME NORMAL GAY IS JUST A SEXUAL ATTITUDE OWING TO CIRCUMSTANCES AND SOME GENES.
IF HE STILL LIKES TO BE GAY DO NOT MARRY HIM LET HIM LEARN TO FEND 4 HIMSELF.
2007-01-13 02:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by KOHLI V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋