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My boyfriend and I have been talking about sex for the past four day. Since Im on break we havent seen eachother for weeks. Thats why we have been on the phone. Well when we first started talking about it I started getting more desperate about it. Some reason it all went away. I feel like hes getting obsessed with sex. He always wants to talk about it, I always ask can we talk about something besides sex? I told him I dont want to get use to just talking to him about sex. I know he loves me and doesnt want to just use me for sex. For some reason, Its just not exciting to talk about it anymore. What happend?

2007-01-12 18:26:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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He should see and respect you more as the person you are than as a sexual object.
If sex in a relationship doesn't stay as something "special" to show the deep love to each other, it can become something ordinary like having breakfast.
If your bf really loves you, he should not talk only about his needs. Make a suggestion that you would like to talk about your feelings and see how he reacts on that.

2007-01-12 18:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by kengoller 3 · 0 0

Sounds like he's in a rush to experiment on pleasure. He's probably going through teenage hormone changes and if he can use you to assist him, he'll stop at nothing. Continue to change the conversation, unless you are anxious to lose your virginity to sex only. I say "wait for true love". The kind that becomes marriage down the road. Have patience and wait. A gentleman will respect you if you waited for your wedding night. You will feel better. So, finish school, get good grades and all will pay off for you down the road. You're too young to get involved in sexual encounters - just because there's an urge to get it on.

2007-01-13 02:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Ms-No-It-All 4 · 0 0

You have only had this bf for 13 days and all he talks about is sex? Tell him to slow down. If he is not a virgin, he is not the right person for you right now. When he brings up the sex thing tell him you have to hang up and do it. Don't worry that "it is not exciting anymore" it isn't suppose to be at your age.

2007-01-13 02:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0 0

If the excitement about sex has gone away like that maybe you became turned off by something he said or did. Or maybe you became too busy in your life. Or even maybe you took the time to satisfy yourself some other way and you no longer have that burning desire like before.

Something took place and now the thrill about sex is gone. Give it time to come back, but if it doesn't then it wasn't meant for you to have sex with him.

2007-01-13 02:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0 0

You have to remember here; you're talking to the opposite sex; that's mostly what's on their mind, regardless how they try to deny it. I know how you're feeling, though; when you constantly hear it, it's like, "Chill, Give it a break!" It's more exciting when you imagine it and are not ALWAYS talking about it.

2007-01-13 02:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0 0

Well in a relationship it shouldn't be all about sex. You're probably tired of it and want to talk about other things besides sex... n

2007-01-13 02:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0 0

It got old, you grew up some and he didn't. Normal just try to redirect it everytime he mentions it.....when he starts talking about it say ....SO how was your day? and if he says something again....Did you get a good dinner today? Don't get mad just redirect it, maybe he will take the hint since you have already told him directly and it didn't work. Good Luck!

2007-01-13 02:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0 0

well he should understand if he really cares about you. maybe at first you just found it exciting and made you curious but later you just weren't as excited about it anymore because he kept on talking about it and you wanted to talk about other things like catching up for the weeks you haven't seen each other.

2007-01-13 02:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by kowalley 5 · 0 0

Well, you answered your own questions in a sense. Since he always wants to talk about it, it is cheapening its value. It probably seems more like he is into you more for the sex, than for yourself. So, you probably are pushing away a bit.

2007-01-13 02:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by Katie Poo 2 · 0 0

Because your having a reality check in your conscience and in your heart that he is only thinking about having sex with you and not thinking about you the way he should which is to Love,Honor,Cherish,Trust and to Communicate with you. Try following my 5 biblical principles for finding that true guy that will love you for who you are inside first than out! Ask Yourself does he?:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. If he continues to ask you about getting some then he is not honoring your mind, body and soul. Then it's time to do what your heart and conscience is telling you to do...maybe its time for a guy that does honor you! God Bless!

2007-01-13 02:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

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